How To Give And Receive Constructive Criticism

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How To Give And Receive Constructive Criticism

• Proverbs 276

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Introduction

• Matthew 71-5
• We may need some help to remove that beam.
• Proverbs 276 Faithful are the wounds of a
  friend
• Romans 154
• Sometimes it takes courage to warn or instruct a
  person so that are built up spiritually.

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Biblical Instructions

• Proverbs 121, 15
• Proverbs 2312
• Proverbs 1318
• Proverbs 2512
• Ephesians 415

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Biblical Instructions

• All Of Us Are Imperfect
• Husbands wives, parents / children, etc. need
  help from each other.
• Proverbs 162
• The problem isnt criticism, but destructive
  criticism!
• Criticism must build up and
• not tear down!

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How To Criticize Constructively

• Choose your setting carefully Timing is
  everything!
• Do so after a meal and not when hungry.
• Esther
• Criticize in private praise in public!
• Consider the others feelings!
• How do you know when it is ok?
• You Ask.
• Dont share until you are sure
• the other person is ready!

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H.A.L.T.

• Never Criticize when the other is
• Hungry
• Angry
• Lonely
• Tired

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Dont Give An Overdose

• A common failure is to pour it on!
• Overdosing kills the motivation to change
• Suggestion Only 1 criticism per week.
• That ought to be enough. Thats 52 per year.
• Most dont realize how critical theyve become
• Proverbs 179
• CRITICISM FAST!
• Easy Answer?
• Ask for criticism occasionally

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Couple Criticism With Compliments

• Revelation 21-4 Notice 31 ratio
• To the angel of the church of Ephesus
  write, 'These things says He who holds the seven
  stars in His right hand, who walks in the midst
  of the seven golden lampstands 2 "I know your
  works, your labor, your patience, and that you
  cannot bear those who are evil. And you have
  tested those who say they are apostles and are
  not, and have found them liars 3 "and you have
  persevered and have patience, and have labored
  for My name's sake and have not become weary.
  4 "Nevertheless I have this against you, that you
  have left your first love
• The bitter pill of criticism can be swallowed
  much easier
• if first sugar coated with the medicine of
• sincere praise
• A spoon full of sugar helps the
• medicine go down - Mary Poppins

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Do You Receive Criticism Constructively?

• Recognize the hand of God Romans 828
• First Words Thank You I Thes 518
• Three reasons
• Said to your face
• If true - opportunity to change and grow
• If not - opportunity to correct misunderstanding
• Always ask What can I learn?
• Take Action If Possible!
• Never give same criticism two
• weeks in a row

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What About Things That Wont Change?

• I Peter 48 Love will cover a multitude of sins
• Some things you will need to accept!
• Otherwise, anger turns to bitterness depression

He who covers a transgression seeks love
Proverbs 179