Guys Are From Mars, Girls Are From Venus

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Guys Are From Mars, Girls Are From Venus

• Ray and Sue Bohlin
• Probe Ministries
• www.probe.org

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No Male Bashing!
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Why Its Great To Be a Guy

• Phone conversations are over in 30 seconds flat.
• You can drop by without bringing a small gift.
• 3 pairs of shoes are more than enough.
• You get extra credit for the slightest acts of
  kindness.
• You can go to the bathroom without a support
  group.

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Men Women

• Sense of self achievement
• Task-oriented
• Self-reliant
• Ask for help weakness

• Sense of self relationships
• Relational-oriented
• Inter-dependent
• Ask for help compliment

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Men Women

• Focus is on goal

• Enjoy the process

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Men Women

• Competition

• Cooperation

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Men Women

• Analytical

• Intuitive

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Men Women

• Linear
• focus on one thing at a time.
• Compartmentalized
• (like a chest of drawers)

• Multi-taskers
• juggle many little things at once
• Contiguous
• (like a ball of yarn)

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Men Women

• Action-oriented
• Hostility physical
• Feels better by solving problems

• Verbal
• Hostility verbal
• Feels better by talking about problems

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Men Women

• When under stress distracts himself with various
  activities to relax.
• Withdraws into his cave.

• When under stress gets more involved with
  others.
• Talks in order to be heard and understood.

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Men Women

• Primarily needs respect (trust, acceptance,
  appreciation, admiration, approval,
  encouragement).
• Needs to be needed.

• Primarily needs cherishing (tender care,
  understanding, respect, devotion, validation,
  reassurance).
• Needs to be protected.

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Men Women

• Words for conveying facts and information

• Words like breathing

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Summary of Gender Differences

• Men tend to be tough and strong, women tend to be
  gentle and tender
• Men tend toward logic and linear thinking, women
  tend toward emotion and verbal communication
• Men tend to be risk-takers, women tend toward
  security and order

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Summary of Gender Differences

• Men tend toward relational insensitivity, women
  tend toward relational sensitivity
• Men look toward the long haul, women are more
  concerned for the here and now
• Men are more skeptical and suspicious (the
  provider in him?), women are more believing and
  trusting (the nurturer in her?)

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The Butterfly
and
The Buffalo
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The Butterfly

• The butterfly has a keen sensitivity. It is
  sensitive even to the slightest breeze. It
  flutters above the ground where it can get a
  panoramic awareness of its surroundings. It
  notices the beauty of even the tiniest flowers.
  Because of its sensitivity, it is constantly
  aware of all of the changes going on around it
  and is able to react to the slightest variation
  in its environment.

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The Butterfly

• Thus, the butterfly reacts with swiftness toward
  anything that might hurt it. (Try to catch one
  without a net sometime.) If a tiny pebble were
  taped to its wing, the butterfly would be
  severely injured and eventually die.

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The Buffalo

• The buffalo is another story. It is rough and
  calloused. It doesnt react to a breeze. Its not
  even affected by a thirty-mile-an-hour wind. It
  just goes right on doing whatever it was doing.
  Its not aware of the smallest of flowers, nor
  does it appear to be sensitive to slight changes
  in its environment. Tape a pebble to the
  buffalos back and it probably wont even feel it.

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The Buffalo

• The buffalo isnt rotten to the core just
  because he goes around stepping on pretty
  flowers. In fact, the buffalos toughness is a
  tremendous asset. His strength, when harnessed,
  can pull a plow that four grown men cant pull. .
  . He (man) may tend to plow through
  circumstances, while the woman may feel life
  and her surroundings with much more sensitivity.

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Created Differences

• Man was formed from dust woman was formed from
  flesh.
• Man was placed in the garden alone woman was
  brought to the man so they could be together.
• Man was created with a need woman was created to
  fill a need.
• Mans job was to work womans job was to help
  man with his work.

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Created Differences

• Mans job was cognitive/task oriented (name the
  animals) womans job was emotive/relational
  (meet the need of the man).
• Man gave woman her name woman received her name
  from him.
• Mans body was created to give a seed womans
  body was created to give life.

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Gender Roles and the Bible

• Womens Needs and Issues
• Women need to be cherished
• Women need security
• Women need to be treated with tenderness and
  gentleness
• Women are verbal creatures

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Gender Roles and the Bible

• Mens Needs and Issues
• Men need respect and support
• Men are naturally self-oriented

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Men and Women from the Beginning

• Genesis 2 18-25 -- The Creation of Eve
• Eve was made for man.
• Eve was made from the man.
• Eve was brought to the man.
• Eve was named by man.
• Man is the head he is responsible for the woman.

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Men and Women from the Beginning

• Genesis 316
• Effect of the Curse on Eve

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Men and Women from the Beginning

• Genesis 317-18
• Effect of the Curse on Adam

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Four Pillars of Manhood(Stu Weber, Tender
Warrior)

• Heart of a King -- Provisionary Heart
• Heart of a Warrior -- Protective Heart
• Heart of a Mentor -- Teaching Heart
• Heart of a Friend -- Loving Heart