Valentine

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Valentines Day February 14
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St. Valentines Day

• Originated in the ancient Roman culture
• Lupercalla Celebrated on Feb 15th
• Cupid Roman god of love
• celebrations included men giving gifts to women
• Many couples got married at end of festival

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Cupid

• Son of Venus, god of love beauty
• In Greek he was called Eros
• First Pictures a strong, good looking man with
  wings
• Around 300 BC changed to a fat baby with wings
  who carried bows and arrow
• Cupid and hearts are still the main symbols on
  modern Valentines Day cards

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• History of St. Valentines Day

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The History of Valentine's Day

• The Catholic Church today recognizes at least
  three different saints named Valentine
• He was a martyr for helping Christians escape
  Roman prisons.
• 2. Valentine was a priest in 3rd Century (200s)

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Valentine was a priest in 3rd Century

• Emperor Claudius II wanted single soldiers
• Made a law for young men to marry
• Valentine rebelled against actions sent to
  death.

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The History of Valentine's Day
3. Another legend contends that
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The History of Valentine's Day

• Valentine sent to prison for being a Christian
• He fell in love with a female friend
• He would write Your Valentine
• He was killed for his belief

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The Development ofValentine's Day

• 496 AD, Pope Gelasius to Honor St. Valentine
• 1400s English Poet noted birds pairing Feb 14
• Book known as Canterbury Tales
• Love Birds developed match making
• Sharing of Gifts became the tradition
• 1700s England sharing of cards/letters
• Social Gatherings called Ball

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• Before going into customs of America for
  Valentines Day a question for you
• Tell me about Chinese Valentines Day in China
  called "The Night of Sevens"?

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• Current Valentines Day Customs

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Valentine's Day Cards

• Children and adults give valentines to
  family and special friends. A valentine card may
  say,
• Be my Valentine.
• Basically it means, Be a special person in my
  life who cares about me, because you are
  important to me. I love you please love me.

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Valentine's Day Cards

• Oldest known Card was written in 1415 in London
• Mid 1700s handwritten notes
• End of 1700s printed cards
• Low postage rates contributed to the popularity
  of sending Valentine's Day cards.

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Valentine's Day Cards
US Americans probably began exchanging hand-made
valentines in the early 1700s.

• In the 1840s, Esther A. Howland began to sell the
  first mass-produced valentines in the USA.

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Valentines Day Commerce

• 2.6 Billion cards (2nd to Christmas)
• 85 purchased by women

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Valentines Day Commerce

• Popular Gifts
• Flowers account for 32 of annual sales for
  florists
• 110 million roses mostly red
• US American consumers spend 30 million/year on
  Valentine's Day.
• Chocolate Candy shaped in heart
• Dinner and a movie

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Meaning of flowers

• Red A very close friendship, love "I Love You"
• Pink Grace, gentle feelings of love and
  friendship
• Dark Pink Gratitude
• Light Pink Admiration, sympathy
• White Innocence, purity, friendship (good for
  casual friends)
• Yellow Joy and deep friendship or platonic love.
  In German speaking countries, however, they can
  mean jealousy and infidelity.
• Yellow with red tips Friendship, falling in love
  
• Orange Passion
• Burgundy Beauty
• Blue Mystery
• Green Calm
• Black used to signify death removing a bad
  habit.
• Purple protection (paternal/maternal love)

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What do Husbands like to receive for Valentines
Day

• Sports Magazine Subscription
• Home Cooked Meal
• Wife to do male chores around the house
• Wash Car
• Take out trash
• Clean Garage
• Stuffed animal ornament

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What do wives like to receive for Valentines Day

• A Card
• A singing telegram
• Jewelry
• A dinner out
• Dancing (especially Ball Room)
• Candy
• Flowers
• A Vacation such as a cruise or trip to the
  mountains

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What is appropriate to give a boyfriend

• Moms Cooking
• Electronics with I love you engraved
• Champagne or wine
• Gift Card
• Watch, Coffee Mug, or Neck Tie
• Sports Equipment
• Card
• Favorite dessert as a heart

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What is appropriate to give a girlfriend

• Flowers
• A small gift (book, CD, inexpensive jewelry)
• Candy
• Dinner

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Valentines Day Customs

• Elementary school children often share simple
  valentines cards and candies with other students
  in their class.
• Children may make valentine cards by hand to
  give to their family members or favorite friends.

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Valentines Day Customs

• Lovers give gifts to each other
• poems
• flowers
• candy
• chocolate
• Or diamonds Valentines Day is a popular day
  for couples to become engaged to be married.

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Let Me Call You Sweetheart

• Here are some terms of endearment, that is,
  special or favorite names to call your lover in
  English
• Sweetheart Dear
• Sweetie, Sweetie Pie Baby, Babe
• Honey, honey bee/bear My love
• Sugar

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Idioms related to romance and romantic
relationships

• To go Dutch (or Dutch treat)
• To have a crush on someone
• Break someone's heart
• A heart-to-heart chat
• To have ones heart set on (someone or something)
• The guy is robbing the cradle.
• They are getting ready to tie the knot.

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More idioms related to the heart

• After one's own heart
• Eat one's heart out
• To take heart
• From the bottom of one's heart
• To do something to ones hearts content

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• True Love

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Love

• What is love? Why do people need to be loved?
• When a person is loved, it means he or she is
  important to, desired or needed by another
  person. That gives significance and value to his
  or her life. What we humans need is for someone
  to love us, even when they know what we are like,
  with all our faults.

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Love

• But human love often disappoints us.
• We all make mistakes
• We often hurt the one we most love
• We do/say unkind things we need to understand
  how to love each other

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Love

• Our desire for love can be satisfied!
• There is someone who loves you with a strong,
  unchanging, perfect, never-ending love!
• And He knows you completely, totally, inside and
  out!
• God showed his love for us
• In his life and attitude through Jesus
• Jesus loved everyone unconditionally

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General Friendship thoughts

• What is the difference between an acquaintance
  and a friend?
• How does an acquaintance develop into friendship?
• What activities or behavior strengthen
  friendship?
• What is the difference between friendship
  patterns in the United States and in your
  country?
• Is it possible to be friends with someone of the
  opposite sex?
• Is it possible to be friends with God?

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• Gods great love

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True Love

• God wants us to have a relationship with him
• Gods love for you is strong, perfect and eternal
  (more than human love)

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Jesus teaching about love

• For God loved the world so much that he gave
  his one and only Son, so that everyone who
  believes in him will not perish but have eternal
  life. God sent his Son into the world not to
  judge the world, but to save the world through
  him. John 316-17

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Jesus teaching about love

• Teacher, which is the most important
  commandment in the law of Moses? Jesus replied,
  You must love the Lord your God with all your
  heart, all your soul, and all your mind. This
  is the first and greatest commandment. A second
  is equally important Love your neighbor as
  yourself. The entire law and all the demands of
  the prophets are based on these two
  commandments. Matthew 2236-40

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Jesus teaching about love

• So now I am giving you a new commandment Love
  each other. Just as I have loved you, you should
  love each other. Your love for one another will
  prove to the world that you are my disciples.
  John 133435
• But to you who are willing to listen, I say,
  love your enemies! Do good to those who hate
  you. Bless those who curse you. Pray for those
  who hurt you. Luke 627-28

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Pauls teaching about love

• And this hope will not lead to disappointment.
  For we know how dearly God loves us, because he
  has given us the Holy Spirit to fill our hearts
  with his love. When we were utterly helpless,
  Christ came at just the right time and died for
  us sinners. Now, most people would not be
  willing to die for an upright person, though
  someone might perhaps be willing to die for a
  person who is especially good. But God showed
  his great love for us by sending Christ to die
  for us while we were still sinners. Romans 55-8

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Pauls teaching about love

• Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous
  or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand
  its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps
  no record of being wronged. It does not rejoice
  about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth
  wins out. Love never gives up, never loses
  faith, is always hopeful, and endures through
  every circumstance. 1 Corinthians 134-7
• And may the Lord make your love for one another
  and for all people grow and overflow, just as our
  love for you overflows. 1 Thessalonians 312

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Pauls teaching about love

I pray that from his glorious, unlimited
resources he will empower you with inner strength
through his Spirit. Then Christ will make his
home in your hearts as you trust in him. Your
roots will grow down into Gods love and keep you
strong. And may you have the power to
understand, as all Gods people should, how wide,
how long, how high, and how deep his love is.
May you experience the love of Christ, though it
is too great to understand fully. Then you will
be made complete with all the fullness of life
and power that comes from God. Ephesians 316-19
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Johns teaching about love

• Dear friends, let us continue to love one
  another, for love comes from God. Anyone who
  loves is a child of God and knows God. But
  anyone who does not love does not know God, for
  God is love.  God showed how much he loved us by
  sending his one and only Son into the world so
  that we might have eternal life through him.
  This is real lovenot that we loved God, but that
  he loved us and sent his Son as a sacrifice to
  take away our sins. Dear friends, since God
  loved us that much, we surely ought to love each
  other. No one has ever seen God. But if we love
  each other, God lives in us, and his love is
  brought to full expression in us. I John 47-12

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The 5 Love Languages

• Words of Affirmation
• Quality Time
• Receiving Gifts
• Acts of Service
• Physical Touch

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Words of Affirmation

• You look sharp in that suit
• You look nice in that dress
• You must be the best ____ cook in the world.
• I really appreciate you washing the dishes
• Thanks for getting the baby-sitter lined up
  tonight
• I appreciate you taking out the garbage.

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Proverbs 1821
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Proverbs 1225
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Quality Time

• Undivided attention not watching TV
• Take a weekend get away vacation
• Eat out (get a baby sitter can be simple
  inexpensive or elaborate)
• Spend time playing with the children
• How was your day at the dinner table
• Go on a picnic on Saturday or Sunday
• Go on a walk together
• Work on a project together

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Receiving Gifts

• Visual symbols of love
• Doesnt have to be expensive
• Can be something made
• Examples
• Candy
• Flowers
• CD
• something for the house
• small electronics
• gift certificate

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Acts of Service

• Doing things around the house
• Getting Dinner Ready
• Cleaning the house
• Taking the child to _____ practice

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Galatians 513
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Physical Touch

• Types
• Hug
• Kiss
• Back rub
• Intimacy in Marriage
• Caution some cultures dont feel comfortable
  with this in public

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Mark 1013-16
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Discovering your Love Language

• What hurts you the most? The opposite of this is
  perhaps your love language.
• What have you most requested from your
  spouse/girlfriend?
• How do you express your love? This may take some
  trial and error.

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How to respect a woman

• Dos
• Listen
• Thank her for help
• Open the car door for them ladies first
• Dont
• Be condescending

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How to respect a Man

• Do
• Praise him
• Offer help
• Dont
• Be a back seat driver

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Questions for discussion

• What do you look for in a girl friend/boyfriend?
• What is different between dating in your country
  compared to the United States?

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A wife of Nobel Character Proverbs 3110,30
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Shaun Priya Testimony

• Isaiah 437
• everyone who is called by my name, whom I created
  for my glory, whom I formed and made."

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Shaun Priya Testimony

• Isaiah 4310
• "You are my witnesses," declares the LORD

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Shaun Priya Testimony

• Isaiah 4321
• the people I formed for myself that they may
  proclaim my praise.

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Shaun Priya Testimony

• Job 121
• and said "Naked I came from my mother's womb,
  and naked I will depart. The LORD gave and the
  LORD has taken away may the name of the LORD be
  praised."

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Shaun Priya Testimony

• Song of Songs 51
• I have come into my garden, my sister, my bride

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Shaun Priya Testimony

• Song of Songs 15
• Dark am I, yet lovely, O daughters of Jerusalem,
  dark like the tents of Kedar, like the tent
  curtains of Solomon.

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Shaun Priya Testimony

• Acts 538-39
• Therefore, in the present case I advise you
  Leave these men alone! Let them go! For if their
  purpose or activity is of human origin, it will
  fail.
• But if it is from God, you will not be able to
  stop these men you will only find yourselves
  fighting against God."

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The End