What Went Wrong?

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What Went Wrong?

• When Relationships Go Bad

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• How are you going to admit this to people?
• Your perfect relationship, the one that was
  destined to last forever it's over. What went
  wrong?
• How could you have let something so wonderful
  just slip through your fingers without even
  realizing it?

• The truth is relationships fail for all sorts of
  reasons.
• However, there are a top few that tend to
  permeate stories of love gone wrong.

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Money

• It's been said over and over again "money is
  the root of all evil."
• Whether or not that is entirely true, it is
  indeed at the root of many relationship problems.
• Both partners need to be on the same page as far
  as money is concerned.
• Issues can arise when one person is a saver and
  the other is a spender. Any major purchases
  should be discussed and agreed upon prior to
  buying.
• Be sure you both understand where the money is
  coming from in your relationship and where it
  will go.

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Communication

•  At the heart of money and all other issues is
  generally a lack of communication.
• Some couples don't talk about things that bother
  them.
• Others talk, but their conversations tend to
  deteriorate into arguments.
• Another group tends to assume their partners can
  read their minds and should know what is at the
  heart of any problem. Obviously, this isn't the
  case.

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• Putting the time and the effort into reaching a
  level of communication that involves equal parts
  speaking and listening, as well as a healthy dose
  of understanding and a heavy coating of thick
  skin can go a long way towards keeping a
  relationship happy.
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Selfishness

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• Just talking about a problem isn't enough. Every
  problem needs a resolution.
• Even the best communicators can fail at this
  point.
• If either side (or worse, both sides) refuse to
  budge, all the talking in the world won't fix
  things.
• Relationships require compromise and a lot of it.

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• Even if a couple is perfectly in synch on every
  issue for a long time, eventually they will run
  across something they don't see eye to eye on.
• This is where compromise becomes necessary.
• Both people need to be willing to give a little
  so they can reach a decision they are both able
  to live with.
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Family

• While it is wonderful to paint a picture of your
  relationship as existing in its own little
  bubble, both people involved have families who
  were with them long before they met each other
  and will likely stick around for the remainder of
  their lives.
• The importance of this group of people cannot be
  ignored.
• They can be friends, confidantes, or even the
  measure against which your relationship is
  compared.

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• Remember the old saying "you don't just marry
  the person, you marry the family.
• Do not dismiss their family as unimportant.
• Do not try to break the bonds that exist between
  them. Instead, try to form your own bonds with
  the other person's family.
• If that isn't possible, at least try to keep
  your feelings about them from destroying the
  relationship you hold dear.

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• There are certainly other problems that can
  affect and destroy relationships, but the above
  four are often at the heart of the issue.
• If those are kept in check, everything else can
  be dealt with as it comes along, and your
  relationship is likely to last as long as you
  want it to.

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