Be Proactive Powerful Lessons in Personal Change

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Be Proactive Powerful Lessons in Personal Change

• Eng. Mohamed Aboud
• Past EGYPT GOLD Chair
• ASTF Business Development Manager
•   M_aboud_at_ieee.org
• Maboud_at_astf.net

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First Key of Success

• The first key of success is believing in the
  necessity of change. People who do not have the
  ability or the desire to change through the
  investment in the their own characters are far
  from being named truly successful.

• What changes do you think will take place?

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Second Key of Success

• The second key of success is having a very clear
  goal in your mind. An overwhelming target
  surrounding ones life. This goal or target should
  express your sense of purpose and meaning in life.

What goals are there in your lives?
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Kinds of People

• Ineffective Those have no goals in life dont
  change themselves accordingly.
• Effective Those have goals in life and try to
  accomplish them.
• Highly effective Those are the people who
  master the 7 habits in their true meaning.
• Effectiveness here is treated as equally as
  success

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Signs of Success

• 1- To feel an inner relief and comfort in
  yourself.
• 2- To have a balanced social relations with those
  around you.
• 3- To have a great achievement.

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Steps of Success
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The Seven Habits An Overview

• Our character is a composite of our habits
• Habits can be learned and unlearned
• Habits defined

Knowledge
Habits
Skills
Desire
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7- Renewal
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Part 1 Private Victory
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7- Renewal
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Are you a proactive person?

• You are responsible for your behavior and the
  choices you make in life.
• You must accept this responsibility, and respond
  to life according to your values and not your
  feelings.
• Nothing can change unless you want to change from
  the inside.This inside-out approach is what you
  must experience first with yourself by focusing
  on your circle of influence.

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Reactive Behavior

• Reactive people allow outside influences (moods,
  feelings, or circumstances) to control their
  behavior.

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Proactive Behavior

• Proactive people use the margin of freedom to
  make choices that best apply their values. Their
  freedom to choose expands as they wisely use the
  space between stimulus and response

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Focusing on the Circle of Influence
Circle of Influence (????? ???????) A persons
Circle of Influence includes those things he or
she can affect directly.
Circle of Concern (????? ????????) A persons
Circle of Concern comprises all matters about
which he or she cares.
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Focusing on the Circle of Influence
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Freedom to Choose
Stimulus
Response
Independent Will
Self-awareness
Conscience
Imagination
The Proactive Model
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Circle of
Circle of
Circle of Influence
Circle of Influence
Concern
Concern
Reactive Focus Negative energy reduces COI
Proactive Focus Positive energy enlarges COI
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Interdependence
6- Synergize
5- Seek First to Understand Then to be Understood
Public Victory
4- Think Win/Win
7- Sharpen the Saw
Independence
3- Put First Things First
1- Be Proactive
Private Victory
2- Begin with the End in Mind
Dependence
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Begin with the End in Mind(Principles of
Personal Leadership)

• Begin today with the image, picture or paradigm
  of the end of your life as your frame of
  reference
• Start with a clear understanding of destination
• All things are created twice
• First creation (mental)
• Second creation (physical)
• Measure twice, cut once (plan)
• Do you have a mission statement?

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Interdependence
6- Synergize
5- Seek First to Understand Then to be Understood
Public Victory
4- Think Win/Win
7- Sharpen the Saw
Independence
3- Put First Things First
1- Be Proactive
Private Victory
2- Begin with the End in Mind
Dependence
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Put First Things First(Principles of Personal
Management)

• Emergence of Habits 1 and 2
• Exercise of independent will
• Effective self-management
• A good disciple of your values
• Address questions in life and time mgmt.
• Organize and execute around priorities

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The Time Management Matrix
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Part 1 Public Victory
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Paradigms of Interdependence

• Public Victory comes after Private Victory
• Succeed with yourself, then succeed with people
• The Emotional Bank Account
• Amount of trust in a relationship
• Six major deposits

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Paradigms of Interdependence

• Understanding the individual
• Attending to the little things
• Keeping commitments

• Clarifying expectations
• Showing personal integrity
• Apologizing sincerely when you make a withdrawal

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Interdependence
6- Synergize
5- Seek First to Understand Then to be Understood
Public Victory
4- Think Win/Win
7- Sharpen the Saw
Independence
3- Put First Things First
1- Be Proactive
Private Victory
2- Begin with the End in Mind
Dependence
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Think Win/Win (Principles of Inter-personal
Leadership)

• Six paradigms of human interaction

• Lose/Lose
• Win
• Win/Win or No Deal

• Win/Win
• Win/Lose
• Lose/Win

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Interdependence
6- Synergize
5- Seek First to Understand Then to be Understood
Public Victory
4- Think Win/Win
7- Sharpen the Saw
Independence
3- Put First Things First
1- Be Proactive
Private Victory
2- Begin with the End in Mind
Dependence
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Seek First To Understand, Then To Be Understood
(Principles of Empathetic Communication)

• Seek to Understand
• Diagnose before prescribing
• Understand before influencing
• We listen at one of four levels
• Ignoring, pretending, selecting and attentive
• Fifth level empathetic
• Listen with your ears, eyes and heart
• Listen for feeling and meaning

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Seek First To Understand, Then To Be Understood

• Seek To Be Understood
• Equally critical as seeking to understand
• Essence
• Ethos
• Pathos
• Logos

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Interdependence
6- Synergize
5- Seek First to Understand Then to be Understood
Public Victory
4- Think Win/Win
7- Sharpen the Saw
Independence
3- Put First Things First
1- Be Proactive
Private Victory
2- Begin with the End in Mind
Dependence
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Synergize (Principles of Creative Cooperation)

• The whole is greater than the sum of its parts
• The true test of all other habits
• Unleashes the greatest powers within people
• Essence is to value difference
• Mental, emotional and physical
• Search for the third alternative

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Interdependence
6- Synergize
5- Seek First to Understand Then to be Understood
Public Victory
4- Think Win/Win
7- Sharpen the Saw
Independence
3- Put First Things First
1- Be Proactive
Private Victory
2- Begin with the End in Mind
Dependence
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Sharpen The Saw (Principles of Balanced
Self-renewal)
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The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People

• A Personal Note
• The source of correct principles?
• He who creates
• He who provides
• He who teacheth by the pen, teacheth man that
  which he knew not
• He who is ALLAH