PI KAPPA PHI

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PI KAPPA PHI
Life 401

• Building Better Men

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Today I will teach you ways to live a happier
more successful life.

• Enjoy college more
• Get better grades
• Reduce stress
• Prepare for your Dream Job
• Prepare for your Dream Life
• Have more fun / balance / joy

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It is one of the great human absurdities

• Many people believe that just because you have a
  life that you should know how to live.

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• A successful life does not result from chance,
  fate, or good luck, but from a succession of
  successful days lived in pursuit of a Worthy
  Purpose

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5 Year Study of 100 Top Leaders

• Guiding Vision
• Passion
• Integrity
• Trust
• Curiosity
• Daring

Self-Aware
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Today is about you

• To become an outstanding leader of others, you
  must first become an outstanding leader of

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To get the most from this talk

• You must be honest with yourself brutally
  honest with yourself

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I am not an expert I can not make you learn
I can only offer you the very best information
available and then let you decide what you want
to learn for yourself. I ask you to be serious
today , to work hard and to look for a take-home
message something that you can apply right away.
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Research

• 75,000 Pages / 15 years
• Success
• Leadership
• Psychology
• History
• Religion
• 300,000 attendees

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• 1989 - Dream job
• At age 27 / CEO Rockefeller Foundation
• ESPN fishing show co-host
• 1994 started consulting firm
• Fortune 500 / Global
• Projects of 100 Million
• 320 companies worldwide
• IBM, ATT, GE, HP, Microsoft, Ford
• China, Japan, HK, Germany, France, NZ..
• Read at last 120 Books / 30 tape, CD
• Author of leadership book
• Recently named one of the 100 most influential
  leadership thinkers in the world
• Just named head of Global Leadership Development
  for Merrill Lynch
• 3 months of vacation each year

E.T.R.

• Started college 1983
• 1.6 GPA 1984 failed out
• Re-start college 1985
• Admitted UF 1987
• President of school
• Deans assistant
• Business owner
• 1 in S.E.
• 3 in U.S.A.
• Top 10 in Whos Who

If I can do this, anybody can!!
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Challenge

• Listen and Think
• Take Notes
• Ask Questions

What can I do with this? How can I make this work
for me? How does this apply to my life?
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STARTING POINT
What you do today, determines who youll be
tomorrow
Failing to plan
is planning to fail
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You will spend 4 years of your life and upwards
of 100,000 to go to college honestlywhy?

• Get a good education.
• Get a good job / career
• Discover yourself
• Have a successful life
• Be secure
• Make lifelong friends
• Have FUN !!!!!

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To succeed in school...
To succeed in your career ...
To succeed with your family
To succeed in life ...
You must have a PLAN !
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Important Note
By whatever definition of success you decided on.
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Personal Success

• When you live a life where your self-concept and
  core values are in harmony with your lifestyle
  and behaviors.

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The Magic Formula
repare for the journey
aunch into action
PLAN
djust as you go
etwork with those who know
True Success Tom Morris - Grosset/Putnam
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The most important slide of the day
You become what you focus on and like the people
you spend time with.
Pages 4 5
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Information
Family Friends School Church Society
Advertising Work
Assumptions
Attitudes
Reactions
Other People Friends Society
Rules Beliefs Mental Maps
Actions
Behaviors / Focus / Attention
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Prepare

• For the Journey

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What is the first step ?

• Decide where you really want to go

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Some common college questions

• How am I supposed to figure out who I really am?
• How do I discover my purpose?
• What if I am scared to stop being a kid?
• What if I fail?
• What do all of these doubts mean?
• How do I know if the decisions I am making are
  the right ones?
• How do I find balance in my life?

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Your choices create Your destiny
BLDs

• School
• Career
• Location
• Family
• Children
• Church
• Politics

• Health
• Community
• Charity
• Retirement
• Savings
• Possessions
• Lifestyle

PS you are supposed to be confused
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Are you a little stressed?
Belong to Pi Kappa Phi Member of an honor
society Serve on 2 or more committees Play an
intramural sport Belong to a service group
Belong to a professional group Have an
internship /part-time job Take a full load of
class Try to maintain a high GPA
and have a social life!!!!!!
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NO
NO
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Good Decisions are Values Based
WS 7

• Honesty
• Fun
• Adventure
• Family
• God

• Security
• Laughter
• Love
• Compassion
• Creativity

• Achievement
• Service
• Respect
• Safety
• Serenity

What are your core values?
Average Score 9.87
Had written Values 2
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An important point to remember

• You dont have choose one career forever !!!
• 5-7 Careers
• 65 will retire in jobs that do not currently
  exist

WS 6
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pecific
easurable
SMART
greed Upon
ealistic
Write them down
ime Bound
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Many types of Goals...

• Personal
• Professional
• Family
• Health
• Spiritual
• Educational
• Travel
• FUN

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Many types of Goals...

• Long-term 3-5 years - or longer
• Mid-range 1-3 years
• Short-term this year
• Immediate today / week / month

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KEY POINT
Goals must be CONGRUENT
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Example

• Graduate Fall 2007 MBA International Finance
• 3.6 GPA or higher
• Internship with major financial company
• 1 semester travel abroad
• President Portfolio Management Association
• President of Fraternity
• 10 professional contacts
• 3 contacts at MC /AA / DT
• 5 solid letters of recommendation

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The payoff for having a Vision and setting Goals
Makes decisions easier. Gives you something
to look forward to. Creates focus. (RAS)
Shows you your progress.
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Roles and Goals Workshop

• What are the 3-5 major roles you play right
  now in your life?
• What are your top 3 goals for each of those
  roles?

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Roles Goals Example

• Role Student
• Goals
• Get 3.3 or higher this semester
• Dont miss any Friday classes
• Study at least 6 hours per week

WS 8
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Prepare for the JourneySUMMARY

• Decide where you really want to go.
• Create a clear and specific intended outcome a
  values based Worthy Purpose to live your life
  by.
• Set SMART Goals to achieve your Vision.

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Some people

• Know where they want to go
• Have a clear Worthy Purpose
• Write down SMART goals
• Accomplish NOTHING !

Launch into ACTION
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Passion Vision
Vision Direction
Direction Action Achievement
Consistent Achievement A Successful Life
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The 3 Keys to College Success

• Ask for help
• Get involved
• Begin with the end in mind

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The 3 Keys to Business Success

• Knowledge
• Network
• Love

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How do you achieve Excellence??

• Focus on your values, your self concept your
  definition of excellence.
• Discipline you must have the discipline to
  truly adhere to your philosophy of excellence
  regardless of setbacks, circumstances or other
  people.
• Action the amount of action you apply will
  directly determine that amount of success you
  achieve.

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The Three Step Secret to Success
1. Decide exactly what it is you want. 2.
Determine what it will take to achieve it.
(5ws H) 3. Focus every bit of energy and
effort on achieving it.
FOCUS / BALANCE
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Pay the Price
Want
Price
Get / Give / Give Up
Read all Chapters Read Cliff Notes Attend all
Classes Tape Lectures Buy A notes Join Study
Group Visit Professor Tutor Old tests Extra
Credit Skip Tues. HH 1.5 Hrs at gym No TV 3
nights
3.8 GPA
10 Hrs / Week
5 Hrs / Week
3.0 GPA
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The ten most powerful two-letter words...
If it is to be It is up to me!
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Adjust as you go
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Something to remember...
You will fail
However, it is how you chose to respond to those
failures and setbacks that will determine your
ultimate success in life.
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KEY POINT
Responsibility
Response - Ability
The ability to choose your response.
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Many people never take responsibility, they
blame...

• Genetics
• Family
• Environment
• Teachers
• Administration
• Advisors
• Other Students
• Nationals

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Your personal power comes from...
Response
GAP
Stimulus
Ideal You
Not the person you are now, but the person you
want to become!
WS 11
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KEY POINTS
Past Future

• No one else can make you angry
• No one else can make you sad
• No one else can offend you
• No one else can make you happy
• No one else can decide for you
• No one else is responsible for you

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RULES
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A few Key Points

• You created your rules.
• They are not necessarily correct.
• You can change them at any time.
• Your rules are not the same as
  anyone elses rules.

Make rules that allow you to win ! Pick people
that will help you win!
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CONTROL

• Great stress and anxiety is created by people
  when they worry about and try to control things
  that are simply
• out of their control

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CONTROL

• NO
• Other People
• Your Family
• Your Friends
• Your Teachers
• Society
• Government
• The Economy
• Weather

• YES
• Your Attitude
• Your Beliefs
• Your Rules
• Your Time
• Your Speech
• Your Appearance
• Money
• Location
• Focus

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How can I have as much fun as possible in college

• While still getting straight As, staying healthy
  and safe and preparing myself to land my dream
  job.

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QUESTIONS
The quality of your life, will be determined by
the quality of your questions
To others and to yourself !
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Example Poor

• Why does this always happen to me ?
• Why do I have to take this stupid class ?
• Why am I so bad at accounting ?
• How come I can never get in shape ?
• Why is the professor always against me ?
• What is wrong with these people ?
• Why does my life have to be so hard ?
• What else can go wrong now ?

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Example Good

• What can I learn from this ?
• How can I make doing this project fun ?
• How can I set a good example ?
• What would a great leader do here ?
• How can I help ?
• Does this match my values?
• What is good about this ?
• Will this help me achieve my GOALS ?
• Is this the right thing to do ?

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Some Question to Ask
What do I love to do ? What do I hate to do
? What am I great or gifted at ? What do I
truly value ? What does my Dream life look
like ?
WS 15
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Network

• With Those Who Know

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It is not just who you know

• But what you know
• AND who you know !

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The most successful people always...
Surround themselves with people smarter than
they are!
Lots of ways to do this.
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Build a network of people to help you succeed
Teachers
Professional Groups
Family
Sorority
Honor Society
Fraternity
Career Center
Clubs
Counselors
Internships
Other Students
Friends
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Find a group of people in your major and form a

• Master Mind Group

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Study Time
Before we end for the day please take your
time and carefully study pages 20-27, and
reflect on the things you learned today that will
have the most impact on your life and work.
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Wow, this is a lot of work ...
He who would accomplish little must sacrifice
little he who would achieve much must sacrifice
much he who would attain highly must sacrifice
greatly.
James Allen
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Remember...
All the studying, all the research, all the
knowledge is of little use if you
dont apply what you learn!
Knowledge X Action Success
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What you are speaks so loudly, that I cannot hear
what you say.
This is the truth.
People will judge you by your actions not by
your intentions
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SUMMARY
To succeed in life you must have a...
P L A N
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Prepare for the journey

• Vision Values Worthy Purpose
• Create 3-7 SMART goals for your life
• Career, family, health, school FUN
• Short, medium, long-range goals
• Goals must be congruent
• Write them down!!!!!!!!!!

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Launch into action

• Direction Action Achievement
• Amount of Action applied, determines amount of
  success achieved.
• You can have anythingPay the Price
• If it is to be ... It is up to me !

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Adjust as you go

• You will fail
• Take Responsibility
• Control the GAP
• Become the Ideal You
• Past ? Future
• Make rules that help you win

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Network with those who know

• You become what you focus on.
• Books, tapes, internet, seminars.
• Teachers, students, clubs.
• Master Mind Group
• Dedicate yourself to Lifelong Learning

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Lifework

• Read the entire book
• Do the exercises again
• Apply only 1 or 2 ideas at a time
• Work at it every day
• Teach it to others

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Something to Think About
Life is Hard
The day you stop expecting life to be simple,
fair and easy
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Risk
To laugh is to risk appearing the fool
To weep is to risk appearing sentimental
To reach out to others is to risk getting
involved
To show your feeling is to risk showing your true
self
To place your ideas out before the crowd is to
risk being called naïve
To love is to risk not being loved in return
To live is to risk dying
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To hope is to risk despair and to try is to risk
failure But risks MUST be taken, because the
greatest risk in life is to risk nothing. The
person who risks nothing, does nothing, has
nothing,is nothing, and becomes nothing. He may
avoid suffering and sorrow, but he simply cannot
learn and feel and change and grow and love and
live. Chained by his certitudes, he's a slave.
Hes forfeited his freedom. Only the person who
risks is truly free.
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So I challenge each of you
To risk being different, to risk being special,
to risk living a life of your own making. A life
of love and joy and happiness and success and
achievement. A life that you design. That you
create. That you start building today.
For isnt the much greater risk not to?
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