Behaviour, Bullying and Discipline.

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Behaviour, Bullying and Discipline.

• A quick guide to growing up, blame and what to do
  about it.

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Behaviour.Childrens Behaviour is getting Worse.

• Asbo teenager faces jail if caught with older
  brother Press AssociationFriday June 16,
  2006The Guardian A youth faces jail if he is
  caught hanging out with his older brother in the
  next two years. Jimmy Fitzgerald, 17, of Burgess
  Hill, West Sussex, received the Asbo from Sussex
  police after committing a number of criminal
  offences. He is currently serving a four-month
  jail sentence. But he has been warned he will be
  heading back to the cells if he is caught
  socialising in public with his brother Ricky, 29

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Or is it?

• Crime and punishment
• by Michael Lavalette, Preston Respect councillor
• Hardly a week goes by without a media story
  about crime, violence, anti-social behaviour or
  lawlessness in our towns and cities. Even the
  last two issues of Socialist Worker have carried
  letters from readers debating whether Anti-Social
  Behaviour Orders (ASBOs) are necessary to protect
  working class communities from delinquent
  youth.
• Yet the facts do not support the notion of a
  crimewave. Every year the Home Office produces
  the British Crime Survey (BCS). This is the most
  comprehensive review of peoples experiences of,
  and attitudes to, crime. Over 40,000 people in
  England and Wales are interviewed each year as
  part of the surveya huge piece of social
  research.
• Since 1995 the crime rate has dropped 39
  percentthe longest sustained drop in crime since
  1898.
• Some years ago the criminologist Geoff Pearson
  wrote a very good book called Hooligan A History
  of Respectable Fears. Pearson looked at the way
  in which such panics were fairly regular events
  over the past 100 years.
• Todays degenerates are compared unfavourably
  with the disciplined young people of the previous
  generation. But as we go back, this golden age
  of happy, contented young people is revealed as a
  bit of a myth.

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So what are we actually talking about?

• Playtimes are the safe time to learn emotional
  intelligence.
• School is where children perform the skills we
  teach at home and in class.
• School is where we learn we are all different and
  we cant make everyone agree with us.
• School is where we make mistakes.

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Children are losing Social Skills.

• Research shows 60 of teenagers play computer
  games for 4 8 hours a day.
• Children mimic the role models they are most
  admire. Eastenders, Footballers, Action Heroes.
• Children are told of their individual rights but
  not the rights of society.
• We are living a culture that teaches selfishness.

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When we are selfish we escape guilt by becoming
victims.

• We all lie and children are no exception.
• We all seek to pass guilt to another party.
• We cannot change this behaviour unless it is safe
  to be wrong.
• Our role in school is to make it safe to get it
  wrong.

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Our Code of Conduct.

• At Rayleigh Primary School we use these methods.
• Our Code of Conduct.
• Three Strikes before moving to a senior manager.
• Circle Time.
• Group Sessions for Friendships.
• Contacting Parents.

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Bullying.

• What is a bully?
• In bullying workshops when asked generally 90 of
  adults claim they have been bullied, less than 1
  admit to being a bully.
• There are two common forms of bully.
• One is the child who does not possess emotional
  literacy and responds by force to get their own
  way.
• The other looks for differences in friends to run
  down and belittle to gain control and prestige.

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The Government Definition.

• Bullying occurs when there is an imbalance in
  power between two sides, and the problem is
  persistent.
• This creates prolonged victimisation.
• E.g.
• When many gang up against one.
• When there is a physical imbalance.
• When there is an emotional imbalance.

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What Isnt Bullying.

• Arguments
• It was a penalty.
• They wont play with me.
• Shes not my friend.
• Shes taken my friend away.

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What do we do when we get bullying?

• We notify all parents involved in writing.
• We create a plan for friendships.
• We set a limit to how often before suspension.

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Where do bullies come from?

• Bullies are your children when they learn to
  manipulate power. Children with challenging
  backgrounds often learn the nature of power
  earlier.

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The Problem of Inclusion.

• Schools must include all children.
• All children need to have a chance to learn. This
  includes those that need to learn how to control
  and manage their emotions.
• This can only be achieved if parents support the
  school explicitly in all it attempts.
• The problem is how do we explain to victims we
  must give time to those learning to manage their
  behaviours?