DOMESTIC VIOLENCE, TRAUMA

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DOMESTIC VIOLENCE, TRAUMA RECOVERY

• Tonier Cain
• P.O. Box 175
• Arnold, MD 21012
• ca4toni_at_aol.com

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BECAUSE HE LOVES HER

• WHY ARE YOU CRYING?

• He just loves me too much!

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Age6

• I believed verbal and physical abuse was love.
• I watched my father beat my mother everyday .
• Shes at the hospital again.
• Hes gone? Why? He loves her!

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She found love

• Her new boyfriend beats her, he loves her.
• If Its love why does she scream and cry?
• Shes gone to the hospital again.
• Hes gone, why? He loves her!

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Trauma felt at 9 years old.

• Verbal and physical abuse from mother
• Molestation
• Left to care for siblings
• Started drinking alcohol

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TERRIFIED ELEVEN

• Removed from mother
• Placed in foster care
• Dysfunctional family

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HOPELESS FOURTEEN

• She loves me, she wants me back.
• How do I live without her.
• Attempted suicide

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19 years old and beyond

• Drug addiction
• Introduction to Criminal Justice System
• Mental Institutions

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MARRIED CHILD

• He beats me, does he love me?
• She moved in with my little sisters.
• Abuse from him and her.

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RETRAUMATIZED

• Arresting Officers
• Correctional Officers
• Drug Addiction Counselors
• Seclusion and Restraints
• Over-medicated
• Hospitals
• State Agencies

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After Trauma Treatment

• Drug and alcohol free
• Secure attachment with daughter
• Medication free
• Advocate
• Board Member
• Council member
• Homeowner and more

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What if

• At age 9 someone recognized my trauma
• I embraced trauma treatment then
• School employees, hospitals, state agencies,
  rehabs., arresting officers were all trained in
  trauma

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Isnt it possible that the results couldve been
this.

• This child, to this woman, to this mother without
  the destruction
• A THOUGHT, HUH?

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