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Title: Turning Anger Into Love

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Turning Anger Into Love

Dr Kem Thompson
www.successeminars.comwww.success-seminars.org

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Topics We Will Cover

What Is Anger?
Why Do We Get Angry?
Whats The Use of Anger?
Whats The Danger of Anger Effects of Anger on
Your Wellbeing
How You Express Anger
Effects of Expressing Anger the Wrong Way

How To Deal With Anger
How To Deal With Anger A More Excellent Way
Benefits of Turning Anger Into Love
Whats Love Anyway?
Xtix of Empowering Love
How To Turn Anger Into Love Principles 10
Strategies

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Introduction What Is Anger?

A natural human response to perceived threats or
pain.
Its your interpretation of events that determine
whether they trigger the anger response or
not.
What makes you angry?
How do you respond when something makes you
angry?

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Why Do We Get Angry?

In its crudest sense when we dont get our way,
we feel angry towards the perceived obstacle.
When our efforts are frustrated
When we see injustice being done to some-one else
or to ourselves

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Whats The Use of Anger?

Protective.
Flight/fight hormones get released.
The purpose is to cause you to act in a way that
protects you from getting hurt.
NOTE Its okay to feel angry. Anger is neither
good nor bad. Its how we behave as a result,
that makes the difference.

Useful because it causes you to seek a way to
rectify the wrong situation. Problem comes if
youve perceived the situation wrong, to start
with

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Whats The Danger of Anger?

Anger can have negative effects on your physical
and emotional wellbeing

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Effects of Anger on Your Wellbeing

Physical
Immune system
Gastrointestinal system
Cardiovascular system
Musculoskeletal system

Emotional
Compulsive behaviour
Depression
Aggression
Anxiety
Insomnia
Resentment/bitterness

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How You Express Anger

Yelling/shouting
Cursing/swearing
Passive aggressive (do nothing now, explode
later)
Become more critical of others or yourself
Withdraw into yourself
Violence
How do you behave when youre angry?

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Effects of Expressing Anger The Wrong Way

Low self-esteem
Decreased self-confidence
Increased feelings of insecurity
Destroyed relationships
Affects your functioning at work or home

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How To Deal With Anger

Your response to anger (as to any emotion), is
under your control. Its 100, your CHOICE.
Tell the other person how you are feeling
Take time out to look inwards and find out what
exactly you are angry about
Take time out to go scream into a pillow (!)
A more excellent way

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How To Deal With Anger A More Excellent Way

The most empowering way to deal with the
emotion of anger is by
Turning Anger Into Love.

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Benefits of Turning Anger Into Love

An empowering experience puts you in control of
the situation
Liberates you
Boosts your self-esteem
Boosts your self-confidence
Heals and enhances your relationships with others
Positions you to attract good into your life

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What is love anyway?

Can be a feeling not what were talking about
In its most powerful form, love is a chosen
response to something. Its a way of acting or
responding to someone which does not depend on
how you feel.
Anytime you choose to act in love towards
someone, unconditionally, you elevate yourself to
a higher plane of existence.

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Characteristics of Empowering Love

Patience
Kindness
Not prideful or self-seeking
Hopes for the best
Think only good thoughts towards the person you
love
Not easily provoked
Happy when things go right for the person

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How To Turn Anger Into Love

Reprogram yourself by choice
Nobody can make you angry without your
permission. In other words, nobody can make you
express your anger in a negative way. Its your
choice.
Letting someone make you angry (expressing your
anger in a negative way) gives them power and
control over you.

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How To Turn Anger Into LovePrinciples

Choose to relate to the other person in a
positive way regardless of how they treat you.
Acknowledge your anger. Accept it as a natural
response. Never deny it.
Choose to love that person in spite of how their
behaviour makes you feel.
Realize that you cannot change the other persons
behaviour trying to do so will only lead to
more frustration for you.

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How To Turn Anger Into Love10 Strategies

Acknowledge that you feel angry yet decide to
stay in control of the situation and choose your
behavioural response to this feeling of anger.
Choose to love unconditionally (not expecting
anything back from the person). Making this
decision takes only an instant. Say I choose to
love ___________. I love __________. Fill in
the blanks with his/her name.

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How To Turn Anger Into Love10 Strategies

Choose to forgive and release the person. Just
let it go. Say I forgive __________ and I
release him from all ill feelings. Then follow
up with your love affirmation above.
Refuse to revenge or act out in a negative way

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How To Turn Anger Into Love10 Strategies

Refuse to think evil of the person. Smile when
you think of him.
Do good to the person if he is hungry, feed
him if hes thirsty, give him a drink
Bless the person say I bless ___________ (fill
in the blank with his name)

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How To Turn Anger Into Love10 Strategies

Give if he asks of you. Dont with-hold stuff
from him just to hurt him back.
Pray for that person.
Pray for yourself. You need all the help you can
get! Ask God to help you forgive and love the
person.

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Summary

Anger is a natural human emotional response to a
perceived threat or pain
If allowed to fester, it can adversely affect you
physically and emotionally
Negative behavioural responses to anger damage
your self esteem, lower your self confidence and
can hurt intimate relationships.

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Summary

A more excellent way to behave in response to
anger, is to respond in love.
Love is a choice of thoughts, words and actions
towards a person.
Turning anger into love puts you in control of
the situation, boosts your self-esteem and self
confidence and improves your communication and
relationships with others.

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