Impact of Low SelfEsteem

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Impact of Low Self-Esteem

• C6436 Individual Counseling Theory and Practice
• Presented by
• James J. Messina, Ph.D

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What is Low Self-Esteem?

• Insecurity
• Closed to Others
• Poor Decision Maker
• Anxious
• Fear of Intimacy
• Not able to have fun
• Black and White Thinker
• Poor Anger Control
• High Need for Approval
• Lots of Guilt
• Lots of Depression

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What is Healthy Self-Esteem?

• Sense of Productivity
• Sense of Autonomy
• Sense of Uniqueness
• Altruistic
• Leadership Ability
• Sense of Competence
• Self-Confidence
• Healthy Self-Concept
• Independent Thinker
• Self-Accepting Loving
• Good Decision Maker

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What Contributes to Low Self-Esteem

• Dysfunctional Environments
• Bad relationships
• Codependent
• Has Disability
• Non -supportive school, work
• Abused
• Conditional acceptance and love

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What causes Dysfunction?

• Things more important than people
• Mental illness
• Major Losses
• Abuse
• Rigid feelings
• Ice Boxes
• Addiction
• Disability
• Big Pay Off

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Looking -Good

• Hero
• High Achiever
• Over-responsible
• Driven
• Approval Seeker
• Looks together
• Goal Denial of Problems

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Acting Out

• Scapegoat
• Irresponsible
• Trouble-Maker
• Rebellious
• Poor - Under Achiever
• Anti-authority
• Self-destructive
• Caustic
• Goal Divert focus

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Pulling In

• Invisible
• Loner
• Bookish
• Quiet - Recluse
• Hard to know
• Aloof
• Avoid problems
• Protect self -overweight
• Goal withdraws to survive

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ENTERTAINER

• Clown
• Mascot
• Comic Relief
• Immature
• Hyperactive
• Not taken seriously
• Distracter
• Attention getting
• Talks a lot
• Goal Divert attention

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Troubled Person

• Irresponsible
• Addict
• Unstable
• Blame others
• Out of control
• Broken
• Con artist
• Denial of problems
• Problem for others
• Goal Self-serving

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Enabling

• Protect Save others
• Over-responsible
• Co-dependent
• Nagger
• Covers up
• Controlling
• Demanding
• Goal get troubled people to change

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Rescuing

• Helper
• Motivated
• Victimized
• Stuck
• Irrational Loyalty
• Burdened-down
• Self-Negated
• Unassertive
• Goal reduce tension, hurt pain

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People Pleasing

• Easily liked
• Placator
• Always smiling
• Outgoing
• Friendly
• Courteous
• Generous
• Fits in
• Works hard to please
• Goal get approval

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Non-Feeling

• Stoic
• Nothing bothers
• Intense thinker
• Low-Key
• Steady even-tempered
• No strong feelings
• Black White
• Goal deny feelings to survive

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Impact of Low Self-Esteem
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Healthy Adult Self-Esteem
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Self-Esteem Recovery Model