Help I am THE Leader

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Help! I am THE Leader?

• NOBA 2007 Association Summit
• January 6-8, 2007
• Southwestern Baptist Theological Seminary Fort
  Worth, Texas

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Help! I Am THE Leader?

• If you are GROUCHY, IRRITABLE, or just plain MEAN
  there will be a 10 charge for putting up with
  you!

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Help ! I Am THE Leader?

• RELATIONSHIPS DEFINED
• The way in which two or more people feel and
  behave towards each other.
• A particular type of connection existing between
  people related to or having dealings with each
  other.
• The condition or fact of being associated or
  connected.

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Common Pitfalls in Relationships

• Lack of Communication
• The church and leaders must own change before
  they can embrace it.
• Inadequate Reponses to Resistant People
• Hear the hurts of people be flexible.
• Too Much Too Soon
• Gods wisdom must be sought to discern the pace
  of change and leadership initiatives.

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Common Pitfalls in Relationships

• Over Dependence on Methodologies
• Evaluate them critically in light of the church's
  uniqueness and the parameters of Scripture.
• Borrowing Vision
• God's vision for each church is unique. Help
  churches and leaders to establish their God given
  vision.

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Common Pitfalls in Relationships

• Lack of Commitment
• Leading a church to growth can be a long-term
  process. Many pastors want to either climb the
  ecclesiastical ladder to a larger church, or are
  satisfied with the status quo and are unwilling
  to rock the boat.
• Summary
• Most pastors, staff, and church leaders lack
  listening and people skills.

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Relationships in Ministry

• Ministry is Communication
• Communication is Relationships
• Relationships is Action
• Action is Ministry
• We are responsible to challenge and precipitate
  a continuous flow in leaders.

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Relationships in Ministry

• Be proactive with every Pastor and staff member
  in your association.
• Begin building relationships by spending time in
  their office and at lunch with them.
• Let them know that you are their Pastor and your
  utmost desire is to help them become effective as
  leaders.

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Relationships in Ministry

• Establish a routine of contacting pastors and
  church staff personally by phone and e-mail.
• Send birthday, wedding anniversary, and tenure
  greetings to all pastors and staff.
• Become committed to being a mentor and coach to
  pastors, staff, and church leadership on a
  personal level and through a mentoring circle.

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Purpose Statement

• The purpose and process of mentoring is a
  biblical principle that God has ordained for His
  ministers to gain insight and experience to
  effectively fulfill God's call on their life! In
  essence, the Scripture says, Iron sharpens
  iron. (Proverbs 2717)

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Purpose Statement

• The mission of FBA Mentoring Ministry is to coach
  and mentor/facilitate spiritual leaders and equip
  them with the heart and skills to lead God's
  Church effectively in the 21st century.

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Mission Statements

• The mission of our Mentoring Ministry is to
  coach, mentor, and equip by sharpening ministry
  skills.
• Amaxa Leadership was begun to coach leaders to
  reach their maximum potential.
• www.amaxaleadership.com

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Mentoring Covenant

• The following agreements can be modified only in
  the beginning
• 1.) Meet on the fourth Thursday each month
  (excluding June, July, and December) from 900
  a.m. until Noon.
• 2.) Meet for a minimum of nine months, except
  June July December
• 3.) Participate in telephone consultations if
  desired.
• 4.) Commit to 100 attendance barring illness or
  hopelessly ditched oxen.
• 5.) Commit to openness and honesty in discussion.
• 6.) Commit to 100 confidentiality concerning
  things shared in the group.

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Mentoring Covenant

• 7.) Commit to assigned readings and tapes in
  advance of sessions.
• 8.) Commit to participate in projects.
• 9.) Commit to attend every meetingto the bitter
  end!
• 10.) Commit to one-on-one make-up (by phone if
  not in person) if a meeting is missed.
• 11.) There will be no cost for meetings.
• 12.) Signed
• Date

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Help! I Am THE Leader?

• Strengths and Weaknesses
• What area do you consider to be your strongest
  area of giftedness?
• In what areas do you feel least gifted?
• For what kind of ministry skills are most fully
  developed?
• In what ministry skills do you feel you most need
  to improve? 

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Help ! I Am THE Leader?

• Influences
• What Christian leaders have influenced you the
  most?
• What preachers do you most admire?
• In what ways would you hope to benefit from
  participation in a mentoring circle? 

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Help I Am THE Leader?

• Most pastors realize that some type of change
  must take place in their churches to effectively
  reach a growing, unchurched population.
• Many pastors face two major obstacles
• People Skills/Relationships
• The inability to apply known principles of change
  and communication

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Help I Am THE Leader?

• We desire to encourage and motivate ministers to
  implement principles of people skills, change,
  and transition by way of a long-term, deliberate
  process one step at a time.
• The initial part of this process begins with you
  as a PERSON in your relationship to God and then
  moves into your PARTNER and PARENTAL
  relationships. This process culminates with your
  PROFESSIONAL relationships as a PASTOR/MINISTER.

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Overview of the Year

• Personal
• Ministry/purpose statement, identifying gifts and
  character traits, spiritual energy.
• Partner/Parental
• Ministry at home, shepherding the family.

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Help I Am THE Leader? Overview

• Pastor/Professional
• Motivation and discovery to develop interpersonal
  and leadership skills as iron sharpens iron.
• Problems/Preferences
• How to deal with, equip, and motivate sheep
  organizational streamlining communication
  people skills.

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Help! I Am THE Leader? Mentoring Ministries

• Time Frame of a Typical Mentoring Meeting
• 1st Quadrant Bonding Time
• Go around a circle and allow each person to share
  what is going on in his life, family, and
  ministry.
• 2nd Quadrant Problem Solving
• Through brain storming, put a ministry challenge
  or problem someone is dealing with on the table
  and let the group attach it with combined
  insights and expertise.
• 3rd Quadrant Teaching Input
• Teaching input by facilitator. Curriculum is
  based primarily on needs and requests of
  participants.
• 4th Quadrant Season of Prayer
• Emphasis is put on prayer requests and answers to
  prayer.

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Perennial (Ongoing)

• Purpose
• Write individual and church purpose statements.
• (Mission)
• Priority
• Prioritize my purpose in ministry (Vision)
• Plans
• Categorize objectives into one-year, three-year,
  five-year, and ten-year segments (Priorities)

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Help ! I Am the Leader?

• Procedures
• List systematically how to accomplish your plans
  (goals).
• Process
• List a method(s) for checking your progress.
  Accountability is a must.
• Promotion
• Determine how to promote your vision and motivate
  others to develop their vision.

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Help ! I Am THE Leader?

• Assignments
• Read accountability booklet.
• Write personal profile
• Develop mission and philosophy statement.
• Required reading of at least one book of 200
  pages OR 2 100 pages per month.
• Write one page bibliography on books read to be
  shared with fellow classmates.

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Help! I Am THE Leader?

• Begin each session with a heart check-up.
• Enumerate what is happening in you life, family,
  and ministry.
• What are your greatest fears?
• What are your greatest joys?
• What are your greatest challenges?

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Help ! I Am THE Leader?

• Conduct personal and leadership profiles.
• Adult Disc Survey by Ken Voges
• Uniquely You by Mels Carbonell, PH.D
• Intimacy Needs Assessment Brad Riza, Director
  of Missions, Paluxy Baptist Association, Texas

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Help ! I Am THE Leader?

• Unhealthy Thinking Assessment Brad Riza,
  Director of Missions, Paluxy Baptist Association,
  Texas
• Leadership Traits Inventory Brad Riza, Director
  of Missions, Paluxy Baptist Association, Texas
• Team Profile System Clint Anderson, Director of
  Missions, Williamson Baptist Association, Texas
• Church Strategic Planning J.W. Minton, Director
  of Missions, Bluebonnet Baptist Association,
  Texas
• Accountability (Developing Relationships for
  Spiritual Growth Protection) David Atchison
  and Billy Beacham
• www.gosdm.org
• 800-880-8736

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Help ! I Am THE Leader?

• Recommended Books
• Bellman, G.M. Getting Things Done when You Are
  Not in Charge
• Bolton, R. People Skills
• Susek, R. Firestorm Preventing and Overcoming
  Church Conflicts
• Sande, K. The Peacemaker A Biblical Guide to
  Resolving Personal Conflict
• Ford, Layton. Transforming Leadership
• Haugk, Kenneth C. Antagonists In The Church How
  to Identify Deal with Destructive Conflict

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Relationships in Ministry

• Johnson, Spencer. Who Moved My Cheese
• Piper, John. Let The Nations Be Glad
• Piper, John. Brothers, We Are Not Professionals
  A Plea to Pastors For Radical Ministry
• Cymbala, Jim. Fresh Wind, Fresh Fire
• Anderson, Lynn. They Smell Like Sheep
• Foster, Richard. Celebration of Discipline
• Rainer, Tom. Eating the Elephant

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Relationships In Ministry

• Warren, Rick. The Purpose Driven Church
• Mandino, Og. The Greatest Salesman in the World
• Wilkes, Gene. Jesus on Leadership
• Wilkes, Gene. Paul on Leadership
• Blackaby, Henry. The Power of the Call
• Easum, William M. Scared Cows Make Gourmet
  Burgers Ministry Anytime, Anywhere by Anyone
• Elmore, Ted. Mentoring How to Invest Your Life
  in Others