HOW TO FIND THE PERFECT HUSBAND/WIFE

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HOW TO FIND THE PERFECT HUSBAND/WIFE

• Practical Advice from the Apostle Paul

I Corinthians 7
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Who was it?
He worked at Mini Putt and she played Mini Putt
until she was sick of it!
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Who was it?
When she was a freshman she joined the ministry
team he was on.
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Who was it?
She was dating his roommate.
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Who was it?
He sat in front of her in class at Vennard.
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Freshman / Sophomore Year Verse

• I would not have you ignorant brethren
• Ro. 113 (KJV)

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Junior Year Verse

• I looked for a man among them
• Ezek. 2230 (NIV)

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Senior Year Verse

• If any man will come after me, let him
• Matt. 1624 (KJV)

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• Quit Looking

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Quit looking

• Survey of 1,000 Female College Students
• 83 - Being married is a very important goal for
  me
• 63 - I would like to meet my future husband in
  college.

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Quit looking
. . . Are you unmarried? Do not look for a
wife. I Co. 727b (NIV)
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• Quit Looking
• Seriously Consider Singleness

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Seriously consider singleness
Now to the unmarried and the widows I say It is
good for them to stay unmarried, as I am. I
Co.78
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• Quit Looking
• Seriously Consider Singleness
• Make the Most of the Single Advantage

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Make the most of the single advantage
Our culture in general, and the Christian
subculture in particular, fosters in young women
a desire for marriage and the presumption that
marriage will be part of life sooner rather than
later. But reality regularly departs from the
script. Almost six out of ten women today are not
married by age twenty-five. Three out of ten are
not married by age thirty. Jennifer Marshall,
Now and Not Yet Making Sense of Single Life in
the Twenty-First Century
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• Quit Looking
• Seriously Consider Singleness
• Make the Most of the Single Advantage
• Go Slow

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Go Slow
Treat younger women as sisters, with absolute
purity I Tim. 52
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Go Slow
LOVE IS BLIND!!
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• Quit Looking
• Seriously Consider Singleness
• Make the Most of the Single Advantage
• Go Slow
• Avoid Fanning the Flames of Physical Intimacy

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Avoid fanning the flames of physical intimacy
If they cant control themselves, they should go
ahead and marry. Its better to marry than to
burn with lust. I Co. 79 (NLT)
But if a man thinks that hes treating his
fiancée improperly and will inevitably give in to
his passion, let him marry her as he wishes. It
is not a sin. I Co. 736 (NLT)
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• Quit Looking
• Seriously Consider Singleness
• Make the Most of the Single Advantage
• Go Slow
• Avoid Fanning the Flames of Physical Intimacy
• Build Mutually Edifying Relationships

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Build mutually edifying relationships
For the unbelieving husband has been sanctified
through his wife, and the unbelieving wife has
been sanctified through her believing husband. I
Co. 714 (NIV)
How do you know, wife, whether you will save
your husband? Or, how do you know, husband,
whether you will save your wife? I Co. 716
(NIV)
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• Quit Looking
• Seriously Consider Singleness
• Make the Most of the Single Advantage
• Go Slow
• Avoid Fanning the Flames of Physical Intimacy
• Build Mutually Edifying Relationships
• Build Relationships That Enhance Your Ability to
  Serve God

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Build relationships that enhance your ability to
serve God
I want you to do whatever will help you serve
the Lord best . . . I Co. 735 (NLT)
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• Quit Looking
• Seriously Consider Singleness
• Make the Most of the Single Advantage
• Go Slow
• Avoid Fanning the Flames of Physical Intimacy
• Build Mutually Edifying Relationships
• Build Relationships That Enhance Your Ability to
  Serve God