Title: The Sacrament-ality and Spirituality of Marriage
1- The Sacrament-ality and Spirituality of Marriage
2- "Notre-Dame de l'Alliance, Espérance de tous les
foyers, garde sous ta protection ceux qui mettent
en toi leur confiance ! - Our Lady of the Wedding Ring, Hope of all
homes, keep under your protection those who place
their trust in you.
3- The Person of
- Jesus Christ
- and the
- Trinity
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- Loved the wedding, invite me to the marriage.
- - God
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- That Love Thy Neighbour Thing .. I meant it.
- - God
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- I love you . I love you..
- I love you
- - God
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- Will the road you are on get to my place?
- - God
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- You think its hot here?
- - God
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- Tell the kids I love them!
- - God
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- Have you read my 1 best seller? (There will
be a test) - - God
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- Do you have any idea where you are going?
- - God
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- My way is the highway
- - God
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18What is a Sacrament?
- 1. A Sacred sign
- 2. Instituted by Christ (directly or indirectly)
- 3. To give grace
- 4. Entrusted to the Church (CCC 1131)
19A Sacred Sign
- Most signs give directions. Point to
something else - Sacraments are signs that actually do
what they indicate i.e. - Efficacious signs
- which also instruct
20- Baptism for example
- Water, the visible sign is poured.
- The Words N. I baptize you in the name of the
Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit.
Amen. - The invisible reality that is taking place is
that the Holy Spirit is being poured into the
persons soul. The Trinity is taking up
residence within the person being baptized in the
person of Gods Love, The Holy Spirit.
21Purpose of the Sacraments
- Purpose of all the Sacraments
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- Preserve in our soul that moment of Baptismal
purity when our souls are completely washed clean
of any stain of original or personal sin.
22Baptismal Liturgy
- Clothing with the White Garment.
- N., you have become a new creation, and have
clothed yourself in Christ. See in this white
garment the outward sign of your Christian
dignity. With your family and friends to help
you by word and example bring that dignity
unstained into the everlasting life of heaven.
Amen.
23Baptismal Liturgy
- (Light Candle from the Paschal candle)
- Receive the light of Christ.
- Parents and godparents, this light is entrusted
to you to be kept burning brightly. This child
of yours has been enlightened by Christ. He/she
is to walk always as a child of the light. Maay
he/she keep the flame of faith alive in his/her
heart. When the Lord comes, may he/she go out to
meet him with all the saints in the heavenly
kingdom.
24- The other Sacraments either
- restore/heal (Reconciliation/ Confession and the
Sacrament of the Sick), - nourish (Eucharist/Holy Communion),
- strengthen (Confirmation) or
- give us the ability to live out our vocation, our
state in life (Marriage and Holy
Orders/Priesthood)
25 26Marriage
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- What is the visible sign?
27- Does love lead to marriage?
- Or
- Does marriage lead to love?
28- Ritual Sustains Prayer by Father Ron Rolheiser
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- In a homily at a wedding Dietrich Bonhoeffer
once gave this advice to a young couple Today
you are young and very much in love and you think
that your love can sustain your marriage. It
cant. Let your marriage sustain your love. - Love and prayer work the same The
neophytes mistake is to think that they can be
sustained simply through good feelings and good
intention, without the help of ritual-container
and a sustaining rhythm. - Thats naïve, however sincere. Love and
prayer can only be sustained through ritual,
routine and rhythm. Why? - What eventually makes us stop praying John
of the Cross says is simple boredom, tiredness,
lack of energy. Its hard, very hard,
existentially impossible, to crank up the energy,
day in and day out, to pray with real
affectivity, real feeling and real heart. We
simply cannot sustain that kind of energy and
enthusiasm. Were human beings, limited in our
energies. We need something else to help us.
What?
29- Ritual- a rhythm, a routine. Monks have secrets
worth knowing and anyone who has ever been to a
monastery knows that monks (who pray often and a
lot) sustain themselves in prayer not through
feeling, variety or creativity, but through
ritual, rhythm and routine. Monastic prayer is
simple, often rote, has a clear durational
expectancy and is structured so as to allow each
monk the freedom to invest himself or hold back,
in terms of energy and heart, depending upon his
disposition on a given day. That is wise
anthropology. - Prayer is like eating. There needs to be a
good rhythm between big banquets (high
celebration, lots of time, proper formality) and
the everyday family supper (simple, no-frills,
short, predictable). A family that tries to eat
every meal as if it were a banquet soon finds
that most of its members are looking for an
excuse to be absent. - With good reason. Everyone needs to eat
every day, but nobody has energy for a banquet
every day. The same holds true for prayer. One
wonders whether the huge drop-off of people who
used to attend church services daily isnt
connected to this.
30- People attended daily services more when those
services were short, routine, predictable and
gave them the freedom to be as present or absent
(in terms of emotional investment) as their
energy and heart allowed on that given day. - Today, unfortunately, we are misled by a
number of misconceptions about prayer and
liturgy. Too commonly, we accept the following
set of axioms as wise creativity and variety
are always good. Every prayer-celebration should
be one of high energy. Longer is better than
shorter. Either you should pray with feeling or
you shouldnt pray at al. Ritual is meaningless
unless we are emotionally invested in it. - Each of these axioms is overly romantic,
ill thought out, anthropologically naïve and not
helpful in sustaining a life of prayer. - Prayer is a relationship, a one on one, and
lives by those rules. Relating to anyone long
term has its ups and downs. Nobody can be
interesting all the time, sustain high energy all
the time or fully invest himself or herself all
the time. Really life doesnt work that way.
Neither does prayer. What sustains a
relationship long-term is ritual, routine, a
regular rhythm that incarnates the commitment.
31- Imagine you have an aged mother in a nursing
home and youve committed yourself to visiting
her twice a week. How do you sustain yourself
in this. Not by feeling energy or emotion, but
by commitment, routine and ritual. You go to
visit her at a given time not because you feel
like it but because its time. You go to visit
her in spite of the fact that you sometimes cant
give her the best of your heart and that often
you are tired, distracted restless, over-burdened
and are occasionally sneaking a glance at your
watch and wondering how soon you can make a
graceful exit. - Moreover, your conversation with her will
not always be deep or about meaningful things.
Occasionally there will be emotional satisfaction
and the sense that something important was
shared, but many times, perhaps most times, there
will only be the sense that it was good that you
were there and that any important life-giving
connection has been nurtured and sustained,
despite what seemingly occurred at the surface.
Youve been with your mother and thats more
important than whatever feelings or conversation
might have taken place. Prayer works the same
way. Thats why the saints and great spiritual
writers have always said there is only one,
non-negotiable rule of prayer Show up! Show up
regularly! The ups and downs of our minds and
hearts are of secondary importance.
32Instituted by Christ
- Genesis 224
- A man will leave his father and mother and be
joined to his wife and they will become one
flesh. - Matthew 193-8
- And Pharisees came up to him and tested him
asking, Is it lawful to divorce ones wife for
any cause? He answered Have you not read
that he who made them from the beginning made
them male and female and said, For this reason a
man shall leave his father and mother and be
joined to his wife and the two shall become one.
So they are no two but one. What therefore God
has joined together, let no man put asunder.
They said to him, Why them did Moses command one
to give a certificate of divorce and put her
away. He said to them, For your hardness of
heart Moses allowed you to divorce your wives,
but from the beginning it was not so.
33- Wedding at Cana John 21-11
34- There was a wedding at Cana in Galilee. The
mother of Jesus was there, and Jesus and his
disciples had also been invited. When they ran
out of wine, since the wine provided for the
wedding was all finished, the mother of Jesus
said to him, They have no wine. - Jesus said, Woman, why turn to me? My hour has
not come yet. His mother said to the servants,
Do whatever he tells you. - There were six stone water jars standing there,
meant for the ablutions that are customary among
the Jews each could hold twenty or thirty
gallons. Jesus said to the servants, Fill the
jars with water, and they filled them to the
brim.
35Draw some out now, he told them, and take it
to the steward. They did this the steward
tasted the water, and it had turned into wine.
Having no idea where it came from only the
servants who had drawn the water knew the
steward called the bridegroom and said, People
generally serve the best wine first, and keep the
cheaper sort till the guests have had plenty to
drink but you have kept the best wine till now.
This was the first of the signs given by Jesus
it was given at Cana in Galilee. He let his
glory be seen, and his disciples believed in him.
36To Give Grace
- Two main goods of marriage
- 1) to bond the couple together in mutual
commitment - 2) to be open to life
37- Complete gift of the self to the other.
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39- If we know our anthropology correctly then it is
easy to understand why the Church teaches what
she does. - We always need to answer the question Who am
I, as God has created me to be?
40- Man only truly discovers himself by making a
sincere gift of himself. - Gaudium et Spes, 24, Second Vatican Council
41- Live up to who God has created you to be!
Pope John Paul II at World Youth Day
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- We have to understand the nature
- of the
- Trinity to understand how we are made in his
image.
43- Metaphor of marriage is used throughout the Old
Testament to reveal Gods relationship to the
Hebrew people and in the New Testament to reveal
Christs relationship with the Church.
44- Ephesians 52,21-33
- A reading from the letter of Paul to the
Ephesians. - Live in love, as Christ loved us and gave himself
up for us. - Be subject to one another out of reverence for
Christ. - Wives, be subject to your husbands as you are to
the Lord. - For the husband is the head of the wife
- just as Christ is the head of the church,
- the body of which he is the Savior.
- Just as the church is subject to Christ,
- so also wives ought to be, in everything, to
their husbands. - Husbands, love your wives,
- just as Christ loved the church and gave himself
up for her, - in order to make her holy by cleansing her
- with the washing of water by the word,
- so as to present the church to himself in
splendor, - without a spot or wrinkle or anything of the kind
- -yes, so that she may be holy and without blemish.
45- In the same way,
- husbands should love their wives
- as they do their own bodies
- He who loves his wife loves himself.
- For no one ever hates his own body,
- but he nourishes and tenderly cares for it,
- just as Christ does for the church,
- because we are members of his body.
- "For this reason a man will leave his father
- and mother and be joined to his wife,
- and the two will become one flesh."
- This is a great mystery,
- and I am applying it to Christ and the church.
- Each of you, however, should love his wife as
himself, - and a wife should respect her husband.
- The word of the Lord.
46Braid
- Who really is involved in this marriage?
47- Declaration of Consent from Form 1
- Marriage is an intimate communion of life and
love between a man and a woman who wish to
complement each other, give themselves to each
other, and transmit human life. This communion
is established on their mutual love, personal
commitment and exclusive and irrevocable consent.
This community of life must be lived according
to the Gospel and rooted in ones faith in the
Lord Jesus.
48Preparing for the Ceremony
- Exchange of consent
- Exchange of rings
- Nuptial Blessing
49Preparing for the Ceremony
- Sacrament of Reconciliation
- e.g. Joe Christian
50 Questions?