Fraternity

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Fraternity

• Behaviour to Build Love

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Respect People

• Even if they have failings
• little education
• without ever trying to manipulate them for your
  own ends, either personal or institutional

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Respect People

• Sincere
• and deep
• respect for other members of the community is
  fundamental behaviour before the process of
  growth and maturity of each member

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Accept

• The members of the community as they are
• without trying to have them be as you would like
  them to be
• they all have the right, like you, to be
  themselves, to be different

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Accept

• They have, like you, failings of which it is hard
  to get rid
• never forget that we have often the temptation to
  make members in our own image
• or in the image of our personal ideal

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Natural Praise

• For the qualities of the companions of your
  community,
• and celebrate their success in their presence as
  in their absence

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Natural Praise

• Make this praise and celebration, the object of a
  joyful prayer before God, Father of all the
  members of the group.

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Natural Praise

• To be in competition, envy, desire to surpass
  others
• or to dominate is contrary to the behaviour of
  praising

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Cultivate Education
Remember

• in community relationships with simplicity and
  naturally
• Ask in a polite way and if you do something
  wrong, ask to be forgiven and try to sort out the
  situation

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Cultivate Education

• Thank the others for their little or great
  attentions to you
• or the community
• And try to have the best attention for all of
  them

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Welcome, Stimulate, Help, Smile, Defend, Applaud,
Encourage, Gratify The Members of the Group

• This always has a good influence on common living
  and work and strengthens the internal links of
  the community

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Welcome, Stimulate, Help, Smile, Defend, Applaud,
Encourage, Gratify The Members of the Group

• Do not forget that fraternal correction should
  never come out as a relief of your anger or
  personal embarrassment
• It is an expression of love and must be done in
  an atmosphere of confidence and affection

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Welcome, Stimulate, Help, Smile, Defend, Applaud,
Encourage, Gratify The Members of the Group

• One cannot do good to a person whom one does not
  love

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Be Transparent, True, Authentic, Important.

• Do not be double, false, a liar, do not hide
  yourself behind masks, be double faced
• Truly human common living especially in a
  religious community is only built by and on truth
  and from sincerity

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Live the Joys and Sorrows

• of the members of the group as your own
• Make yours their problems and concerns
• Rejoice at the success of the community and its
  members, as if they were yours
• All must be very sensitive to this constructive
  behaviour of solidarity

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Love and Serve

• thoroughly without forgetting bills or receiving
  commissions
• without requiring responses
• being far from commercial attitudes

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Love and Serve

• If something cannot be a commercial item in the
  community it is friendship, service, love the new
  commandment

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Love Loyally

• Loyal love is the love that is offered freely to
  the other, having the certainty that it is not
  mutual
• Never place yourself at the centre of the
  community
• It is not the place from which to serve

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Accept and Love

• the members of the community for themselves, not
  for the benefit they can bring to you.
• Take a constant and sincere interest in the
  members of the community, even if they do not
  take any interest in you, or in your work

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Accept and Love

• Make common living a benefit and the life of the
  group vivifying.
• This is the behaviour which builds community

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Forgive and Forget

• Make every effort to understand, forgive and
  forget frictions, misunderstandings and conflicts
  which have occurred in the group.
• They are inevitable

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Forgive and Forget

• But the worse action is to keep the resentments
  inside oneself, to ponder them, to increase their
  importance going through the event again.
• Indeed, this behaviour is harmful to the
  community.

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Forgive and Forget

• Misunderstanding and narrow mindedness dry the
  sources of dynamism and joy
• Forgiveness heals and restores

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Dont Dramatise

• and dont magnify the little daily frictions.
• Without a sense of humour, which prevents us
  taking our weaknesses too seriously, we would be
  unable to create healthy communities which
  contribute to the fraternity of our Society

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Welcome the Other

• putting yourself in her place, even if it is
  difficult, and accept, listen, understand,
  encourage and serve her in the measure in which
  she wants to be served by you.

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Live United

• to the members of the community interiorly, from
  the heart, not in a superficial way because of a
  place, a work, common rules, or simple common
  living

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Cultivate Good Humour, Joy, Optimism With Great
Interest

• and cooperate in this way in the well-being of
  the community.
• It is necessary to share joy, community
  relaxation, a sense of the feast of life, to make
  common living easier, more simple

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Never Criticise

• the behaviour of the members of the community and
  even less behind their backs
• Do not reveal their failings, but do not
  encourage them either
• Everybody has failings

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Never Criticise

• In this field try to understand, to encourage and
  to help with love
• It is necessary to love the members of the
  community as they are including their failings
  without supposing that we come to terms with evil

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Be Determined to Discover

• little by little, meeting after meeting - at
  great length and depth the positive there is in
  your companions
• Take into account that when one loves people
  enough on easily finds the good and positive
  things in them

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Be Determined to Discover

• If you see many failings in a member of your
  community, ask yourself how much you love her

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Express Your Faith

• naturally and with simplicity
• Pray and help the community to pray
• A community that does not pray, becomes common
  place and loses its identity

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Express Your Faith

• Collaborate in preparation of the Liturgy of the
  Hours. Celebration of the Word, Eucharist, and do
  it in depth

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Express Your Faith

• These actions contribute in an outstanding way to
  identify the Christian community as it is, they
  gather build and vivify it

DHMs
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Work For Your Community

• not to be cut off from the world, a small
  narcissistic group without cohesion with other
  communities or Christian groups

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Work for Your Community

• Cultivate Openness, universality do your best so
  that the community tries hard to live in a truly
  ecclesial way and in communion

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Work Hard for Others

• Thus fulfil the law of Christ.
• Be patient, nice. Do not envy others. Do not
  boast or brag. Do not be rude, do not look for
  trouble. Do not get excited, or take bad things
  into account.

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Work Hard for Others

• Always apologise
• Love is never lacking
• Galatians 62
• 1 Corinthians 134-8