Grace: Gods Prescription for Disgrace

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Grace Gods Prescription for Disgrace Understandi
ng and Ministering to Victims of Sexual Abuse
2 Samuel 13
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Grace Gods Prescription for Disgrace Understandi
ng and Ministering to Victims of Sexual Abuse
Presented by Robert W. Kellemen, Ph.D. RPM
Ministries Comprehensive, Compassionate,
Culturally-Informed Biblical Counseling
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A Tale of Two Counselors

• Pastoral Counselor A Sermon on Sin
• Professional Counselor Too Damaged to Love
• What is your assessment?
• What do you base your assessment upon?

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The Central Message of the Bible

• Gods Mission Statement
• I Am Indispensable
• Central Message of Biblical Counseling
• we apply Christs grace to deal both with
• the evils we have suffered and the sins we
• have committed.

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Comprehensive Biblical Counseling

• Dealing with Suffering
• God is good even when life is bad.
• Dealing with Sinning
• God is gracious even when I am evil.

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Central Message of 2 Sam. 9-1 Kgs. 2

• Man after Gods own heart . . .
• Is a maze of suffering and a mess of sin.
• Davidic narrative points to our need for Gods
• indispensable grace!
• Grace is Gods medicine of choice for our
• suffering and sin.

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Understanding the Damage Done

• Why?
• We need a theology of suffering.
• We need a picture of Satans strategy.

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Stage One

• The damage of the loss of trust
• The attempted Satanic destruction of faith
• Exegetical Markers
• Shrewdness of Satan
• Conclusion of Victim Disgrace/Desolate
• Image Door of Heart Bolted Shut

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Stage Two

• The damage of powerlessness
• The attempted Satanic destruction of hope
• 132
• 1311hazaq
• 1312
• 1314
• Image Death of Dreams

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Stage Three

• The damage of being used and feeling useless
• The attempted Satanic destruction of love
• Used
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• 1315
• Useless
• Bolts Door
• 1317
• 1318-19
• Image Torn Robes

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Stage Four

• The damage of shame
• The attempted Satanic destruction of peace/
• shalom
• Hebrew Shame
• Self
• Social
• Modern Shame
• Self
• Social
• Image Downcast Eyes

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Summary of Biblical Sufferology

• Loss of faith Doors closed
• Loss of hope Dreams killed
• Loss of love Robes torn
• Loss of peace Eyes downcast

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Ministering to Victims of Sexual Abuse

• Soul Care for Suffering
• Life is bad, but God is good
• Sustaining Its normal to hurt
• Healing Its possible to hope

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Stage One

• Sustaining Trust Offering faith in the midst of
• doubt
• How NOT to Sustain Trust
• Dont Victimize the Victim
• Dont Communicate Be quiet!
• Dont Communicate Dont take this to heart!

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Stage One

• How to Sustain Trust Biblical, Christlike
  Empathy
• Engage in Compassionate Listening
• Give voice back
• Listen to actions
• Listen to tears

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Stage One

• Share Sorrows
• Empathize with the external evil
• Empathize with the internal damage
• Counsel like the inspired narrator
• Enter desolation
• Trialogue
• The Image Comforter

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Stage Two

• Healing Powerlessness Offering hope in the
• goodness of God in the midst of the badness
• of life
• Give their name back!
• Journey with them
• Explore Gods Good Purposes Grace/Truth
• Provide Tastes of Gods Goodness Grace/Love
• Trialogue
• Image Champion

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Stage Three

• Reconciling the Soul to the Savior Offering
• Christs grace for our disgrace
• Spiritual Direction for Sinning
• Reconciling Its horrible to sin, but
• wonderful to be forgiven
• Guiding Its supernatural to mature

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Stage Three

• How NOT to Reconcile
• Not like the father
• Not like the brother
• How to Reconcile
• Call the abuse sin
• Work through forgiveness
• Seek justice, not vengeance

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Stage Three

• How to Reconcile
• Explore and Expose . . .
• Fallen agenda
• Fallen pathways
• Idol of the heart
• Repentance
• Putting Off

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Stage Three

• How to Reconcile
• Prescribe grace
• Defeat the lie of worldly shame
• The Image Care-fronter

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Stage Four

• Guiding the Soul to Godly Service Offering
• beauty for ashes
• Envision with spiritual eyes
• Empower to put on Kings robes
• In Christ Saint
• To Christ Son/Daughter

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Stage Four

• Guiding the Soul to Godly Service Offering
• beauty for ashes
• Enlighten to Mature Wisdom
• Image Coach

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Send Them Out with GRACE Gods Prescription for
Disgrace
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Grace Gods Prescription for Disgrace Understandi
ng and Ministering to Victims of Sexual Abuse
2 Samuel 13