Why Children Need Father-Love and Mother-Love

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Why Children Need Father-Love and Mother-Love

• Much of the value mothers and fathers bring to
  their children is due to the fact that mothers
  and fathers are different.
• by Glenn T. Stanton
• http//www.family.org/socialissues/A000001142.cfm

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• To be concerned with proper child development is
  to be concerned about making sure that children
  have daily access to the different and
  complementary ways mothers and fathers parent.

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• The fathering difference is explained by
  fathering scholar Dr. Kyle Pruett of Yale Medical
  School in his book Fatherneed Why Father Care is
  as Essential as Mother Care for Your Child.
  Pruett says dads matter simply because fathers
  do not mother.
• Kyle D. Pruett, Fatherneed Why Father Care is as
  Essential as Mother Care for Your Child, (New
  York The Free Press, 2000), pp. 17-34.

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• Psychology Today explains, Fatherhood turns out
  to be a complex and unique phenomenon with huge
  consequences for the emotional and intellectual
  growth of children.
• Shuttle Diplomacy, Psychology Today,
  July/August 1993, p. 15.

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• A father, as a male parent, brings unique
  contributions to the job of parenting that a
  mother cannot. Likewise, a mother, as a female
  parent, uniquely impacts the life and development
  of her child.
• Brenda Hunter, The Power of Mother Love
  Transforming Both Mother and Child, (Colorado
  Springs Waterbrook Press, 1997).

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• Erik Erikson explained that father love and
  mother love are qualitatively different kinds of
  love. Fathers love more dangerously because
  their love is more expectant, more instrumental
  than a mothers love.

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• The following are some of the most compelling
  ways mother and father involvement make a
  positive difference in a childs life. The first
  benefit is the difference itself.

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Mothers and Fathers Parent Differently
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Mothers and Fathers Play Differently
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Fathers Push Limits Mothers Encourage Security
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Mothers and Fathers Communicate Differently
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Mothers and Fathers Discipline Differently
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Fathers and Mothers Prepare Children for Life
Differently
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Fathers Provide A Look at the World of Men
Mothers, the World of Women
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Fathers and Mothers Teach Respect for the
Opposite Sex
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Fathers Connect Children with Job Markets
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• We should disavow the notion that mommies can
  make good daddies, just as we should disavow the
  popular notion of radical feminists that daddies
  can make good mommies. The two sexes are
  different to the core, and each is necessary
  culturally and biologically for the optimal
  development of a human being.
• David Popenoe, Life Without Father Compelling
  New Evidence That Fatherhood and Marriage are
  Indispensable of the Good of Children and
  Society, (New York The Free Press, 1996), p.
  144.

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• Glenn T. Stanton is Director of Global Insights
  and Trends, and Senior Analyst for Marriage and
  Sexuality at Focus on the Family.

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