SelfControl

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Self-Control
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Talking Point 1

• Why is it important to stay calm? What suffers
  when we dont?
• What role do the pre-frontal lobes play?

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Talking Point 2

• Why can one small hassle drive us over the brink?
• Describe a time when this happened to you.
• What effect does cortisol have?
• What other stresses had preceded the incident you
  recalled?

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Talking Point 3

• What are the Just Say No circuits?
• Why are some people resilient while others get
  upset?
• Which are you?
• How does this relate to self-control?

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Talking Point 4

• How can bad moods be used to our advantage?
• Describe a time when you were able to channel
  negative emotion into a positive action.

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Talking Point 5

• What hazards can arise from over control?

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Talking Point 6

• What does emotional competence mean? What does
  it look like?
• How is self-regulation created?

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Self- Regulation
Managing ones internal states, impulses
resources

• Self-Control
• Managing disruptive emotions impulses
  effectively
• Managing impulsive feelings distressing
  emotions well
• Stay composed, positive unflappable even in
  trying moments
• Think clearly stay focused under pressure

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Talking Point 7

• Why do bosses create stress at work? What may
  they be trying to accomplish?
• What can they create instead?

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Talking Point 8

• Why are stress management techniques helpful?
  What can they create?
• What stress management techniques do you use?

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Talking Point 9

• What work relationship has the greatest impact on
  our emotional physical health why?

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Talking Point 10

• What is the relationship between your brain
  your health?
• What role does cortisol play?
• Have you ever observed / experienced this
  relationship between emotions physical illness?

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Talking Point 11

• How does self-awareness pay off? What benefits
  does one reap?

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Talking Point 12

• Do you know any unflappable imploders? Describe
  him or her.

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Talking Point 13

• What can you learn about self-control from cops?

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Talking Point 14

• What is the difference between good stress bad
  stress in terms
• of behavior?
• of biochemistry?
• What state allows for peak performance?

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Good Stress
Bad Stress

• States
• overwhelmed
• paralyzed
• demoralized
• Biochemistry
• parasympathetic nervous system
• cortisol

• States
• mobilized
• motivated
• high energy
• maximal effort
• positive mood
• Biochemistry
• sympathetic nervous system
• catecholamines
• adrenaline
• noradrenaline

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Self- Regulation
Managing ones internal states, impulses
resources

• Trustworthiness
• Displaying honesty integrity
• Act ethically are above reproach
• Build trust through their reliability
  authenticity
• Admit their own mistakes confront unethical
  actions in others
• Take touch, principled stands even if they are
  unpopular

• Conscientiousness
• Maintaining integrity taking responsibility for
  personal performance
• Meet commitments keep promises
• Hold themselves accountable for meeting their
  objectives
• Are organized careful in their work

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Talking Point 15

• Describe someone you consider to have integrity.
  How do they behave?

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Talking Point 16

• Have you ever been asked to behave unethically on
  the job? How did you handle it?

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Talking Point 17

• Why is impulse control, self-restraint important?
  What does allow to occur?
• Describe a time when impulse control kept you
  from doing something self-destructive.

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Talking Point 18How conscientious are you?

• punctual
• careful in doing work
• self-disciplined
• scrupulous in attending to responsibilities
• follow the rules
• help out
• concerned about co-workers
• get to work on time
• never abuse sick leave
• always get things done on deadline

• absence of empathy
• lack of social skills
• hold others to own standards
• overly judgmental
• critical of co-workers
• strained relationships
• relentless conformity
• damper on creativity

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Self- Regulation
Managing ones internal states, impulses
resources

• Adaptability
• Flexibility in handling change challenges
• Smoothly handle multiple demands, shifting
  priorities rapid change
• Adapt their responses tactics to fit fluid
  circumstances
• Are flexible in how they see events

• Innovation
• Being open to novel ideas, approaches new
  information
• See out fresh ideas from a wide variety of
  sources
• Entertain original solutions to problems
• Generate new ideas
• Take fresh perspectives risks in their thinking

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Talking Point 19

• Have you ever resisted change on the job? What
  emotions were involved?

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Talking Point 20

• Describe a time when you experienced a
  creativity killer.
• surveillance
• evaluation
• over-control
• relentless deadlines

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Talking Point 21

• What is the relationship of emotion to
  innovation?
• Of self-control innovation?

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Self- Regulation
Managing ones internal states, impulses
resources

• Self-Control
• Managing disruptive emotions impulses
  effectively
• Managing impulsive feelings distressing
  emotions well
• Stay composed, positive unflappable even in
  trying moments
• Think clearly stay focused under pressure

• Trustworthiness
• Displaying honesty integrity
• Act ethically are above reproach
• Build trust through their reliability
  authenticity
• Admit their own mistakes confront unethical
  actions in others
• Take touch, principled stands even if they are
  unpopular

• Conscientiousness
• Maintaining integrity taking responsibility for
  personal performance
• Meet commitments keep promises
• Hold themselves accountable for meeting their
  objectives
• Are organized careful in their work

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Self- Regulation
Managing ones internal states, impulses
resources

• Adaptability
• Flexibility in handling change challenges
• Smoothly handle multiple demands, shifting
  priorities rapid change
• Adapt their responses tactics to fit fluid
  circumstances
• Are flexible in how they see events

• Innovation
• Being open to novel ideas, approaches new
  information
• See out fresh ideas from a wide variety of
  sources
• Entertain original solutions to problems
• Generate new ideas
• Take fresh perspectives risks in their thinking