The Best Couples Counseling Techniques for a Happy Married Life

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The Best Couples Counseling Techniques for a
Happy Married Life
Dr Gurprit Ganda MAPS
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These are some of the opening remarks I hear
from them.

We dont know where our relationship is going?.
We seem to be drifting away over time. When we
started our marriage we used to have so much
passion. Now all we do is fight.

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• Over time as I work with these couples using the
  best couples counseling techniques available I
  see not only a transformation in their
  relationships but in their outlook towards life.
  This happens due to the highly rated couples
  counselling techniques used by me.
• We cover here Gottmans suggested couple
  counselling techniques. Gottmans has received
  worldwide recognition for them. He has identified
  six rules which if implemented will lead to
  stronger and better marriages and relationships.

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Gottman identified six ways partners should
devote time to each other that add up to the
magic six hours that help to greatly improve
your relationship.
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Just a bye in the morning is not enough
(2 min X 5 days 10 min a week)

• Gottman strongly reinforces we should leave for
  their work in the morning only after enquiring
  about our partners schedule and plans for the
  day.
• Spending these 2 minutes in the morning checking
  what your partners schedule for the day,
  including their plans for the lunch, upcoming
  eventful and sought after meetings / presentation
  and catch up they have planned with their fast
  friends.

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Invest in joint activities that de-stress and
rejuvenates
(20 min X 7 days 140 minutes a week)

• Daily spend about 20 minutes a day in activities
  that both the partners love.
• These are not about discussing the conflict you
  had the day before over a certain topic. It is
  about doing things both of you love and enjoy
  such as taking dog for a walk in the park, caring
  for the veggie patch at home, exercising jointly
  in your gym.
• Spend at least 1 minute a day showing affection
  through a tight six-second (or more) embrace.
  Immerse yourself in these moments and feel them
  in your heart.

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Show Genuine Admiration and Appreciation
(5 min X 7 days 35 minutes a week)

• Gottman strongly suggests that couples spend a
  minimum of five minutes a day showing genuine
  appreciation to each other.
• This involves a lot of mindfulness. You have to
  really observe and find out something new that
  the partner did.
• However sometime as the relationship progresses
  we start becoming silent and start focussing more
  on negatives then the positives.
• Express these sentiments even if you feel that
  your partner knows it. Especially do it in front
  of third person to show that you care.

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End you day with show of physical affection
(5 min X 7 day 35 minutes per week)

• Gottman said a minimum of 5 minutes a day should
  be devoted to showing genuine physical affection
  to your partner.
• Embrace them at night before sleep and give them
  a morning kiss when you wake up.
• Such physical touches, affection and kisses helps
  in release of oxytocin hormone, which strengthens
  our feelings of attachment to our partner.
• As you show physical affection, it increases the
  passion in your life and brings both of you
  nearer.

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Set up a weekly date (2 hours per week)

• Gottman suggests couples should get out of the
  house and meet in an open and relaxing
  environment such as a restaurant, club or park
  and ask open ended questions about the
  relationship.
• It is a bit tricky and couples need significant
  training which I provide in my sessions.

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Weekly Stocktake (1 hour per week)

• Gottman recommends that couples review their
  relationship and activities over the last week.
  This is a stocktake meeting.
• Couples in this meeting check what they did last
  week, what worked, what didnt and what mistakes
  they should be avoiding in the future.
• The meeting should be very open and receptive.
  Couples should strive to understand their
  partners and avoid conflict.

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• If couples were to adopt Gottmans suggested
  couple counselling techniques in their day to day
  life they will would see significant improvement
  in the quality of their married life.
• There are of course alternative couple
  counselling counselling available if these ones
  dont work.

• Let us know through your comments if you have
  invested similarly in your relationships and how
  you have benefitted from. And yes, if you need
  help in getting your relationship on track you
  should contact us at
• http//potentialz.com.au/