Family Time: Parenting Teenagers

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Family Time Parenting Teenagers

• making the most of the years

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Course Outline

• A Galaxy Far, Far Away
• the teenage universe
• On The Radar Screen
• teenage communication
• Built To Last
• teenage character

• Boundaries and Battlefields
• teenage tensions
• Security, Sex Substances
• teenage issues
• Consumerism, Cash and Cyberspace
• teenage pressures

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Review of the week
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Session 4Boundaries Battlefields

• Setting boundaries
• Facing conflict
• Recognising peer pressure

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A. TO BOLDLY GO
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Bible View

• Fathers, do not exasperate your children
  instead bring them up in the training and
  instruction of the Lord
• Ephesians 64

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1. Set boundaries

• As hard as it is, our role must move from
  controller to consultant
• Daniel Hahn

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2. Encourage responsibility

• Help them to own their choices.

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3. Be ready to say no

• Have a united front.
• Saying no proves we care, not that we dont.

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4. Work out the consequences
Did they cross the boundary

• without realising?
• by an error?
• through inexperience?
• attention seeking?
• to challenge us?

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B. EMPIRE WARS
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1. Always ask yourself Is it worth the fight?

• Keep the guns for the big issues

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Bible View

• Train a child in the way he should go, and when
  he is old he will not turn back from it
• Proverbs 226

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2. Check yourself before you check them

• Three of our most common problems as parents
  are
• feeling low
• feeling tired
• feeling anxious

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3. Learn how to face conflict it isnt always a
bad thing

• Self-control is something we most need when we
  least want it!
• Three donts
• dont overreact
• dont jump to conclusions
• dont be hurtful

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4. Shouting is just louder, not necessarily more
effective!

• necessary shouting
• unnecessary shouting

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5. Remember how important it is to say sorry and
move on.

• When was the last time you apologised or should
  have apologised to your teenager?

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Bible View

• Fathers, do not embitter your children, or they
  will become discouraged
• Colossians 321

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C. AN ARMY OF CLONES
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Coping with peer pressure

• At the heart of each of us is a need to belong
  Paul Tripp

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Book of the Week
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Discussion Groups
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Taking it Further
Family Time Parenting Teenagers