Focus Class 4

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Stress
Self-Care
I Can
Goals
Stress Management
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What are your dreams ? - things that you want
to - change - learn - become
I Plan To 1._____________ 2._____________ 3.__
___________
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To make your balloon soar you must remove the
sandbags
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What are some of your sandbags?
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Were these some of the sandbags?
I Cant
Im not smart enough
My grades arent good enough.
No
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How confident do I feel?
Throw away
Fear
Put-downs
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Communicating Feelings
From this
To this
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I Statements

• states your feelings
• doesnt blame or judge
• helps deal with put downs

You Statements I Statements
You dont listen when I try to tell you things
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I Statements

• states your feelings
• doesnt blame or judge
• helps deal with put downs

You Statements I Statements
I need you to pay attention when we talk
You dont listen when I try to tell you things
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I Statements

• states your feelings
• doesnt blame or judge
• helps deal with put downs

You Statements I Statements
Why dont you grow up and stop acting like a
baby
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I Statements

• states your feelings
• doesnt blame or judge
• helps deal with put downs

You Statements I Statements
I wish we could have a more mature relationship
Why dont you grow up and stop acting like a
baby
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Listening Skills

• You hear me - but are you listening?
• How can you tell if someone is really
  listening?
• Body language
• Encouraging words
• Getting the message straight

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Examples of Listening Skills

• Sue Id like to lose about 30 pounds
• Mary Thats a good idea
• Joan You feel pretty self-conscious about
  your weight?
• Joe I didnt want to go to the movies
• Jeff Whats wrong with you?
• Jim You feel lonely because we asked you at
  the last minute?

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Empathetic Listening

• You feel
• You are feeling
• Sounds like you feel
• You want ..
• Its important to you to ...

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What happens to your body?

• FEAR STRESS ANGER
• Heart
• Skin
• Pupils
• Stomach
• Kidneys
• Blood sugar
• Glands
• Behavior

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Effects of Stress
Response of the Body
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Muscle Group Tension-Relaxation Make a
fist and pull elbow tightly into side Wrinkle
brow squint eyes wrinkle nose place teeth
together and force a smile Pull chin to
chest Take a deep breath and stretch shoulder
blades back toward each other Pull in stomach
and squeeze tightly and hold Push feet down on
floor and hold Perform each for 5 seconds and
then relax
Benefits lower blood pressure decrease
anxiety
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Relaxation in a Special Place Close your
eyes Take several deep breaths Think of a
particular place you enjoy (a room,
beach, woods) Recall a pleasant feeling you have
there (music, sand in your toes, a
breeze) Perhaps there are colors you see or a
special person who is comfortable to be
with Think of comforting words they share Slowly
move away, take a deep breath, and open
your eyes slowly
Benefits lower blood pressure decrease
anxiety
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Being Good To Yourself

• Communicate with I statements
• Think about consequences
• Know and Use your resources
• Support your peers
• Reduce Risks
• Set your goals

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Thank You For

• your courage to try something new
• your participation
• your sharing
• your smiles

Long Happy Life ahead
Health