Responsible Relationships

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Chapter 22

• Responsible Relationships

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A good date is

• The girls said
• He isnt stuck on himself
• No awkward silence
• I laugh
• You want another date
• He is cute
• If he smells nice
• He pulls out your chair
• Easy to talk to
• He is mature and not ignorant
• Intelligent conversation
• He pays
• He is polite
• Confidence
• He listens

• The guys said
• Girl is laughing
• Not bored
• Girls pay
• Good conversation
• She gives you her number
• You meet her parents

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Friendships and dating

• First step to a serious relationship is
  friendship
• Many families have rules about dating
• Spending time with a group is how many people
  start dating
• Later, they begin going out as a couple

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Responsibility

• Personal responsibility-
• Respect values rules for yourself and partner
• Communication
• Accepting the other person as they are
• abstinencethe decision not to engage in sexual
  activity
• Risks of being sexually active
• Unintended pregnancy
• Sexually transmitted diseases

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Handling Sexual Feelings

• Dont let your feelings control your actions
• Dont let someone else control your actions
• Page 323tips for practicing abstinence and
  refusal skills

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Infatuation

• infatuation
• based on a physical attraction
• unrealistic, looking at only certain qualities of
  the other person
• self centered concerns are more important than
  the concerns of others
• love lasts but infatuation does not

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Not so good things.....

• crushesshort term feelings for someone who does
  not return your feelings
• stalking
• Jealousynormal at some times but not all the
  time
• anger

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healthy things to do when the relationship ends

• Make a clean break
• Be honest
• Give yourself time
• UNHEALTHY
• Preventing the other person from breaking up
• Clinging to the relationship

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Love is.

• Based on caring and trust
• Requires giving as well as receiving
• Mutual interests and desire to work together
• Do you have things in common?
• Do you have similar values and compatible goals?
• Does the relationship make you a better person?
• Sometimes time is the test

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Commitment Marriage

• commitmenta state of obligation to each other
  and a dedication to making the relationship work
• it is important to take time to choose the right
  marriage partner
• it takes effort and work to make a marriage
  successful

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Getting engaged

• Page 326 has questions the couple should consider
• Dont forget to focus on the marriage as much as
  the wedding

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Challenges Facing Teen Marriage

• Finishing education
• Financial struggles
• Employment may be limited
• Lifestyle/friendships change

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Factors of strong marriages

• Communication
• Sharing
• Resolve conflicts
• teamwork

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When marriages fail

• Almost ½ of first marriages end in divorce
• Reasons
• Unrealistic expectations
• Dont take commitment seriously
• Disagreements
• Marry before ready to take on adult
  responsibilities
• Most divorces occur during the 1st few years of
  marriage