Middle Adulthood

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Middle Adulthood

• Bart
• Beatriz
• Signe
• Tommy
• Windy

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Understanding Mens Passagesby Gail Sheely
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Interviewee Rick 46 years old
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Family

• Big!!! Lots of kids!
• 1st _at_ 22, last _at_ 40
• Raised by abusive father
• 1 sister, Step mom has 3 kids

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Family is Most Important!

• Kids
• Wife
• -together for 17 years

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Work

• Buddies
• Hang out
• Has fun with employees-his friends

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Social Activities

• Fishing
• Camping (Outdoors)
• Watersports (knee boarding)
• Grocery Shopping

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Unique Social Activity

• Biker!
• Interest at age 8
• 1st bike at age 15
• 1st Harley at age 25
• Not in a club

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Being a Biker

• Getting there is the adventure
• Be an outlaw by being yourself- dont play
  dress up, be true
• Outta society
• Leadership

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Future

• Watch kids grow
• Retire with moterhome, bike, wife (best friend)
  travel!
• Doesnt feel old

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Values

• Laughter
• Respect
• Trust
• Clean House
• Find the best in everyone

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• when I think of fifty, I still think of someone
  like my mom. I mean, I ride a Harley, so I guess
  thats proof that fifty is going to take on a new
  form.
• -Cher

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• Its a time to think about your calling, your
  passions. -Hillary Rodham Clinton
• Once you start to question your life you get a
  higher level of awareness. Its like turning a
  light on - voilà - you see you have choices and
  choices are sacred. -Naomi Judd
• As you get older, the physical deterioration is
  offset by a larger worldview and a deeper sense
  of gratitude. -Diane Keaton
• Im a better person at 50 then I was at 48and
  a better person at 52 then I was at 50. -Patti
  LaBelle

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Flourishing 40s

• Feeling like a kid
• -Vanity crisis fear of losing hair is the fear
  of losing control
• Give up flagrant freedoms
• -Midlife crisis No! Im still my own boss and
  I can do whatever I want to do!

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Manhood Models

• Resurgent Angry Macho Man (RAMM)
• Sensitive New Age Guy (SNAG)
• Dominant Male Model (DOM)
• Messenger of God (MOG)
• Partner and Leader (PAL)

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Significant Exit Events (loss)

• Death of a parent
• Being divorced-hearing Honey, I want out
• Loss of a self-defining job
• Death of a peer
• Loss of a mentor
• Children leaving home

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Maturing Personalities

• Former Pro-Football Star
• Geezer in Graduate School
• Globe Trotting Journalist turns Gardener
• The Fearless Professor

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Red Hat Society