Title: Principle Centered Surthrival Skills:
1Principle CenteredSurthrival Skills
- How to juggle without
- Losing your balance!
- Stevan J. Kukic, Ph.D.
- Vice President
- Sopris West Educational Services
- stevek_at_sopriswest.com
2THE THREE CONSTANTS
3Pictures of the year by NBC
4Palestine School
5Pictures of the year by NBC
6No child left behind
No teacher left unsupported!
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8A pat on the back isnt necessarily a good thing.
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10I know God wont give me anything I cant
handle. I just wish he didnt trust me so
much. Mother Teresa
11Life is inconvenient. Life is lumpy.
Learn to separate the inconveniences from the
real problems. You will live longer. And will not
annoy people like me so much. Good night.
A lump in the oatmeal, a lump in the throat, and
a lump in the breast are not the same lump. One
should learn the difference. Good night, Sig.
The Sigmund Wollman Reality Test-Robert Fulghum
12Life is difficult.
Once we truly know that life is difficult-once
we truly understand and accept it-then life is no
longer difficult. Because once it is accepted,
the fact that life is difficult no longer matters.
Life is a series of problems.
Do we want to moan about them or solve them? Do
we want to teach our children to solve them?
Scott Peck, The Road Less Traveled
13 I don't need time. What I need is a deadline.
-Duke Ellington, jazz pianist, composer, and
conductor (1899-1974)
14"I don't need deadlines, I need more time."
-- Steve Mitchell, founder of the
"no-initiatives initiative", aka Dr. Bogey Bogey
and Mr. Sensitivity.
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16Rx for Self Esteem
Handling stress before it handles us.Bert
Simmons 3/90
- Work it out
- Accept those things we cannot change.
- Learn to deal with ambiguity.
- Admit that everyone needs help.
- Take one step at a time.
- Give in once in awhile.
- Remember how long you are dead!
17Stress Diet
- Breakfast
- ½ grapefruit
- 1 slice whole wheat toast
- 8 oz. Skim milk
- Lunch
- 4 oz. Lean broiled chicken breast
- 1 cup steamed zucchini
- 1 Oreo cookie
- herb tea
- Mid-Afternoon Snack
- rest of package of Oreos
- 1 qt. Rocky Road ice cream
- 1 jar hot fudge
- Dinner
- 2 loaves garlic bread
- 1 large pepperoni and mushroom pizza
- 3 Milky Way candy bars
- 1 entire frozen cheesecake eaten directly
from freezer
- Diet Tips
- If no one sees you eat it, it has no calories.
- If you drink a diet soda with a candy bar, they
cancel each other out. - When eating with someone else, calories dont
count if you both eat the same amount. - Food used for medicinal purposes never counts,
such as hot chocolate, toast, Boston Coolers, and
Sara Lee Cheesecake. - If you fatten up everyone else around you, you
will look thinner. - Movie-related foods dont count because they are
simply part of the entire entertainment
experience and not part of ones personal fuel
intake. Such foods include, but no limited to,
Milk Duds, hot buttered popcorn, Junior Mints,
and red licorice. - Cookie pieces contain no calories. The process of
breakage causes caloric leakage.
18Someone sent me an article that said the way to
achieve inner peace is to finish things you've
started. I am now making a point of always
finishing what I start and I think I am well on
my way toward finding inner peace. Because I
care for you, I am passing this wisdom on to
you. Here are the things that I have finished
today Two bags of potato chips, A strawberry
cheesecake, A package of Oreos, A bottle of
wine and a small box of chocolates. I think this
really works because I feel better already.
19No matter where you go, there you are.
Buckaroo Bonsai
20GET OVER IT!
21SURTHRIVAL
The fine art of growing, no matter what a
situation and/or other people throw at you.
22SEE
DO
GET
23Trustworthiness
- Character
- Integrity
- Maturity
- Abundance Mentality
- Competence
- Technical
- Conceptual
- Interdependency
Judgment
1993 Covey Leadership Center, Inc.
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26Abraham Maslow,
- One of the fathers of modern psychology,
developed a needs hierarchy in which he
identified self-actualization as the highest
human experience. But in his last years, he
acknowledged that his peak experience was not
self-actualization but self-transcendence, or
living for a purpose higher than self.
--Maslow 1968
27COVEYS 4 BASIC NEEDS
SURTHRIVAL 101
What are you doing to LIVE? LOVE? LEARN? LEAVE
A LEGACY?
28Ask Yourself
How do these needs coalesce into your personal
mission? What is your personal mission?
29WE ARE ALWAYS EQUAL TO WHAT WE UNDERTAKE WITH
RESOLUTIONIT IS PART OF THE AMERICAN CHARACTER
TO CONSIDER NOTHING AS DESPERATE TO SURMOUNT
EVERY DIFFICULTY BY RESOLUTION AND
CONTRIVANCE. THOMAS JEFFERSON TO HIS DAUGHTER
PATSY MARCH 28, 1787
30Balance is the Key to Resiliency
Spiritual Center
COMMUNITY PROFESSION
FAMILY FRIENDS
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32On Being a Tragic Optimist
SURTHRIVAL 101
- Prolonged unhappiness SUCKS and is not
Productive! - How are you working hard to be unhappy?
- How have you accessed joy in adversity?
- What is the funniest thing that has happened to
you in a stressful situation? - How are you working to grow deep and not just
tall? - What are you doing to be a tragic optimist?
33Tragic Optimism
- An optimism in the face of tragedy and in view of
the human potential which, at its best, always
allows for - Turning suffering into human achievement and
accomplishment - Deriving from guilt, the opportunity to change
oneself for the better and - Deriving from lifes transitoriness, an incentive
to take responsible action. - Viktor E.
Frankl, Mans Search For Meaning page 162
34When Life Gives You Scraps
MAKE QUILTS!
35The Capacity for paradox is the measure
of spiritual strength and the surest sign of
maturity.
Owning Your Own Shadow Robert A. Johnson 1991
36The 4 Agreements
Ruiz, 1997
- Be impeccable with your word.
- Dont take anything personally.
- Dont make assumptions.
- Always do your best.
37When you are being run out of town, make it
look like a parade.
38Brendtro, et al., 1990
39Applying Brendtro's ValuestoYour Own Resilience
SURTHRIVAL 101
- Belonging
- What are you doing to improve your sense of
belonging? - Mastery
- What can you do to achieve at higher levels?
- Independence
- What ways do you feel a sense of autonomy?
- Generosity
- How are you being altruistic?
40ODYSSEY, Pepsi to Applea Journey of Adventure,
Ideas, and the Future
The Best way to predict the future is to invent
it. John Sculley, 1987
41The complex difficulties of education for a
learning society
have no chance whatsoever of being
addressed in
the absence of alliances.
Fullan, 1993
42INTERAGENCY COOPERATION- is a process of working
together informally to achieve the day-to-day
goals of the organizations.
INTERAGENCY COORDINATION- is a formalized process
of adjustment or utilization of existing
resourcesto accommodate the procedures an
activities of other agencies.
INTERAGENCY COLLABORATION- is an intensive and
jointly planned effort by organizations over a
mutual concern that results in a mutually desired
outcome.
Black Kase, 1963
43The Laws of the Fifth Discipline
- Todays problems come from yesterdays
solutions. - The harder you push, the harder the system pushes
back. - Behavior grows better before it grows worse.
- The easy way out usually leads back in.
- The cure can be worse than the disease.
- Faster is slower.
- Cause and effect are not closely related in time
and space. - Small changes can produce big resultsbut the
areas of highest leverage are often the least
obvious. - You can have your cake and eat it toobut not at
once. - Dividing an elephant in half does not produce two
small elephants. - There is no blame.
Senge, 1990
4415 Top Take-Home Lesson from Great Groups
- Greatness starts with superb people.
- Every Great Group has a strong leader.
- Great groups and great leaders create each other.
- The leaders of Great Groups love talent and know
where to find it. - Great Groups are full of talented people who can
work together. - Great Groups think they are on a mission from
God. - Every Great Group is an island with a bridge to
the mainland. - Great Groups see themselves as winning underdogs.
- Great Groups always have an enemy.
- People in Great Groups have blinders on.
- Great groups are optimistic, not realistic.
- In Great groups the right person has the right
job. - The leaders give people what they need and free
them from the rest. - Great Groups ship.
- Great work is its own reward. Great Groups are
engaged in solving hard, meaningful problems.
- Warren Bennis Patricia Biederman, 1997
45FACT Service ModelALL TO SUPPORT FAMILIES
State Hospital Residential Placement Group Homes
Local Interagency Councils
Coordinating Council for People with
Disabilities
Intensive Treatment
Foster Care, Respite Care, Special Ed, Childrens
Special Health Services, Childrens Mental Health
Juvenile Court Services
Treatment Resource Assistance
COMMUNITY-BASED COLLABORATIVE SERVICE DELIVERY
SYSTEMS
FACT Site-Based projects Success by Six
WIC, Family Support Centers Baby your Baby
Prevention Early
Intervention
Physical, Educational,
Social Development
Schools, Boy Scouts, Girl Scouts, Churches, Civic
Groups, Well Child Care
46FACT DOs DONTsTop 10 List
- DONT
- DONT view collaboration as a project.
- DONT focus too long on pilot projects.
- DONT mistake these for outcome measures.
- DONT use service volume data as your outcome
measure. - DONT allow collaboration to be an excuse to cut
funds or reorganize agencies. - DONT prescribe models of service delivery.
- DONT settle for token involvement.
- DONT let them define your limits.
- DONT mistake lack of vision for chaos.
- DONT take yourselves too seriously.
- DO
- 10. DO view collaboration as a way of doing
business. - 9. DO take big risks.
- 8. DO establish and monitor core principles of
service delivery. - 7. DO measure progress by frequently assessing
desired outcomes for children and families. - 6. DO keep the pressure on decision makers.
- 5. DO let communities define the how.
- 4. DO involve families at every level.
- 3. DO involve budget and data staff.
- 2. DO expect and facilitate chaos.
- 1. DO find sex or rock n roll in everything.
47Tend the CHAOS, Dont Manage it!
48Groupthink and Balkanization are the nemesis of
hyper-Collaboration. Fullan, 1993
49The problem
Building the plane while its flying.
50Orbiting is responsible creativity Exploring and
operating beyond the Hairball of corporate
mindset, beyond accepted models, patterns, or
standards all while remaining connected to the
spirit of the corporate mission. MacKenzie, 1996
51To be fully free to create, we must first find
the courage and willingness to let go Let go of
the strategies that have worked for us in the
past Let go of our biases, the foundation of our
illusions Let go of our grievances, the root
source of our victimhood Let go of our so often
denied fear of being found unlovable. If you stop
letting go, your creative spirit will pass
out. MacKenzie, 1996
52The Paradoxical Commandments of Leadership
by Kent Keith
- People are illogical, unreasonable, and
self-centered love them anyway. - If you do good, people will accuse you of
selfish, ulterior motives do good anyway. - If you are successful, you win false friends and
true enemies succeed anyway. - The good you do today will be forgotten tomorrow
do good anyway. - Honesty and frankness make you vulnerable be
honest and frank anyway. - The biggest men and women with the biggest ideas
can be shot down by the smallest minds think big
anyway. - People favor underdogs but follow only top dogs
fight for a few underdogs anyway. - What you spend years building may be destroyed
overnight build anyway. - Give the world the best you have and youll get
kicked in the teeth give the world the best you
have anyway.
53Leadership (and training) is like herding cats.
Warren Bennis
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58One day the family dog wakes up and thinks, You
know, these people feed me, pet me, play with me,
give me everything I need
These people must be gods! The same
day the family cat wakes up and
thinks, You know, these people feed me, pet me,
play with me, give me everything I needI must be
god!
59Teamwork
60Pictures of the year by NBC
61Wasatch Princess Magnolia
62Things We Can Learn from a Dog Never pass up the
opportunity to go for a joy ride. Allow the
experience of fresh air and the wind in your face
to be pure ecstasy. When loved ones come home,
always run to meet them. When it is in your best
interest, practice obedience. Let others know
when they invades your territory. Take naps and
stretch before rising. Run, romp, and play
daily. Be loyal Never pretend to be something you
are not. If you want lies buried, dig till you
find it. When someone is having a bad day, be
silent, sit closely, and nuzzle them
gently. Thrive on attention and let people touch
you.
63 Avoid biting when a simple growl will do. On hot
days, drink lots of water and lay under a shady
tree. When you are happy, dance around and wag
your entire body. No matter how often you are
scolded, dont buy into the guilt thing and
pout. Bond with your pack. Delight in the simple
joy of a long walk. --Ruth Carter, 1998
64Grow Deep
NOT JUST TALL
By Karen Kaiser Clark
65Like wind rustling my leaves and bending by
boughs, life flows from season to season. Even in
the darkness it moves on, straining for the
light. Unfailingly, the night gives in to
dawn. Life is ever changing, always new. Many
yesterdays slip into today. Yet, each sunrise
offers a fresh new day. Tomorrow can never be now
and for one of usmay never be known. Make the
most of your moments and remember, change is not
merely necessary for life, Life is
change Growth is optional
Choose wisely.
66The Secret O Life by James Taylor The secret
o life is enjoying the passage of time. Any fool
can do it. There aint nothin to it. Nobody
knows how we got to the top of the hill. Since
were on our way down, we might as well enjoy the
ride. The secret o love is in opening up your
heart. Its okay to feel afraid. Dont let that
stand in your way. Cause anyone knows that love
is the only road. Since were only here for a
while, might as well show some style. Give us a
smile. Isnt it a lovely ride? Slidin down,
glidin down. Try not to try too hard. Its just
a lovely ride.
67Now, the thing about time is that time isnt
really real. Its just your point of view. How
does it feel for you? Einstein said he could
never understand it all. Planets are spinning
through space. Smile upon your face. Welcome to
the human race. Some kind of lovely ride. Ill
be slidin down, Ill be glidin down. Try not to
try too hard. Its just a lovely ride. Isnt it
a lovely ride? See me slidin down, glidin
down. Try not to try too hard. Its just a
lovely ride. The secret o life is enjoying the
passage of time.