Title: Spiritual Mentoring of Teens
1 - Spiritual Mentoring of Teens
- Chapter 3
- Never Quit on a Child
2Does this describe your teenager? (Y/N)
- ___ 1. Hes not very responsible at home and/or
at school. - ___ 2. She is moody (easily angered, upset, or
frustrated) - ___ 3. She is always on the phone with her
friends. - ___ 4. Sometimes she dresses inappropriately.
- ___ 5. He seems to listen more to his friends
than me. - ___ 6. She doesnt want to participate in family
activities. - ___ 7. He doesnt talk to me like like he used
to. - ___ 8. She doesnt think about her future
enough. - ___ 9. I wonder if he is thinking about being
sexually active or trying drugs. -
3 Finish the following sentences
regarding your Teen
- 1. I get a little frustrated when my Teen
__________ - __________________________________________.
- 2. I become really angry when my Teen _________
- __________________________________________.
- 3. I remember a time I was ready to give up when
________________________________________.
4Stages of Adolescence
513 Year Old The Baby
- Body changing quickly
- Hormones stirring
- Appearance
- Image
- Comparison with peers
- Open, naive
- Dependent, needy
- Easily upset
- Mood shifts
- Low attention span
614 Year Old The Dissenter
- Willful, argumentative
- Uncooperative
- Passionate
- Self-centered
- Inclined to tantrums
- Mood shifts (extreme)
715 Year Old The Fledgling
- Calmness
- Availability
- Desires to help others
- Sensitive to others
- Intelligence, cognitive development
- Conversation
- Learning
816 Year Old Sweet and Sour
- Values challenged
- New things are tried
- I know everything
- Sexuality
- Sweet to friends
- Sour to family
917 Year Old Romantic/novice
- Maturity stage
- Wants to be an adult
- Not able to be adult
- More sociable
- Connecting w/ people
- People as individuals
- Boyfriend/Girlfriend
10 18-21 Year Old World Leader
- Concerned about future, world, social causes
- Explore the world
- More independence
- Increase responsibility
- Forms own identity (Intellectual, rebel,
crusader, etc)
11Summary of Teenager Traits
- Outward appearance is important
- Wants to have a sense of belonging
- Challenges the ways things are
- (rules, values)
- Influenced by peers
- Wants more independence, privacy
- Experiences shifts in moods
12Not all Teens are Rebels According to Researcher
George Barna
- 70 have daily conversations with mothers
- 53 with their fathers
- 92 are happy
- 91 are responsible
- 77 important to have clear purpose in life
- 56 (church) make a difference in this world
- Praise God, but its no time to Coast
137 Habits of Highly Relentless Parents
- 1. Pray, Pray, Pray
- - pray without ceasing 1 Thessalonians
517 - - Pray for the child and yourself
- 2. Choose to be active and involved (personally
and spiritually) - - Attend childs activities (sports, music,
dance, etc) - - Go out for ice cream or meals together
-
147 Habits of Highly Relentless Parents (contd)
- 3. Dont take No for an answer too easily
- - Be persistent without being pushy
- - Be discerning as to WHEN is the best time to
talk - 4. Show our heavenly Fathers steadfast love
- - Though the mountains be shaken and the
hills be be moved, yet My unfailing love for
you will not be shaken Isaiah 5410 - - Let Gods faithfulness and love for you be
the model to express and demonstrate love
for your child.
157 Habits of Highly Relentless Parents (contd)
- 5. Renew your mercies every day
- (Lamentations 322-23)
- - Just as Gods mercy toward us is constant,
so should our mercy to our teen be. - - If last nights argument was talked out and
resolved, leave it behind. - 6. Nurture yourself as you nurture your teen
- - Guard your own spiritual, emotional, and
physical health. - - Develop a network of supportive family and
friends -
167 Habits of Highly Relentless Parents contd
- 7. Resolve to Never, Ever give up
- - No matter how frustrated, angry,
disappointed, stressed out, exhausted you
may be, resolve to be the best mom or dad
you can be. - - Be relentless, make it a commitment to God
- Let us not become weary in doing good, for at
the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do
not give up (Galations 69)
17Which of the 7 Habits do you need more of?
- 1.
- 2.
- 3.
- Ask God to help you develop these habits
18- Chapter 4
- The Goal of Spiritual Training
19What should we desire for our teen spiritually?
- A personal, vibrant relationship with Jesus
- A head filled with wisdom from Scripture
- Skill in filtering through Christian worldview
- Ability to articulate and defend the Bible
- A desire to make Christ known through Life, Work,
Service, and Witness
20Teens Traits of Great Parents, Pt. 2
- Loving acceptance, concerned with all areas of
childs life - encouraging presence
- Truly cares about whether their child succeeds
- Cares enough to tell a child he/she is wrong
- Genuine, honest, insightful in understanding
where their - child is at (emotionally, spiritually)
- Set the rules and make clear the purpose of them
- Share their own struggles as teens
- Are real with their teens, showing they are doing
their best to walk with Christ also. -
21Teens Advice to Parents About Nurturing
Spiritual Growth, Pt. 2
- Take a proactive role in your kids (earlier start
the better) - Equip them to study the Bible for themselves
- Be a good example of Christ in and out of church
- Need personal time to nurture their spiritual
development - Build up your teens and make them confident
22Why do you want your child to be spiritually
mentored?
- How can you help build up your childs faith?