Developing Relationships Parents, Students, Coaches, Administrators

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Developing RelationshipsParents, Students,
Coaches, Administrators

• Gregory Dale, Ph.D.
• Duke University

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Kids Today

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• The children now love luxury they have bad
  manners, contempt of authority they show
  disrespect for their elders and love chatter in
  place of exercise. Children are now tyrants, not
  the servants of their households. They no longer
  rise when elders enter the room. They contradict
  their parents, chatter before company, gobble
  their food at the table, and tyrannize their
  teachers.
• Socrates 399 B.C.

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The Triangle

• Student-Athlete
• Administrator
• Coach Parent

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Questions to Ponder

• How would you describe the athletic culture at
  your school?
• How would administrators from other schools
  describe the athletic culture at your school?
• Do you have a clear set of values or principles
  that are effectively communicated to everyone?
• What type of continuing education program do you
  have in place for your coaches?
• What steps are you taking to proactively educate
  parents about their roles?
• Do you have a systematic program in place that
  focuses on character development and leadership
  training for your student athletes?
• Do you ever feel like you are beating your head
  against the wall?

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• People have to know that you care enough to
  provide the very best and that you havent lost
  your passion for kids.

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Values

• Identify 3-4 core values that you believe are the
  foundation of your program.
• Rank the values in order of importance.
• Involve others in the process.
• Implement a format to continuously remind
  everyone of the core values.

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Coaches

• Growing number of non-teachers coaching
• Challenge, Reaffirm and Educate Them
• Definition of Success
• Where does winning and their egos fit in that
  definition?
• Their Credibility
• Essential to their success
• Fragile
• Must be earned

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Coaches cont.

• Stages of coaching
• Survival
• Success
• Significance
• Satisfied
• Spent

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Coaches cont.

• Their Legacy
• Key components of credibility
• Character
• Competent
• Committed
• Caring
• Confidence-Builders
• Communicators
• Consistent

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Parents

• Most have their hearts in the right place
• A Nation of Wimps
• Why kids play and why they stop playing
• Lessons parents want kids to learn
• Keys for parents
• Teach and model the lessons
• Behave themselves in the stands
• Have a life of their own
• Make it work with the coach
• Allow and encourage kids to participate in more
  than one sport through high school
• Build rather than destroy your childs confidence
• Allow your child to enjoy the journey

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Estimated Probability of an Athlete
Competing in Athletics Beyond the High School
Interscholastic Level
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Student-Athletes

• Educational Programming
• Involve coaches whenever possible
• Character Counts
• Heart of a Champion
• Leadership development
• Others?

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Some Final Thoughts

• Take a critical look at the culture of the
  athletic program.
• Are you doing everything you can to make it a
  positive culture?
• Important to let people know you care enough to
  provide the very best
• You got in this business because you had a big
  engine for kids.
• Dont lose that passion.

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Address Correspondence to

• Gregory A. Dale, Ph.D.
• PO Box 90548
• Duke University
• Durham, NC 27708
• Phone [phone]
• Fax [phone]
• Email gdale_at_duke.edu
• Website www.excellenceinperformance.com