Personal Greatness (How to Set and Achieve Your Goals)

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Personal Greatness(How to Set and Achieve Your
Goals)

• Steven A. Gedeon, PhD, MBA, PEng

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Personal Greatness

• Some ideas based on the works of
• Denis Waitley Seeds of Greatness
• Hyrum Smith The 10 Natural Laws of Successful
  Time and Life Management
• Stephen Covey 7 Habits of Highly Effective
  People
• Anthony Robbins Awaken the Giant Within

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The Big Questions

• What do I Want out of Life?
• What are my Values and Goals?
• How do I Achieve Happiness and Inner Peace?
• How do I ensure my daily activities are in
  harmony with my values and achieving my goals?
• How do I get Better Grades?
• How do I manage my daily activities

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The Problem

• People feel Out of Control, Unhappy
• People have Conflicting Priorities, Values and
  Goals
• Time Management may let us do more, but will not
  bring us Inner Peace or Happiness
• People have Regrets about what they didnt do

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Personal Greatness

• Business Success is all about Surrounding
  yourself with Great People (and motivating them
  with Great Goals)
• Personal Success is all about being a Great
  Person (and motivating yourself with Great Goals)

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What is Greatness?

• A Journey Not a Destination
• Be the best at being you
• Figure out who you want to be
• Have Strengths!
• Things you are Great at
• Average Goals and Effort
  will Produce an Average Life

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Seeds of Greatness

• You Always Get Out what you Put In
• Plant Apple Seeds and you get Apple Trees
• Plant Weeds and you get Weeds
• Plant Seeds of Greatness and you get Great
  Individuals
• Greatness is the Progressive Realization of
  Worthy Goals

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Set Goals
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Set Goals

• The Cheshire Cat
• The Reason so many Fail to Achieve their Goals is
  that they Never Set them in the First Place
• By Failing to Plan They Plan to Fail!
• The Mind is like the Homing System of a Torpedo
• It will achieve your good or bad expectations
• If no target set, it will wander aimlessly and
  self-destruct

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The Well Balanced Life
Long-Term Goals Yearly Goals Monthly Goals Weekly
Goals
Mental
Educational
Family
Physical
Social
Career
Financial
Community
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To Reach any Significant Goal, you Must Leave
your Comfort Zone

• A Goal is a Planned Conflict with the Status Quo
• SMART Goals
• Specific
• Measurable
• Action-Oriented
• Realistic
• Timely
• An Unwritten Goal is Merely a Wish!

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When Daily Activities Reflect Your Values, you
have Inner Peace
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Wisdom

• Ensuring Non-Contradictions
• Live Without Wax
• To Thine Own Self be True
• Integrity Your Actions Conform to your Words
• Honesty Your Words Conform to Reality
• Learn your Aptitudes (do what you are good at
  ensure your Goals Conform to Reality)
• The Importance of Principles
• Dont have to Stress over Decisions and
  Principles you have Already Established

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Prioritizing

• What Matters Most in Life Should Never be at the
  Mercy of Less Important Things!
• Inner Peace Serenity, Balance and Harmony in
  our Lives Through the Appropriate Control of
  Events
• Being Busy vs Being Productive
• Being Efficient vs. being Effective

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Efficacy Skills (Achieving Goals)

• Reality-Based Self-Esteem
• Creative Visualization
• Positive Self-Talk
• Time Management
• Responsibility
• Self-Control
• Adaptability
• Persistence
• Benevolence
• Perspective

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1 Reality Based Self-Esteem

• We must feel Worthy of achieving our Goals
• We must feel Self-Esteem inside ourselves before
  we can give it to others or receive it from
  others
• Unconditional Love and Causeless Value vs
  Rational Basis of Lasting Self-Esteem

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Productivity and Self-Esteem
Self-Esteem
Event Control
Productivity
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Self-Esteem

• To Hang onto Your Dreams Your Own Self-Worth
  Must be Stronger than the Fear of Rejection,
  Failure, Criticism
• Fear of Rejection
• Fear of Change
• Fear of Success

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Your Self-Esteem Must Ultimately Come from Within

• Seeking others approval often pressures us into
  behaving contrary to our deepest values
• When we seek external validation, we lose control
  over our lives
• Dont behave according to someone elses values
  rather than your own
• Whenever we accept someone elses prejudice
  against us, we give them a degree of control over
  our lives
• You can be happy and successful regardless of
  other peoples opinions

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2 Creative Visualization
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2 Creative Visualization

• You are what you think, say, and believe about
  yourself (your self image)
• The Minds Guardian (Reticular Activating System)
• Your info filter be careful what you give
  importance to
• Most negative feelings and beliefs are stored,
  through habitual repetition in our right-brains

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Core Beliefs

• Deeply held, typically non-verbal, core beliefs
  have a powerful effect on your self-esteem and
  behaviors. For example
• People are Basically Good
• Technology is Dangerous
• Humanity is Bad for the Planet
• My Life is Important
• I Need a Safety Net
• What Other People Think of Me is Very Important
• I Deserve to be Happy
• Life is Unfair
• Im Stupid, Lazy, Ugly
• Its a Dog-Eat-Dog World

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Core Beliefs

• What are Your Core Beliefs?
• Do You Agree with ALL of Them?
• How did they get there?
• Because we Believe them to be True, we will Act
  as if they are True
• Stated Beliefs vs. Actual Beliefs
• We say we believe things, but dont actually do
  anything about them

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Core Beliefs
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Align Beliefs with Reality

• If our Beliefs do not conform to Reality, then
  they are Wrong
• Growth Means Change
• Personal Growth means accepting that some of your
  Core Beliefs may be Wrong
• Changing your Core Beliefs
• Identify the behavior thats not producing the
  desired results
• Identify possible beliefs driving the behavior
• Identify alternative beliefs that may produce
  better results
• Predict future behavior based on the new beliefs
• Use Creative Visualization and Self-Talk to
  reinforce better Beliefs

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Creative Visualization

• The Power of Visualization, Affirmations and
  Self-Talk
• Who you see in your imagination will always rule
  your world

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3 Self-Talk

• Your Self-Image Cannot Distinguish between
  Reality and Something Vividly Imagined
• Self-Talk Statements Concerning Each Major Goal
  or Core Belief
• Use Personal Pronouns (I, mine,me)
• Present Tense
• Short and Concise
• Positive Goal Seeking, not Avoiding Negatives
• Non-competitive, dont Compare to Others
• Strive for Improvement, not Perfection

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4 Time Management
No Control Total Control
Sunrise, Death, Boss Earthquakes, Tides Other
people
What I Eat, What I Wear My Reaction to Events

• You Cannot Control Everything Sometimes you
  Must Adapt, Roll with It
• Think Event Control, not Time Management

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Taking Control

• There are Events we cant Control, but we Believe
  we can
• We Cannot Control what Other People Do!
• There are Events we Can Control, but Believe we
  cant
• Interruptions, Time Robbers, Procrastination
• The Fallacy of thinking were going to have more
  time at some unspecified future date
• The Fallacy of thinking you can save time

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Productivity and Self-Esteem
Self-Esteem
Event Control
Productivity
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The 4 Quadrants of Time Mgt
I
II
Important Not Important
III
IV
Urgent Not Urgent
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Planning Properly

• Find a place that is free of distractions
• Review the long-range goals Put Big Rocks in
  First!
• Make sure the number of tasks and time is
  achievable
• Set specific daily goals for tasks
• Anticipate obstacles
• Prioritize your tasks
• List all your tasks especially non-urgent ones!
• Give a Value to Each Item on the List (A
  important, B, C trivial)
• Give a numerical Value to Prioritize (A2, B3)
• Character is doing what you say you will do
• Character is the ability to carry out a worthy
  decision after the emotion of making that
  decision has passed

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Daily Planning Leverages Time through Increased
Focus

• Take 15 Minutes each Day to Plan
• Excuses
• I dont have time to plan
• I already know what I have to do. Why take time
  to plan?
• I have too many interruptions to plan
• I feel tied down if I have a long list of
  things to do
• I dont know how to plan properly

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5 Responsibility

• We become what we do
• Character cannot be counterfeited or put on and
  cast off like a garment
• Our rewards in life depend on the quality and
  amount of work we put into it
• Delay immediate gratification for long-term goals
• Happy people are Self-Reliant
• They feel they have control over their lives vs.
  those who believe in fate, astrology, or victims
  of the system

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6 Self Control
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The 7 Cs of Self-Control

• We Control the Clock
• We Control our Concepts
• We Control our Contacts
• We Control our Communication
• We Control our Commitments
• We Control our Causes
• We Control our Concerns
• What Concerns us Most is the Joy of Living!

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7 Adaptability

• These are The Good Old Days
• Problems are Normal in any Era
• Successful people develop Mental Toughness,
  Strength of Character and Adaptability
• Stress is a Normal Part of Life
• Many Types of Stress Its how you Take it that
  Counts

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Handling Stress
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Rules for Handling Stress

• Find your own purpose in life, that fits your own
  personal stress level
• Racehorse vs. Turtle
• Control your emotional level by recognizing
  situations as being either life-threatening or
  non-life-threatening. Respond rather than react
• The Stress Savings Account
• Collect the Goodwill and Appreciation of others
• Humor yourself into Health and Happiness

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8 Perseverance
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8 Perseverance

• Perseverance is the ability to keep working when
  things go wrong or the odds stack up against you
• Winners Work at doing things the Majority of the
  Population are Not Willing to Do
• Losers by Default rather than Defeat
• Thinking you can is only the First Step. It takes
  years of perseverance to achieve success
• Do the Tough things first and look downstream for
  gratification and rewards

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Ray Kroc on Persistence

• Press On Nothing in the world can take the place
  of persistence. Talent will not nothing is more
  common than unsuccessful individuals with talent.
  Genius will not unrewarded genius is almost a
  proverb. Education will not the world is full of
  educated derelicts. Persistence and determination
  alone are omnipotent.

Grinding it Out by Ray Kroc 1978
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9 Benevolence

• The World is your Oyster (What Pearl can you find
  today?)
• The Explorers Premise
• The Trader Principle
• The Abundance Mentality
• Think Win-Win
• Share Power and Authority
• Shares and Options
• Be Nice to People!
• Take Time for Empathetic Listening

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10 Perspective
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Greatness is Being Proactive
Self-Esteem Creative Visualization Positive
Self-Talk Time Management Responsibility Self-Cont
rol Adaptability Persistence Benevolence Perspecti
ve
WISDOM
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10 Perspective

• Greatness is Ultimately about being Proactive
• Integrated Values, Beliefs, Goals and Actions
• Balanced Living
• Being Great in All Aspects of Your Life
• Living on Someday Ill
• Greatness is a Journey, not a Destination
• You always get Out what you put In
• Sow Seeds of Greatness!