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Title: Teen Dating Violence


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Teen Dating Violence
  • Mesa Police Department
  • Family Violence Unit

2
How serious is this problem?
Place local news casts regarding DV here or crime
scene photos
3
  • What is teen dating violence?It is what happens
    in a teen dating relationship when one person
    uses physical , emotional or sexual abuse to gain
    power and keep control over the other person. 

4
Love shouldnt hurt!
  • Dating Violence is not an argument once in a
    while. It is a continual pattern of abusive
    and or violent behavior.
  • 1 in 3 teens will be in a dating/abusive
    relationship.

5
Statistics
  • A female is battered every nine
    seconds.California Alliance Against Domestic
    Violence, 1994
  • It is estimated that one third of all high school
    and college students will have been in an abusive
    relationship by the time they graduate.Levy,
    1992
  • Relationship violence is the number one cause of
    injury to women ages 15-44 more than rapes,
    muggings and car accidents combined.Center For
    Community Solutions, 1997
  • Violence happens in same-sex relationships too.
    When it does, gay and lesbian teenagers often
    dont know where to turn for help. If they are
    not comfortable telling people that theyre gay,
    that makes the situation even harder. (AzCADV)
  • Girls are not the only ones who are abused
    physically or emotionally in relationships. Boys
    also experience abuse, especially psychological
    abuse. Boys rarely are hurt physically in
    relationships, but when it happens its often
    severe. Boys can also be pressured or forced into
    unwanted sex, by girls or other boys.(AzCADV)
  • 95 of abusers are male.

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Stats continued
  • 30 of all teens report worrying about their
    personal physical safety in a relationship.
  • 29 have been pressured to have sex or engage in
    sex when they do not want to.
  • 20 report that they have been hit , slapped, or
    pushed by a partner.

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How do you know if you are being abused?
  • Take the relationship quiz?

8
Are you going out with someone that..
  • is jealous and possessive, won't let you have
    friends, checks up on you, won't accept breaking
    up?
  • tries to control you by being bossy, giving
    orders, making all the decisions, not taking your
    opinions seriously?
  • puts you down in front of friends, tells you that
    you would be nothing without him?
  • scares you?
  • makes you worry about his reactions to things you
    say or do?
  • threatens you?
  • uses weapons to threaten and intimidate you?
  • is violent?
  • has a history of fighting, loses temper quickly,
    brags about mistreating others?
  • grabs, pushes, shoves, or hits you?
  • pressures you for sex or is forceful or scary
    about sex?
  • gets too serious about the relationship too fast?
  • abuses alcohol or other drugs and pressures you
    to take them?
  • has a history of failed relationships, and blames
    the other person for all the problems?
  • makes your family and friends uneasy and
    concerned for your safety?
  • makes you feel like you need to apologize to
    yourself or others for your boyfriend's behavior
    when he treats you badly?
  • These are all considered RED FLAGS

9
What do you experience being in an abusive
relationship?
  • Fear
  • Isolation
  • Low self esteem
  • Denial
  • Blame
  • Depressed
  • The isolation of abusive relationships provides
    an ideal climate for the progression of
    addictions.
  • i.e. Drugs, alcohol, eating disorders, cutting.

10
Cassies Story
Barbara Dehl is a 47-year-old mother of 4
daughters who lives in Nampa, Idaho. On December
4, 1999, after nearly a 3 year battle with local
authorities in Soda Springs, Idaho, her 17 year
old daughter, Cassandra Cassie Marie Dehl, a
high school senior, was killed by her abusive
older boyfriend. After several years of beatings
and attempted strangulation at the hands of her
boyfriend, Cassie died. Her boyfriends truck
plunged 400 feet from a forest service road into
an old abandoned mining pit. Cassies abusive
boyfriend was not in the truck as it crashed down
the embankment, but Cassie was. This accident was
not reported for more than 15 hours and the fact
that Cassie was in the wreckage and left at the
scene was not reported for nearly 18 hours. When
investigators finally arrived at the scene,
Dehls beautiful 17-year-old daughter, who wanted
to be a first grade teacher, was dead, her body
frozen solid. Cassie suffered years of abuse at
the hands of her boyfriend and it was learned
after her death that her boyfriend strangled
Cassie days before she died.

11
Vicki and Jenny Crompton
  • Jenny Crompton was 15 years old when her High
    School boyfriend stabbed her 66 times.
  • Police say he was waiting in her house when she
    got home from school, angry that Jenny had
    recently broken off their volatile year-long
    relationship.
  • Jennys mom ,Vicki, wrote a book titled, Saving
    Beauty from the Beast that teaches parents how
    to protect their children from unhealthy
    relationships.

12
PSAs
Get Public service announcements from
Seeitandstopit.org. Place them into your power
point.
13
Activity(Role play)Wheel of Misfortune
  • Power and Control wheel is a tool used to educate
    victims on the tactics that abusers use to gain
    power and control over a person.
  • Rules
  • You will be assigned a Player (1 or 2)
  • Spin the power and control wheel.
  • Two players will act out the tactic the arrow
    lands on. The scenario will be given to you.
    Player 1 will be the abuser and Player 2 will be
    the victim.
  • Act out the scenario.
  • Audience will determine how Player 1 is gaining
    power and control over player 2

14
Dating Bill of Rights
  • I have the right
  • To ask for date.
  • To refuse a date.
  • To be treated with respect always.
  • To choose and keep my friends.
  • To tell my partner when I need affection.
  • To refuse affection.
  • To change my mind - at any time.
  • To leave a relationship.
  • To be treated as an equal.
  • To refuse sex at any time for any reason.

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As a boyfriend or girlfriend
  • I have the responsibility
  • To determine my limits and values.
  • To communicate clearly and honestly.
  • To ask for help when I need it.
  • To not humiliate or demean my boyfriend or
    girlfriend.
  • To refuse to abuse - physically, emotionally or
    sexually.
  • To take care of myself.
  • To respect myself and my boyfriend or
    girlfriend.
  • To allow my boyfriend or girlfriend to maintain
    their individuality.
  • To be honest with each other.

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The truth about abuse
  • It is a learned behavior. People are not born to
    abuse others. Sometimes abusers grow up in
    violent homes and continue the cycle in their own
    personal relationships.
  • Drugs/Alcohol DO NOT cause someone to be violent.
    These chemicals just aggravate the situation.
  • Dating Violence is not anger out of control.
  • Domestic Violence/ Dating Violence is using anger
    to gain power and control over someone.
  • Most of the time abusers will never get better
    because it is a learned behavior and cannot be
    unlearned. Sort of like learning to ride a bike
    You can never forget how to do that.
  • The best remedy for Domestic Violence besides
    education is to hold abusers accountable for
    their actions. Let them know that it is wrong and
    you wont stand for it.

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Where do we learn these abusive behaviors?
  • Violence in the home
  • Children raised in violent homes are
  • 6 times as likely to commit suicide
  • 26 times as likely to commit sexual assault
  • 57 times as likely to abuse drugs
  • 74 times as likely to commit other crimes against
    persons

18
Patriarchal Society and Historical View of Women
  • Whenever women and children are seen as
    belonging to a man, violence has been used as a
    tool of legitimate control.
  • In 584, 43 catholic bishops and 20 other men
    representing bishops took a vote to declare if
    women were human. The result was 32 yea and 31
    nay.
  • Thomas Edison said, Direct thought is not an
    attribute of femininity. In this, women are now
    centuries behind man.
  • Former U.S. President Grover Cleveland said,
    Sensible and responsible women do not want to
    vote.
  • In June of 1997, Justice Donald Roberts of
    Franklin County, NY said, every woman needs a
    good pounding now and then.

19
Socialization
  • Act Like a Man
  • Act Like a Woman
  • What stereotypes are you taught early on?
  • How are woman and men supposed to act?
  • What happens if you think outside the perceived
    stereotypes? Labels?
  • Class discussion

20
Media
  • Images you see in magazines and television that
    promote violence against women.
  • Popular Music and videos glorify violence against
    women and portray sexist attitudes towards women.

21
Bullying
  •       Perpetrators of domestic violence were
    often identified as bullies in school.1
  • Bullying is defined as something that someone
    repeatedly does or says to dominate or gain power
    over another person.

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Video 3In the Mix, Twisted Love
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Activity 2What would you say?
  • Rules-
  • Break up into groups.
  • Each group will receive a letter from a concerned
    teen about an abusive relationship. As a group
    read the letter and respond to the letter with
    advice.
  • Be honest in your responses.
  • Assign a spokesperson to read the response.
  • Discuss as a class your responses.
  • Think of different approaches. Be creative.

24
Tough Guise Part 2
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If I am being abused, What do I do?
  • Teen safety plan
  • If you believe you are at risk
  • Try not to be alone with them.
  • If youre going out arrange another way of
    getting home rather than going with them.
  • Dont drink or use drugs.
  • Always have extra money in case you have to call
    a taxi or make a phone call.
  • Make up a code word for family, friends,
    teachers so they know when to call for help.
  • Ask parents or family members to screen calls and
    visitors.
  • Take different routes or change the time that you
    leave if you think you will be followed.
  • If you want to break up, do it over the phone
    rather than in person.
  • Try talking to your parents, school personnel,
    counselorsthey can take the steps to protect
    you.
  • Take all threats of harm seriously and notify an
    adult because your safety may be at risk.

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Resources for teens
  • SafeYouth.org
  • http//www.uhavetheright.net/
  • National Domestic Violence Hotline
  • 1-800-799-SAFE (7233)1-800-787-3224 (TTY)
  • Your School Resource Officer or counselor can
    help.

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-Activity 3
  • EVERYONE STAND UP AND PLACE YOURSELF IN ONE OF
    THREE ANSWERS to the following statements.
    Discussion.
  • Agree
  • Disagree
  • Unsure
  • Women should be treated like Queens.
  • It is okay to hit a women as long as it is out of
    love and compassion.
  • A healthy relationship Equality
  • Most relationships that are only verbally abusive
    almost never turn violent.
  • Being an abuser is a choicebeing a victim is
    also a choice.
  • There is no exuse for abusing another person.
  • People who are more educated or have more
    resources are not as susceptible to abuse.
  • Boys that are abused by girls are sissies.

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Dating Quiz
  • Mesa receives approximately 300 cases of Domestic
    Violence each month.
  • The national average of DV cases that do get
    reported is 20
  • Abusive relationship are usually happy at first .
  • Most abuse does not escalate as time goes on.
  • Relationship abuse is all about one person being
    angry or on drugs or alcohol.
  • Victims in abusive relationships usually stay
    because they like it.
  • Abusive behavior is a learned behavior.
  • If there is abuse in the home, the young boys
    will automatically grow up to be abusers.
  • Abusers in relationships are generally 55 boys
    and 45 girls
  • If a man goes through anger management class or
    counseling, he will not try to gain power and
    control again.
  • The most dangerous time for a victim is when
    she does leave the relationship.

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Continue dating quiz
  • Just because a boy bullies other boys does not
    mean he is likely to bully other girls.
  • Men and Women should be treated as equals.

31
Reports
  • Law Enforcement agencies talk about DV casesread
    the reports.
  • More crimes scene photos.

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Evaluations
  • Did we make the grade?

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