The Story: Matthew 19:16-26

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imperfect person imperfect person CONFLICT!
Peopleare like porcupines in a snowstorm. We
need each other to keep warm, but we prick each
other if we get too close. Ben Patterson
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WEEK FOUR CONFLICT
I. If you can, LET IT GO!
ESVMark 1125 And whenever you stand praying,
forgive, if you have anything against anyone, so
that your Father also Who is in heaven may
forgive you your trespasses.
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WEEK FOUR CONFLICT
I. If you can, LET IT GO!
ESVLuke 637 Judge not, and you will not be
judged condemn not, and you will not be
condemned forgive, and you will be forgiven.
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WEEK FOUR CONFLICT
II. If it stays with you or gets between you and
another person GO!
ESVMatthew 52324 So if you are offering your
gift at the altar and there remember that your
brother has something against you, 24 leave your
gift there before the altar and GO. First be
reconciled to your brother, and then come and
offer your gift.
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WEEK FOUR CONFLICT
II. If it stays with you or gets between you and
another person GO!
ESVLuke 173 Pay attention to yourselves! If your
brother sins, rebuke him, and if he repents,
forgive him.
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KEY Own your own contribution to the conflict!
To take personal responsibility means that you
refuse to focus on what the other person has
done. Too many of us think, If only my friend
would say this or If only my husband would do
that, rather than thinking, I cant change him,
but I can change how I react to him. Personal
responsibility requires you to take a hard look
at your side of the equation.
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ESVLuke 64142 Why do you see the speck that is
in your brothers eye, but do not notice the log
that is in your own eye? 42 How can you say to
your brother, Brother, let me take out the speck
that is in your eye, when you yourself do not
see the log that is in your own eye? You
hypocrite, first take the log out of your own
eye, and then you will see clearly to take out
the speck that is in your brothers eye.
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WEEK FOUR CONFLICT
II. If it stays with you or gets between you and
another person GO!
KEY Own your own contribution to the conflict!
YOUR POSSIBLE LOGS TO OWN
1. Your initial contribution to the conflict.
2. Your personal buttons that got pushed.
3. Your sinful response to the conflict.
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WEEK FOUR CONFLICT
II. If it stays with you or gets between you and
another person GO!
KEY Own your own contribution to the conflict!
OTHER KEYS
1. Use I language.
2. Be non-judgmental.
3. Share authentically.
4. Be prepared to compromise.
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WEEK FOUR CONFLICT
III. In the end, if you still cant find resolve
agree to disagree!
ESVActs 153640 And after some days Paul said to
Barnabas, Let us return and visit the brothers
in every city where we proclaimed the word of the
Lord, and see how they are. 37 Now Barnabas
wanted to take with them John called Mark.
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38 But Paul thought best not to take with them
one who had withdrawn from them in Pamphylia and
had not gone with them to the work. 39 And there
arose a sharp disagreement, so that they
separated from each other. Barnabas took Mark
with him and sailed away to Cyprus, 40 but Paul
chose Silas and departed, having been commended
by the brothers to the grace of the Lord.
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WEEK FOUR CONFLICT
III. In the end, if you still cant find resolve
agree to disagree!
ESVColossians 410 Aristarchus my fellow prisoner
greets you, and Mark the cousin of Barnabas
(concerning whom you have received
instructionsif he comes to you, welcome him).
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WEEK FOUR CONFLICT
III. In the end, if you still cant find resolve
agree to disagree!
ESV2 Timothy 411 Luke alone is with me. Get Mark
and bring him with you, for he is very useful to
me for ministry.