Working With Children Who Have Been Sexually Abused

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Working With Children Who Have Been Sexually
Abused

• Ali Welfare

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Skills needed when working with children who have
been sexually abused
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Believe that healing is possible
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Be willing to witness great pain
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Be willing to believe things that seem
unbelievable
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Examine your attitudes regarding sexual abuse
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Explore your own history and fear regarding
sexual abuse
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Remember that your patient is the expert
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Be aware to not re-traumatise your patient
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Awareness of child development
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Support patients in seeking appropriate help
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Believing the person
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Validate your patients coping strategies
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Do not say or imply that the patient is in any
way to blame for the abuse
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Do not minimize the abuse
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Sexual abuse is a criminal act with a victim
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Do not spend time with the patient trying to
understand the abuser
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Sexual preference and abuse
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To forgive or not to forgive?
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Explore the remedies listed under the rubric
sexual abuse in our newer repertories
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So in Murphy we have the rubricM Mind
SEXUAL, behaviour, sexual abuse, ailments from
acon., anac., arn., Carc., Ign., lyc., med.,
Nat-m., nux-v., Op., plat., sep., Staph.,
thuj.AlsoMind SEXUAL, behaviour, rape,
ailments from (14) same remedies as above listed
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ACONITE -. Affects of shock . Im going to die
(may be useful as memory surfaces and the
person is in shock or is re-experiencing shock
from the time the actual incident occurred.) .
Anger . Inconsolable .Agoraphobic
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ANACARDIUM . Split Im an angel and Im a
devil i.e. it is my fault Im bad . Allows
memory to surface .Cursing . Suppressed and
repressed
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CARCINOSIN .Having to be too good .Loss of
sense of self .Loss of individuality.Suppressed
emotions
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IGNATIA .Grief .Hysteria a.k.a distress
symptoms expressed in males or females
.Feeling of having done something wrong
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LYCOPODIUM .Bullying .Being made to feel very
small.Compensatory haughtiness .Emotions felt
in the stomach .Powerless feelings
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MEDORRHINUM - .Awareness of sex introduced before
person knows how to handle it .Sexualised
behaviour .Feeling of not being good enough
.Fear of dark and something lurking behind
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NAT-MUR .Memories (dwells on past
disagreeable) (Lots wife turns back and turns
into a pillar of salt) .Grief .Lack of good
mothering often Rx for people who have been
sexually abused by their mothers
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NUX-VOM -.Rage .Injustice.Oversensitivity
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OPIUM .Spaced out - disappear off into other
place during abuse .Painlessness from painful
complaints.Numbed out
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PLATINA .Split sexual/spiritual waist up/down
.Haughty above things, separation one client
talked about being totally disconnected from the
planet floating above it
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SEPIA .Denial of sexual energy .Worn out
.Hiding cuttlefish shoot out black ink or
change their colour in order to escape
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STAPHISAGRIA .Suppressed anger .Too nice and
too forgiving but can feel anger underneath
.Resentment
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THUJA .Self reproach.Fragility like
glass.Guilt.Shame .If people really knew me
they wouldnt like me
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AURUM Suicidal. Dutiful. Over responsible.
Too much responsibility too soon. As if heart
taken out of someone damaged heart centre
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BELLIS-PERENIS -

• .Damage to pelvic area (sacral chakra) this area
  can be damaged by abuse.
• Bellis-p also helps person to open up to light
  Daisys close up in darkness, useful for someone
  who cannot open up to light, cannot open up to
  joy, happiness

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CHAMOMILLA -

• .Anger that cannot find expression
• .Aversion to touch
• .Nothing pleases (capriciousness)

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HYOSCYAMUS -

• . Overt sexual behaviour
• .Childishness
• .Feeling done something wrong
• .Feel like they are rubbish

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LAC-CANINUM -

• .Hatred of self, hatred of body
• .Loyalty to people who have hurt you

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LAC-HUMANUM -

• .Good Rx for people abused when very young
  helps person to feel connected and held for first
  time.

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MANCINELLA -

• .Useful for survivors of ritual abuse
• .Pursued by devil
• .Cannot find their feet feel like constantly
  slipping (root chakra damage)

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MAGNESIUMS -

• .Cant express anger or explosive anger
• . Fear to express anger mag-c because I wont
  be loved, Ill become an orphan, mag-phos because
  I will lose all my friends and be alone

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MERCURY -

• . Loss of centre
• . Human barometers react to everything.
• . Syphilitic

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MOBILE PHONE -

• . Looks like phos and nat-mur combined lack of
  boundaries and grief

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NATRUM- PHOSPHORICUM -

• . It is too scary for me to communicate, to tell,
  what happened to me
• . Grief

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PHOSPHORUS -

• . Grief only Rx listed in rubric Ailments grief
  undermining constitution
• .Too open
• .Not enough love at home so go looking for it
  outside

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PINK COLOUR REMEDY -

• . Heart chakra Rx (ties in with thymus gland)
  heart full of grief
• . Dullness, lethargy
• . Compassion for self and others
• . Heart chakra is connected to sense of touch
  aversion to touch, hugs etc
• . Looks like nat-m

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RED COLOUR REMEDY -

• . Root chakra Rx
• . Chakra connected to sense of smell
• . Spaced out, ungrounded, out of body,
• . Feeling of separation from everyone and
  everything
• .Looks like opium, hydrogen and cann-i

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SILICA -

• . Yielding
• . Collapsed no back bone,
• . Firmness no longer needed turns to rigidity

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STRAMONIUM -

• . Terror
• . Alone in wilderness
• . Feeling of being trodden on
• . Two sides of body left/right separated

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VACUUM -

• . Apocalyptic dreams
• . Spaced out (can look like opium) not present
  feel like in a vacuum
• . Caught in no mans land, caught between heaven
  and hell

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ANGER and or RAGE

• ABUSIVE
• AILMENTS anger from
• ANGER
• BREAK things, desire to
• CENSORIOUS, critical
• HARD disposition

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• HATRED
• MOROSE
• OFFENDED easily
• QUARRELSOMENESS scolding
• RAGE
• STRIKING
• VIOLENCE

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SHAME

• AILMENTS from mortification

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SELF BLAME

• ANTAGONISM herself with
• AVERSION herself to
• DELUSION wrong done
• REPROACHES himself

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GUILT

• ANXIETY conscience of
• DELUSION crime committed
• DELUSION criminal
• REPROACHES self

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TRUST and INTIMACY ISSUES, CUT OFF

• AFFECTION demonstrate, cannot
• AFFECTION rejects
• AVERSION approached to being
• AVERSION husband to
• AVERSION persons certain to
• AVERSION persons all to
• AVERSION wife to
• AVERSION women to
• CARESS, CARESSED aversion to being

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• CAUTIOUS
• FEMALE GENITALIA Coition aversion to
• FEMALE GENITALIA Coition enjoyment absent
• DETACHED
• ESTRANGED society from
• FEAR robbers
• GOING out, aversion to
• HOME desire to

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• HOMESICKNESS, nostalgia
• INDIFFERENCE
• INTROVERTED
• MISANTHROPY
• PESSIMIST
• RESERVED

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• SOCIETY mankind shuns the foolishness of
• SUSPICIOUSNESS
• SYMPATHY compassion aversion to
• TALK indisposed to
• TOUCH aversion to

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SELF HATRED/NOT LIKING SELF including BODY

• AVERSION herself to
• CHILDREN flies from his own
• DELUSIONS ugly, is
• EMOTIONS controlled by intellect
• INJURE fears to be left alone, lest he should,
  himself
• INJURE herself, himself, feels could

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• LOOKED at cannot bear to be
• MUTILATE his body, inclination to
• REPROACHES himself
• SELF-TORTURE

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LOW SELF ESTEEM/ LACK OF SENSE OF SELF

• ASKS nothing for
• AUTOMATIC behaviour
• AWKWARDNESS including sub-rubric timidity from
• CAPRICIOUSNESS
• CHAOTIC
• CHARACTER, lack of
• CHILDISH behaviour
• CONFIDENCE want of
• CONFUSION identity as to his

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• EGOTISM
• EMBARRASMENT
• HEEDLESS, careless
• HELPLESSNESS, feeling of
• HIDE desire to
• INTROVERTED
• LOOKED at cannot bear to be
• MILDNESS

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• NO cannot say
• RESERVED
• SELF-DEPRECATION
• SPINELESS
• TIMIDITY
• YIELDING

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MEMORIES

• APHASIA
• DWELLS ON past disagreeable occurrences
• FORGETFULNESS
• FORGOTTEN something, feels constantly as if he
  had
• MEMORY weakness, loss of
• MEMORY weakness, loss of facts, for
• MEMORY weakness, loss of happened, for what has
  

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• MEMORY weakness, loss of injuries, after
• MEMORY weakness, loss of mortification, from
• MEMORY weakness, loss of occurrences of the day
  
• MEMORY weakness, loss of sexual excesses, from
• MONOMANIA
• THOUGHTS persistent

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FEAR

• ANXIETY
• ANXIETY fear with (panic attack rubric)
• Any of the FEAR rubrics as appropriate
• FEAR robbers
• CARES, worries full of
• CAREFULNESS
• CAUTIOUS
• CHANGE aversion to

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• CHILDREN watchful, they are on the look out for
  every gesture
• EMOTIONS controlled by intellect
• ESTRANGED society, from
• FRIGHTENED easily
• HYSTERIA (distress symptoms)
• RESERVED
• WATCHFULNESS

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LEAVING or OUTSIDE of BODY and/or SELF, SPLIT OFF

• BESIDE ONESELF, being
• DELUSION body alive half, only
• DELUSION body halves, left half does not belong
  to her
• DELUSIONS body, body parts head separated from
  body, is
• DELUSIONS body one half cut off
• DELUSIONS body parts separated, are
• DELUSIONS body separated, body and thoughts are

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• DELUSION floating in air
• DELUSION separated mind and body are
• DELUSIONS separated thoughts are
• DELUSIONS separated world, from the, that he is
• DETACHED
• HAUGHTY
• SPACED out feeling

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UNLOVED

• DELUSION alone always
• DELUSIONS alone world, in the
• DELUSIONS alone wilderness, in a
• FORSAKEN feeling

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LACK OF BOUNDARIES/TOO OPEN

• CLAIRVOYANT
• GENEROUS, too much
• IMPULSIVE
• LASCIVIOUSNESS, lustfulness
• LEWDNESS, obscene
• MERGING OF SELF with ones environment
• NO, cannot say
• NYMPHOMANIA

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• NAKED, wants to be
• PROPHESYING
• SATYRIASIS
• SELFLESSNESS
• SHAMELESS
• SPACED out feeling

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GRIEF/TEARS

• GRIEF
• JOYLESS
• MOROSE
• SADNESS
• SADNESS weep cannot
• WEEPING

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SUICIDAL/WANT PAIN TO END

• DESPAIR
• LOATHING life, of
• SUICIDAL disposition

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OTHER RUBRIC POSSIBILITIES

• HUMILIATION, painful sense of
• SHRIEKING, screaming, shouting pain, with the

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USEFUL LITERATURE

• The Courage To Heal by Laura Bass and Ellen
  Davies
• She Who Is Lost Is Remembered Using Creativity
  To Heal From Abuse by Louise Wisechild
• The Obsidian Mirror by Louise Wisechild
• Molecules of Emotion by Dr Candace Pert

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USEFUL CONTACTS

• Various Rape Crisis Centres
• CORK 021 4505577
• LIMERICK 061 311511
• DUBLIN 01 6614911
• GALWAY 091 589495
• One In Four (Gives out info and offers support)
  tel [phone]