Title: The Social Outcast: Social Exclusion, Rejection and Bullying. The Educator
1The Social Outcast Social Exclusion, Rejection
and Bullying.The Educators Role
2- What would you probably do if the following
scenario was taking place in your classroom?
3- A student is being repeatedly teased and called
unpleasant names by another, more powerful
student, who has successfully persuaded other
students to avoid the targeted person as much as
possible. As a result, the victim of this
behaviour is feeling angry, miserable and
isolated.
4- Please circle the answer closest to what you
think. - There are no right or wrong answers.
5- Without friends no one would choose to live,
though he had all other goods. - - Aristotle
6- Are social relationships something we actually
need or merely find desirable?
7Social Relationships are a Need
- Social connection is a need as basic as air,
water and food. - Social isolation causes pain that is very similar
to physical pain. - The need to belong is a universal one.
8Social Relationships Effect Four Important Needs
- Need to belong
- Self-esteem
- Perceived control over environment
- Meaningful existence
9Why Are Peer Relationships Necessary?
- Social practice and learning of social skills.
- Social support
- Interaction with equals
- Time spent with same age peers
10Who Is Most at Risk of Being a Social Outcast?
- Deficiency in one or more areas
- Low self-esteem
- High sensitivity to rejection
- Insensitivity to rejection
- Family problems / Parental rejection
11Who Is Most at Risk of Being a Social Outcast?
- Person-group dissimilarity
- - aggression
- - shyness
- - low achievers
- - inattention and/or hyperactivity
12The Consequences of Rejection and Bullying
- threat to four needs
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- pain and hurt
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- cognitive and/or behavioral reaction
13The Consequences of Rejection and Bullying
- If the rejection is continual the child will
feel - alienated
- depressed
- helpless
- worthless
- anxious
14The Consequences of Rejection and Bullying
- Rejected children often react with self-defeating
behaviour - Aggression and/or hostility
- Dropping out of school (25 vs. 8)
- Criminality
- Social withdrawal
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15Long Term Consequences
- Loneliness
- Social isolation
- Cardiovascular disease
- Immune system problems
- Increase in blood pressure
- Mortality
- Psychiatric problems
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17Who Is Immune to the Effects of Rejection?
- Children with at least one friend.
- Children with a low sensitivity to rejection.
- When they are not the only child being bullied.
18Why Dont These Children Have Social Skills?
- Unlearnt at home or an inability to
automatically learn these skills. - The vicious cycle of being rejected as lack of
social interaction leads to an inability to learn
social skills. - Poor attachment as a baby or parental rejection.
19Why Dont These Children Have Social Skills?
- Avoidance of social connection in order to
protect themselves. - Pre-existing behavioral or emotional problem
(learning difficulty and/or attention deficit
hyperactivity disorder).
20 What the Educator Can Do to Help
- SCORE YOUR RESPONSES
- The victim must stand up for him/herself
- Punish the bully
- Ignore the problem
- Problem solving approach
- Not a serious problem
21- The Social Outcast will react in one of three
ways - Aggressive coping
- Ruminating
- Denial coping
- All three are associated with long term
maladaptive functioning.
22- Expect acceptance not rejection
- (social detective work)
- Encourage the development of friendships
- Encourage extracurricular activities
- Encourage parents to organize opportunities for
the child to socialize - Boost self-confidence
23TEACHING SOCIAL SKILLS
- Social skills initiate and maintain positive
social relationships with others. - Social skills deficits will lead to learning and
teaching problems, problems in classroom
orchestration and climate.
24- TEACH POSITIVE INTERACTION SKILLS
- Acceptance or Rejection depend on six unconscious
questions - Is this person fun?
- Is this person trustworthy?
- Do we influence each other in ways I like?
- Does this person help me achieve my goals?
- Does this person make me feel good about myself?
- Is this person similar to me?
25FUN
- ACCEPTANCE
- Humour
- Skillful
- Cooperative
- REJECTION
- Mean or aggressive
- Bossy
- Withdrawn
- Low cognitive skills
26TRUST
- ACCEPTANCE
- Reliable
- Honest
- Loyal
- REJECTION
- Betrayal
- Aggression
- Dishonest
27INFLUENCE IN WAYS I LIKE
- ACCEPTANCE
- Cooperative
- Responsive
- REJECTION
- Mean or aggressive
- Bossy
- Rigid or resistant
28GOALS
- ACCEPTANCE
- Helpful
- Cooperative
- REJECTION
- Disruptive
- Impulsive
29FEEL GOOD ABOUT MYSELF
- ACCEPTANCE
- Supportive
- Kind
- Responsive
- Likes me
- REJECTION
- Insulting
- Non-responsive
- Dislikes me
30SIMILAR
- ACCEPTANCE
- Grade
- Race
- Age
- Values and interests
- Respects peer conventions
- REJECTION
- Superior manner
- Different values and interests
- Handicapped
31Social Tasks
- Coping with success
- Dealing with conflict
- Defending self
- Coping with failure
- Staying involved
- Making a friend
32Social Tasks
- Sharing / cooperating
- Sticking up for a friend
- Coping with rejection
- Responding to requests
- Making requests
33Social Tasks
- Helping others
- Maintaining a conversation
- Coping with teasing
- Being supportive of others
34There is something in staying close to men and
women, and looking on them, and in contact and
odor of them, that pleases the soul well
- Walt
WhitmanThat part of what makes life worth
living is being close to others.
35THANK YOU