Growing Great Girls

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Growing Great Girls
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• This workshop is a REPEAT
• of this mornings session.

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• You Cant Paint the Walls Pink and Call it a
  Girls Program

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Girls Psychology - Carol Gilligan

• Girls experience a psychic split
• They need to connect the inner and outer
• Women socialized to be self-less

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Girls Psychology

• Girls need to silence the false feminine voice
  and speak for themselves- sacrifice of self
• Boys a process of separation - Soldiers
• Girls a process of dissociation
• Premium on physical appearance and relationship

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• Speaking is relational connected to being heard
  resonance
• Girls have difficulty hearing their voice
• Girls often use voice to cover instead of convey

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• We experience the world differently
• Gender matters
• Intersections
• Dynamics of Oppression global dynamics
  objectification of women
• Polygamy case in Texas
• Reach potential

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Gender Responsive Services

• Designed to meet the unique needs of girls and
  takes into account female development and the
  female perspective
• Celebrates Girlhood
• Helps her find her voice
• Focuses on gender identity
• Builds her capacity and expands competency
• Leads to a process of self-discovery, self
  expression
• Holistic, strength-based, individualized and
  comprehensive
• Reach potential

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Holistic Approach

• Physical
• Sexual
• Emotional
• Relational
• Intellectual
• Spiritual

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• Best Practices
• Gender and Trauma
• Responsive Services

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• Herstory
• Context Content of experiences
• Identify the root causes vs. Symptoms
• Triggers and self-soothers
• Alignment - Referral - Diagnosis

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Stages of Trauma Recovery

• 1. Safety
• Tense Present (potential)
• Across all domains
• 2. Remembrance and Mourning
• Tense Past (pathology)
• Giving a voice to the unspeakable
• 3. Reconnection to Ordinary Life
• Tense Future
• Healing occurs in the context of relationships
• Judith Herman, M.D., Trauma and Recovery

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Physical Domain

• Developmentally Body is changing, nutrition,
  health issues, sleep disruption, self-injury,
  self-loathing
• Strategies Restore natural rhythms eating,
  sleeping, exercising
• Program Ideas Teach them about their bodies,
  cycles, access to health care, physical fitness

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Sexual Domain

• Developmentally Sexual development and identity,
  acting out, pregnancy and STD prevention
• Strategies Need education about their bodies
• Program Ideas Connect to a safe place,
  clinically address sexual trauma

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Symptoms secondary to sexual trauma

• Risk-taking behavior
• Sexual problems / dysfunction
• Sexual activity triggers memory of trauma
• Feelings of intolerable coercion during sexual
  activity
• Compulsive sexual behavior
• Significantly increased risk for rape, sexual
  harassment, battery
• Confusion with Sexual Orientation

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Statistics

• 10 of 12 year olds, 40 of 16 year olds and 80
  of 19 year olds have had sex
• Among girls who had sex before age 13, 22
  reported that first sexual experience was
  non-voluntary and an additional 49 categorized
  it as unwanted
• 30 of lesbian, gay, and bisexual adolescents
  attempt suicide

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• Many teens who have been sexually active wish
  they would have waited longer

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Statistics

• 88 of births by teen women are unintended
• 34 of young women become pregnant at least once
  prior to age 20
• About half of teens say they want more
  information about sexual health from their health
  care providers

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Sexual Domain Practices

• Use materials / language that honors all sexual
  orientations
• Use materials that assist girls in understanding
  their sexuality and creating / discovering
  guidelines for safe sexual activity
• A picture of sexual health for girls
• Offer guidelines for healthy sexual activity
• Teach them to listen to themselves and their
  bodies

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Emotional Domain

• Developmentally Resilient, negative,
  manipulative, co-occurring disorders, history of
  trauma, self-medication
• Strategies Identify triggers and self-soothers,
  build emotional knowledge, increase protective
  factors
• Program Ideas Individual, group, family therapy,
  gender identity life skills curriculum

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Intellectual Domain

• Developmentally Difficulty in school
• Strategies Education is empowering, young people
  need a voice in the design and evaluation of the
  program
• Program Ideas Individualize educational plans,
  journal writing, practical applications, youth
  development model, non-stereotyped career
  exploration

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Relational Domain

• Developmentally Contextual framework, loss of
  permanency, multiple family problems
• Strategies Creating Safe space
• Program Ideas Address relational aggression,
  family system approach

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Spiritual Domain

• Developmentally Encourage them think about how
  she is connected to something larger
• Strategies Foster balance of mind, body,
  spirit
• Program Ideas Art as a pathway to spiritual
  health, healing, giving of time and talents,
  teach spiritual tools, story telling

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Post Traumatic Stress Disorder

• Its not the Drama...
• Its the Trauma!
• Screen for both Exposure and Symptoms of Trauma
• -issues of historical trauma

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Complex Trauma

• CT exposure refers to the childs experiences of
  multiple traumatic events that occur within the
  care giving system-the social environment that is
  supposed to be the sources of safety and
  stability in their life.

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Complex Trauma Diagnostic Issues

• The current psychiatric diagnostic classification
  system does not have an adequate category to
  capture the full range of difficulties that
  traumatized children experience
• Although PTSD diagnosis is often used, it rarely
  captures the extent of the developmental impact
  of multiple and chronic traumatic exposure

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Complex Trauma

• Self-regulatory, attachment anxiety, affective
  disorders in infancy and childhood
• Addictions, aggression, social helplessness,
  eating disorders
• Dissociative, somatoform, cardiovascular,
  metabolic, immunological disorders
• Sexual disorders in adolescence adulthood
• Vacillating Victim, Victimizer, Re-enactor,
  Rescuer

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Do No Harm

• Elimination of Protocols that re-traumatize
• Forced disrobement, body cavity searches,
  solitary confinement, body wraps,
  institutionalized abuse, etc.

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• MOS DEF

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• You say one for the treble two for the time
• Come on y'all let's rock this
• You say one for the treble two for the time
• Come on

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• Speech is my hammer bang the world into shapeNow
  let it fall...
• My restlessness is my nemesisIt's hard to really
  chill and sit stillCommitted to page I write a
  rhymeSometimes won't finish for daysScrutinize
  my literature from the large to the miniatureI
  mathematically add-minister

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• Subtract the wackSelector, wheel it back, I'm
  feeling thatFrom the core to the perimeter
  black,You know the mottoStay fluid even in
  staccato

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• (Mos Def) Full blooded, full throttleBreathe
  deep inside the trunk hollowThere's the hum,
  young man where you fromBrooklyn number
  oneNative son, speaking in the native tongueI
  got my eyes on tomorrow (there it is)While you
  still try to follow where it is
• I'm on the Ave where it lives and dies

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• Violently, silentlyShine so vibrantly that eyes
  squint to catch a glimpseEmbrace the bass with
  my dark ink fingertipsUsed to speak the king's
  EnglishBut caught a rash on my lipsSo now my
  chat just like dis

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• Long range from the base-line Move like an
  apparitionFloat to the ground with ammunition
  Move from the gate, voice cued on your
  tapePutting food on your plateMany crews can
  relate

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• Who choosing your fate We went from picking
  cottonTo chain gang line choppingTo
  Be-BoppingTo Hip-HoppingBlues people got the
  blue chip stock option

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• Invisible man, got the whole world
  watching(where ya at) High, low, east,
  west,All over your mapI'm getting big props,
  with this thing called hip hopWhere you can
  either get paid or get shotWhen your product in
  stockThe fair-weather friends flockWhen your
  chart position dropThen the phone calls....

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• Chill for a minuteLet's see who else topsSnatch
  your shelf spotDon't gas yourself ockThe
  industry just a better built cell blockA long
  way from the shell topsAnd the bells that L
  rocked (rock, rock, rock, rock)

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• Hip Hop is prosecution evidenceThe out of court
  settlementAd space for liquorSick without
  benefits Luxury tenements choking the
  skylineIt's low life getting tree-top high

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• Here there's a back water remedyBitter intent to
  memoryA class E felonyFacing the death penalty
• Stimulant and sedative, original
  repetitiveViolently competitive, a school
  unaccredited

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• The break beats you get broken withon time and
  inappropriateHip Hop went from selling crack to
  smoking itMedicine for lonelinessRemind me of
  Thelonius and DizzyPropers to B-Boys getting
  busyThe war-time snap shotThe working man's
  jack-pot

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• A two dollar snack boxSold beneath the crack
  spotOlympic sponsor of the black glockGold
  medalist in the back shotFrom the sovereign
  state of the have-notsWhere farmers have trouble
  with cash crops

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• It's all city like phase twoHip Hop will simply
  amaze youCraze you, pay youDo whatever you say
  doBut black, it can't save you.

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Core Values of Growing Great GirlsLife Skills
Curriculum

• Protect
• Respect
• Connect

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Protect

• We will protect ourselves and others by creating
  and nurturing powerful boundaries across the six
  developmental domains. We will keep our eyes open
  and fearlessly care for the physical, sexual,
  emotional, relational, intellectual and spiritual
  domains with a priority on safety. We will care
  for one another with compassion, and bold
  forgiveness.

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Respect

• We will respect ourselves and others by honoring
  our individual wisdom and dignity. We will create
  a safe haven built on trust and mutual concern
  where we can open our hearts, listen to one
  anothers story, and be heard. We will believe
  in our unique potential, help each other stand,
  and see that each one of us grows stronger.

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Connect

• We come together in a spirit of gratitude to
  connect with ourselves and each another, creating
  bridges that unite us.  We will recognize the
  needs in our community, reach out, and act.  We
  will use our voices to call out to one another
  and confidently move into the future together.

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• Wild Geese
• by Mary Oliver

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• you do not have to be good.
• you do not have to walk on your knees for a
  hundred miles through the desert repenting.
• you only have to let the soft animal of your body
  love what it loves.

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• tell me about your despair, yours, and I will
  tell you mine.
• meanwhile, the world goes on.
• meanwhile, the sun and the clear pebbles of rain
  are moving across landscapes, over the prairies
  and the deep trees, the mountains and the rivers

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• meanwhile, the wild geese, high in the clear blue
  air are heading home again.
• whoever you are, no matter how lonely, the world
  offers itself to your imagination,

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• calls to you like wild geese,
• harsh and exciting,
• over and over,
• announcing your place in the family of things.
• the end.

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• denise e. bray, president
• bray associates, llc
• 727.365.5641
• dbray_at_tampabay.rr.com