Beat the WorkLife Blahs With Optimism and Resilience Eileen Chadnick, ACPC, ACC, ABC Big Cheese Coac

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Beat the Work-Life Blahs With Optimism and
ResilienceEileen Chadnick, ACPC, ACC, ABCBig
Cheese Coaching
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Work-life Blahs?.

• DID FEBRUARY START IN
• NOVEMBER THIS YEAR?

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Today

• A Word about Work-Life blahs
• Blah Buster Strategies
• QA

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Hows Your Mojo????

• Opposite of blahs ?Happiness.Engagement,
  fulfillment, contentment
• MOJO!
• Sense of wellbeing
• All is wellsense of being alive
• Able to cope with lifes adversity
• You are inspired!

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Serious Issue

• Impacts productivity engagement
• Impacts health and other facets of our life
• Business issue no longer self help
• Happiness economics GNH.the new GDP
• Personal.each individual unique
• Positive Psychology..new generation of
  researchers -- focus on happiness (10 years )

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Poll Take a moment.

• Happiness depends on your circumstances. (fully
  agree somewhat agree disagree)
• You are either born to be happy or not. Its part
  of your nature. (fully agree somewhat agree
  disagree)
• You can control your own happiness. Provide a
  _____that you think you can control.

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Work-Life BlahsTriggers

• Vortex of Circumstances..
• February.
• The economy
• The weather.
• Work overload..
• Stress
• Toxic boss/environment
• Job loss.insecurity
• Financial issues.
• Personal life..
• Other.

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Work-Life Blahs

• OR.everything is fine yet
• your Mojo is down.

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Consider This

• YOU HAVE MORE CONTROL OVER YOUR
• MOJO THAN YOU MAY THINK.
• IT TAKES AWARENESS, COMMITMENT AND INTENTIONAL
  PRACTICE.

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Numbers Revealed

• Only 10 of Sustained Happiness is....
• Attributed to Circumstances

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Numbers Revealed..

• About 50 of Sustained Happiness is
• Attributed to Personal Set-Point

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The 40 Rule

• The rest is within our power to impact.40 of
  intentional activity!
• Sonja Lyubomirsky (The How of Happiness a
  Scientific Approach to Getting the Life You Want)

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Happiness Not a Condition

• .Its a Competency

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Mojo Happiness

• AWARENESS Intentional Action
• Self Awareness Know what makes you tick what
  ticks you off and what leaves you flat
  (tick-less)
• Fizzle, frazzle, fire!
• Action/Habits Develop strategies to
  manage/reduce blahs and raise happiness
• Btw this is all within the (emotional
  intelligence) array of competencies

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STRATEGIES

• BLAH BUSTERS
• AND
• MOJO BUILDERS

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GUIDING PRINCIPLES

• Take Ownership
• Pay Attention
• What inspires you (fire)
• What leaves you flat (fizzle)
• What frazzles you (frazzle)
• Create a Plan
• For work and after work (they play off each
  other)
• Adjust, practice..try different things out.
• Be Accountable

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1 Challenge Your Fear

• FEAR False Evidence Appearing Real
• TAKE A REALITY CHECK
• Where are you amplifying fears/concerns?
• How are you discerning.what is real and what is
  not?
• News headlines
• Rumours
• Run away imagination
• Other

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2 Powerless or Empowered?

• Powerless? Or Empowered?
• Discern what you can control and what you can not
  control.
• Circumstances?
• Your response?
• Take action on what you can control
• Preparation for possible risks
• Mitigate risk where you can
• Challenge assumptions/perceptions, etc.

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3 Perspective

• Observe/Notice..take responsibility for your
  thoughts/reaction/response.
• Half full or empty?

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Perspective.

• Donut or hole?

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4 Practise Gratitude

• Actively engage in noticing and appreciating
  whats right and good and expressing
  appreciation.
• Awareness activities
• Gratitude journal
• Making lists
• Reflection time
• Conversation
• Other

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Gratitude contd

• Express Gratitude and Appreciation to others

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5 Practise Optimism (a skill)

• Not a Condition.it is a Competency.
• Challenge limiting beliefs
• Find bright side (trite but true)
• Im looking forward to ___________
• Create new goals and activities if you have
  trouble completing that sentence.
• Actively remember your strengths, resources,
  assets, etc.
• Celebrate your successes, joys large and small!

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Try this Peak Moments
The Peak Moment Exercise..

• Increase Self Awareness
• Endorphin Boost!!

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Endorphins au natural!

• GIVE YOUR MIND A POSITIVE CHARGE.
• Positive Thinking Gratitude Optimism..
• Endorphins stimulated parasympathetic system

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6 Exercise!

• Another Endorphin boost!
• Get to the Gym or Walk your dog even if you
  dont have one!

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7 Create Meaningful Goals

• Bored?
• Choose activities that engage your strengths
  passions values
• Make sure they are meaningful avoid should
  goals
• Small goals, big goals..any size can fit.
• Work, personal, volunteer
• I always wanted to
• Wouldnt it be neat to learn.

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8 Life After Work

• That Charge that keeps on giving.
• Another plug for balance.what you do after work
  will make a difference at work.

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9 Hang Out With Positive People

• Survey sayshappiness is contagious!

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10 Give to Others.

• GIVE!
• Volunteer, philanthropy, informal/formal

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11 Lighten up

• Laugh (laughter yoga?)
• Social activities at work (pot luck lunch?)
• Other?

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Pick at Least One Thing

• Declare it (to self then to others)
• Create a plan
• Get the support (friends, family, professional
  coaching, other tbd)
• Create conditions success
• Accountability
• Enjoy!!!

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For More.

• CICA Ask the Coach
• Archives more detailed articles on some of
  these ideas
• Blog www.TGIMworklife.com
• BOOKS
• The How of Happiness (Sonja Lyubomirsky)
• Strengths Finder (Tom Rath)
• More..
• www.BigCheese-Coaching.com/ www.tgimworklife.com
• Eileen_at_Bigcheese-coaching.com or 416-631-7437