Importance of the Family

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Importance of the Family

• THE TEN COMMANDMENTS
• .. no other gods before Me
• .. no carved image
• .. honour the Lords name
• remember the Sabbath
• Honour your father and your mother
• dont murder
• dont commit adultery
• dont steal
• dont bear false witness
• dont covet

Jesus said, Love God,
Family is in the middle
love your neighbour (Mark 1230-31)
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Genesis 224
Central Therefore a man shall leave his father
and mother Relational and be joined to his
wife, Physical and they shall become one flesh.
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Central

• Therefore a man shall leave his father and
  mother
• Hub has changed

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Relational

• be joined to his wife
• joined glued
• Problems occur because we are different
• Communication
• Journalists
• Storytellers

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Communication

• Journalists
• Bottom line
• Facts
• When, what, where, how

• Story-tellers
• Processes
• Background
• Pictures
• Why

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Task 1

• Tell your spouse how you feel about the topic
  written on the top of your handout
• No interruptions
• Capsulate what has been said.
• Affirm/deny/modify
• Reverse roles

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Relational

• be joined to his wife
• joined glued
• Problems occur because we are different
• Communication

• Personality

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Personality

• Initiator / responder
• Initiators are creative, actions projects.
  Assertive, outspoken, leaders.
• Responders avoid confrontation, indecisive,
  cautious, quiet, unemotional, listen

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Who are you?
extrovert
introvert
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Personality

• 2. Introvert / extrovert
• Introverts think before they speak, few close
  friends, opt for quite night in, warm, caring,
  social interaction drains them
• Extroverts gain energy from people, enjoy team
  work, many friends, talk a lot, talking as a way
  of reasoning

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Who are you?
extrovert
introvert
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Personality

• 3. Thinker / feeler
• Thinkers see in black white. They are logical,
  cool calculated, very goals driven.
• Feelers allow their hearts to rule their heads.
  They empathize easily with others, see grey areas

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Who are you?
extrovert
introvert
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Personality

• 4. Sensors / Intuitives
• Sensors are practical. Facts, facts, facts. They
  are reality driven, focus on the now, and value
  experience
• Intuitives are innovative. They always see room
  for improvement. The future intrigues them. They
  use imagination creativity

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Who are you?
extrovert
introvert
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Genesis 224
Central Therefore a man shall leave his father
and mother Relational and be joined to his
wife,
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Physical

• become one flesh

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Things weve learnt

• Find Godly role models and spend lots of time
  with them
• Keep on dating
• Be creative
• It is better to give than to receive
• Mutual physical touch is good

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When conflict comes

• Remove the plank before the speck (Matt 73-5)
• Godly anger is ok (Eph 426)
• Minister reconciliation (2 Cor 518)
• Admit your own mistakes and move on
• Forgive and forget their mistakes and move on
• Make direct statements, not hints
• Express hurt, not hostility
• Make "I feel" statements