Raising Sons and Daughters

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Raising Sons and Daughters
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Proverbs on Parenting

• Book of Proverbs provides
• Five crucial areas in raising sons
• Three character contrasts helpful in raising
  daughters

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Key Questions

• How can we help our sons deal with temptation?
• How can we help our children wisely spend money?
• What are the clues that our child will turn into
  a foolish person?
• What can we do to help prevent our daughter from
  being a nagging wife?

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Five Crucial Areas

• Christian Character
• Authority and instruction
• Temptation
• Money
• Hard work

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Christian Character

• Proverbs 110-16
• Need to teach our children to stand alone.
• Proverbs 1320 your son will become like the
  boys he plays with.
• Our children must stand alone in the midst of
  foolish error.

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Christian Character

• Practical suggestions
• Teach him how to choose his friends.
• Teach him to say no.
• Teach him the consequences of foolish behavior
  (Hebrews 1125).

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Authority and instruction

• Proverbs 311-12
• A father must instruct his son in how to be
  sensitive to the Lords instruction and reproof.

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Authority and instruction

• Practical suggestions
• Teach him to listen to counsel.
• Teach him to respect your authority.
• Teach him to respect others authority.

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Temptation

• Proverbs 51-5
• Sex (Proverbs 620-24) teach him to resist
  sexual temptation.
• Alcohol (Proverbs 2319-21) resist temptation
  by strong drink, drugs.

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Temptation

• Practical suggestions
• Teach him the value of chastity.
• Teach him the dangers of promiscuity.
• Teach him to be temperate and self-controlled.

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Money

• Proverbs 39-10
• Many of the Proverbs focus on how to earn money,
  give money, spend money, and save money.
• Proverbs 227-9 focus on money.

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Money

• Practical suggestions
• Teach him to value money by working for it.
• Teach him to manage money by giving him an
  allowance which he must use to pay for his
  expenses.

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Hard Work

• Proverbs 104-5
• Children need to learn the value of hard work.
• His friends will often make it seem like work is
  for ignorant people (Prov.134)

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Hard Work

• Practical suggestions
• Teach him the benefits of hard work.
• Teach him to work for special projects.

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Three Contrasts

• Foolish or wise
• Contentious or gracious
• Sensuous or virtuous

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Foolish or wise

• Proverbs 141
• Foolish means dull, thick, sluggish.
• Foolish woman is thick and dull toward the things
  of God.
• She is bent on destruction (tears down her home
  with her own hands).

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A Foolish Daughter?

• First clue Proverbs 913, 17 boisterous, what
  she says to her friends (makes mockery of sin).
• Second clue Proverbs 141 quarrelsome, bursts
  of rage.
• Contrast with Proverbs 31.

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Contentious or gracious

• Proverbs 1913
• Funny and pathetic at the same time.
• Contentious means given to strife, easily
  angered.
• Picks a fight just for the love of nagging.

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A Contentious Daughter?

• First Her assertive self-will was never broken.
  Never learned submission.
• Second A product of a contentious mother. Life
  begets life.
• Contrast with Proverbs 116.

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Sensuous or virtuous

• Proverbs 216
• Strange immoral, promiscuous.
• First clue given to verbal flattery, speaks with
  words that entice.
• Second clue runs with older girls.
• Third clue the way she dresses.
• Contrast with Proverbs 124.