Somebody to Love

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Somebody to Love
Being in love is universal to humanity it is
part of human nature. From Why We Love by Helen
Fisher, Ph.D.
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Signs of Love

• How can I not think of you.
• Tzu Yeh
• She laughed his joy she cried his grief.
• e.e. cummings
• Love can deny nothing to love.
• Andreas Capellanus
• A man tormented by the thought of love eats and
  sleeps very little.
• Andreas Capellanus
• On suddenly catching sight of his beloved, the
  heart of the lover begins to palpitate.
• Andreas Capellanus
• So lovers manage in their passions cause/ To
  love their ladies even for their flaws
• Moliere

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Addicted to Love

• Elevated levels of Dopamine
• Elevated levels of Norepinephrine
• Decreased levels of Serotonin

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We All Look ForThe Right Smell

• Pheromones
• Alerts males as to which females are ready to
  conceive
• Narrows mate choices
• Mice Study
• T-Shirt Study

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We All Look ForThe Right Kiss

• Might be a taste test (Major Histocompatibility
  Complex-MHC)
• Psychologist Wendy Hills Study
• Reduced cortisol levels
• Increased oxytocin levels in men only

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We All Look ForThe Right Proportions
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Male/Female Difference
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Male/Female Difference
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Other Factors Involved
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Does this mean we are vain?
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• Sarah What are you feeling? Are you all squishy
  inside or is this just some pheromones thing
  that's kicking in?
• Rand Well it's obviously your pheromones...
• Sarah My pheromones?
• Rand Yeah, your exocrine glands produce most of
  them. I sense them through smell. Especially when
  we kiss.
• Sarah What else are you feeling?
• Rand Biologically, my ribonasal organ and my
  hypothalamus are kicking in the hormones right
  now.
• Sarah What hormones?
• Rand Testosterone, big timeNow the
  neurotransmitters are filling with dopamine.
  That's the pleasure drug that our body produces.
  It creates a high, it's addicting.
• Sarah That all you're feeling? Is it anything
  else to you?
• Rand It's a little hard to tell right now...
• Sarah I'm serious.
• Rand I'm serious too.
• Sarah What puts us above the level of being
  animals?
• Rand Our intelligence.
• Sarah It's not love?

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• Rand My question is, does the chemical make-up
  between two human mammals make our personal
  involvement a moot point?
• Sarah Of course, it's all chemical to start
  with. It's all just signals to communicate with
  these bodies we live in, but true love is
  incredible, all consuming.
• Rand No I totally agree with you, all consuming.
  But so is the lust, I mean is it possibly rooted
  in physiology rather thanour hearts?
• www.imdb.com
• Romance may be nothing more than reproductive
  filigree, a bit of decoration that makes us want
  to perpetuate the species and ensures that we do
  it right. But nothing could convince a person in
  love that there isnt something more at
  work---and the fact is, none of us would want to
  be convinced.
• From Why We Love
• Time Magazine
• By Jeffrey Kluger