EMOTIONAL SHRINKING, MORAL CONSEQUENCES MINDFUL STRATEGIES

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EMOTIONAL
SHRINKING,MORAL CONSEQUENCES MINDFULSTRATEGI
ES!
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GENERATION X 1961 - 1981
46 Million

• Influences MTV, Game Boy, PC, divorce rate
  triples, latch key children
• Characteristics resourceful, distrustful of
  institutions, highly adaptive to change and
  technology
• Creates desire for speed, fear of boredom and
  lack of impulse control

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GENERATION Y born 1982 2004
82 million
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THE MILLENNIALS

• Influences TECHNOLOGY, natural disasters,
  violence, war on terror, diversity
• Creates Global focus, realistic, cyber literate,
  personal safety a number 1 concern

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• One out of every eight couples married in 2007
  met online.
• According to the American Journal of Sociology
  (Sept. 1932), One third of all couples lived
  within five or less blocks of each other when
  they met.

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PHYSICAL DEVELOPMENT

• INFANT BRAIN
• Starts as fluid-filled neuronal tube
• Grows fast
• Neonate highly interactive

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Primitive Emotions Memory

• Group A
• Stress
• Aborted attempts
• Rape
• Domestic violence

• Group B
• Normal conditions
• Connected, wanted

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Early learning is effecting future well-being!
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EFFECTS EQATTACHMENT!
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TRUST
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What factors promote?

• RELATIONS
• CONNECTIONS
• ATTACHMENTS
• EQ
• EMOTIONAL MORAL DEVELOPMENT!

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THE BRAIN CELL
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• AS WE GROW
• Increase connections
• Develop Gray Matter
• Spring Clean!

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• BLOCKS - SLOW THINKING
• QUICK THREAT ASSESSOR
• FEEDS OUT UNTHINKING
• RESPONSE!

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ATTACHMENT

• Harry Harlow
• Monkey research

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GENERATION
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• GENERATION X (1961 1981)
• GENERATION Y (1982 2002)

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GENERATION X

• Influences MTV, Game Boy, PC, divorce rate
  triples, latch key children
• Characteristics resourceful, distrustful of
  institutions, highly adaptive to change and
  technology
• Creates desire for speed, fear of boredom and
  lack of impulse control

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THE MILLENNIALS

• Influences TECHNOLOGY, natural disasters,
  violence, war on terror, diversity
• Characteristics Globally concerned, realistic,
  cyber literate, personal safety is number one
  concern

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EMOTIONAL STUNTING

• Technology
• FAMILY
• Divorce
• Virtual worlds
• WORKPLACE
• Stress
• Violence, MH issues

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In the American Home

• Median age of 1st marriage 25/26 years old
• Median age of 1st divorce 29/30 years old
• 43 to 50 marriages end in divorce.
• of divorces due to irreconcilable differences
  80

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Every Work Day

• An estimated 16,400 threats are made
• 723 workers are attacked
• 43,800 are harassed
• One in four employees will be victimized by
  workplace violence
• Workplace homicides are increasing
• (Co-workers and former employees make up 59 of
  these killings.)

U.S. Dept. of Justice 1995 Workplace Violence
Research Institute - 2005
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Tech. Brought SPEED!

• WE WANT MORE - FAST

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HELICOPTER PARENTING
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HOW TIMES HAVE CHANGED

• The top seven discipline problems in public
  schools in the 1940s and the top seventeen
  problems in the 1980s

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1940s

• Talking
• Chewing gum
• Making noise
• Running in the halls
• Getting out of turn in line
• Wearing improper clothing
• Not putting paper in wastebaskets

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1980s

• 11. Murder
• 12. Absenteeism
• 13. Vandalism
• 14. Extortion
• 15. Gang War
• 16. Abortion
• 17. STDs

• Drug Abuse
• Alcohol Abuse
• Pregnancy
• Suicide
• Rape
• Robbery
• Assault
• Burglary
• Arson
• Bombings

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• SANDWICH GENERATION

• BOOMERANG GENERATION

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Emotional Intelligence

• By Daniel Goleman, Ph.D., 2005

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TECHNOLOGY AS A CATALYST

• Increased Frustration/Anger
• Less impulse control
• Less soothing via connection/attachment
• More Blame - Immaturity in Action!!

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Dimensions of Emotional Maturity

• Level of self confidence, self worth and self
  esteem.
• Ability to work independently or
  interdependently.
• Degree of personal honesty and integrity.
• Ability to express and feel appreciation towards
  self, others and environment.

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Use 2006 reports (TV council)

• Kids exposed to more violent content in kids
  shows than adults are in all of prime time.
• 5-10 yr. olds 7.86 adults 4.71
• With cartoon violence pulled out still 6.30

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Use 2006 Kaiser Family Foundation

• 4 in 10 children (42) live in a home where the
  TV set is on in the background most of the time
  even if no one is watching. More than half (58)
  live in homes where the TV is usually on during
  mealtimes.
• Among children age 8 and older, 56 have a TV in
  their bedroom, 45 have a video game player
  there, and 36 have a VCR.

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Emotional Open-ness/Assertiveness

• Virtual time, cell phones and text-ing inhibit
  face to face, human practice!

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• Prophecies of the mid-1990s about an informed,
  global society.

The world seems smaller because of personal
computers. Is it really? Certainly we access home
pages, or message people almost anywhere on the
globe. But have we genuinely become world
citizens? Do we interact internationally with
visitors more civilly now and respect their
cultural values more willingly, because of our
World Wide Web? Or do we visit sites that target
our lifestyles, ambitions, or needs? Do we speak
more languages because of email or chat more in
English than ever before?
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Emotional Maturity Assessment

• Score as follows
• Rarely 1 point
• Sometimes .5 point
• Often 0

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Millennials face challenges greater than any
generation faced before them. Verhaagen gives
advice to teach determination, problem-solving,
emotional smarts and resilience.
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SOLUTIONS

• TAKE STOCK!

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UTILITY

• What do we use technology for?
• Entertainment
• Information
• Communication
• Is it helpful or intrusive?

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Whose in your Home?
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TIME

• Do you save or waste time while using?
• When saved, how do you spend the spare time?

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IMPACT

• How does this impact your relationships?
• Does it blur boundaries?
• How much is spent per month on technology?

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HUMAN CONTACT!
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FACE TO FACE

• Builds relationships
• Fascine the connection
• Longer eye contact conveys more esteem
• and develops greater intimacy!

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Magical Thinking
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TOLERATE ANXIETY

• We either make ourselves miserable, or we make
  ourselves strong. The amount of work is the
  same. Carlos Castenda

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Appropriate Anger

• The only disability in life is a bad attitude
• Scott Hamilton

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Cope with Pain

• A baby expects to soothed, but a mature adult
  soothes themselves
• Kevin Everett FitzMaurice

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Face your Guilt

• Are you part of the problem or part of the
  solution? Anonymous

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Live with your Failures

• Adults are expert at self-disturbance and inept
  at self-soothing.
• Kevin Everett FitzMaurice

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Keep Perspective

• Life Happens!

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• Playwright Richard Foreman eloquently described
  whats at stake
• We risk turning into pancake people spread
  wide and thin as we connect with that vast
  network of information accessed by the mere touch
  of a button.

Taken from Nicholas Carr. What the Internet is
Doing to our Brains, 2008, Atlantic Monthly
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Kubricks dark prophecy (out of scene from 2001)

• As we come to rely on computers to mediate our
  understanding of the world, it is our own
  intelligence that flattens into artificial
  intelligence.

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Other Resources

• http//www.assess-yourself.org/og/og_online.cfm
• Taking Back Childhood Helping Your Kids thrive
  in a Fast-Paced, Media Saturated, Violent Filled
  World, by Nancy Carlson-Paige, Ed.D, 2008
• What is the internet doing to our brains?, by
  Nicholas Carr, July/Aug. 2008, Atlantic Monthly