i want to close my eyes

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lti want to close my eyesgt lti think of kissing you
and Igtltwant to close my eyesgt lt...yesgt ltI was
thinking it... you were writing itgtlti want to
close my eyes and see yougt lt...no words are
enoughgt lti want to open them and see yougtlti hate
wordsgtltI am condemned to depend on themgtlti would
like you to know it all without me saying itgtltbut
feel it as strongly as if you were reading
itgtlti'd like you to be able to read it on me
straight awaygt lt i want yougtltright nowgt lti want
to become the screen, the papergtlti hate
interfacesgtlti want you toogt ltyou can be my lap
top. my hands are theregt ltnow. the butterflies
are getting aggressive toogtlti want to be your
laptop. where am i?gtlthold me closergtlthold me
closer.gtltlet me feel yougt ltmy hands will not
leave you, evergt lttouch megtltmoregt ltyou are there.
it is closegt lti am so alone heregt lti am closegt
Virtual seduction

Cyber-sex-tourism
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2PHASES
Cyber-sex-tourism
CyberLibertarian
Culture
no gender no sexuality no body
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2PHASES
victimising perpetuating reinforcing
normalising polarising

Critical
Cyber-sex-tourism
CyberLibertarian
Culture
no gender no sexuality no body
Forget what people could do in cyberspace, what
do they actually do?
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Virtual seduction
Fascinating contrast between online offline
interactivity
Critical
CyberLibertarian
Culture
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real
interactivity
virtual
Critical
CyberLibertarian
Cyber-sex-tourism
Culture
body
anonymity
space
identity
language
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real
sex
Cyber-sex-tourism
space
non-serious
identity
tourism
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Cyber-sex-tourism
identity
tourism
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romance tourism prostitution tourism body
trafficking pornography Erotica Intimacy
Cyber-sex-tourism
identity
tourism
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lti want to close my eyesgt lti think of kissing you
and Igtltwant to close my eyesgt lt...yesgt ltI was
thinking it... you were writing itgtlti want to
close my eyes and see yougt lt...no words are
enoughgt lti want to open them and see yougtlti hate
wordsgtltI am condemned to depend on themgtlti would
like you to know it all without me saying itgtltbut
feel it as strongly as if you were reading
itgtlti'd like you to be able to read it on me
straight awaygt lt i want yougtltright nowgt lti want
to become the screen, the papergtlti hate
interfacesgtlti want you toogt ltyou can be my lap
top. my hands are theregt ltnow. the butterflies
are getting aggressive toogtlti want to be your
laptop. where am i?gtlthold me closergtlthold me
closer.gtltlet me feel yougt ltmy hands will not
leave you, evergt lttouch megtltmoregt ltyou are there.
it is closegt lti am so alone heregt lti am closegt
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1. What kind of leisure experience is this?
2. What kind of social interaction?
3. Potential non-seriousness undermines
assumptions of much social research
Conclusion
space
We are taking the wrong things seriously
Yes, we chat, surf and browse and even explore
identity, but we also exploit and undermine
sexuality by characterising it as mere leisure
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Recent EssaysMiah, A. (2003) (e)text Error404
Not Found!, or the Disappearance of History,
Culture Machine The E-Issue, 5, Miah, A.
(2002) /cybersex/no_gender/no_sexuality/no_body.h
tml In S. LaFont (Ed.) Constructing
Sexualities Readings in Sexuality, Gender, and
Culture, New York, Prentice Hall,
pp.362-370 Miah, A. (2000) Virtually Nothing
Re-evaluating the Significance of Cyberspace,
Leisure Studies, 193, 211-225.
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