Building my Skills as an Emotionally Intelligent Clinician

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Building my Skills asan Emotionally
IntelligentClinician

• Dennis Ondrejka, Ph.D., RN, COHN-S/CM
• Associate Professor, Denver School of Nursing
• Goalquestinc_at_Comcast.net

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Objectives

• Provide an overview of the five EI domains and
  how they show up in ones life
• Address the barriers to becoming more EI in life
  and at work
• Building additional skills in each domain of EI

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Subjectives

• Develop a sense of personal awareness that lives
  in the paradox of being more EI
• Create internal values structures that will start
  to include EI in my practice
• Have an increasing belief about the value of EI
  for my patients, myself, and my family

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Domains of Emotional Intelligence

• Empathy
• Self-awareness
• Self-regulation
• Motivation
• Social Skills

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Reminder- Why EI is Important

• Rigidity and Poor Relationship building is the
  key executive failure
• Trained incapacity
• Need Intuition to be expert
• IQ accounts for 4 of real world success
• Physiological issues
• It accounts for highly successful leaders
• It is the balance for all clinicians

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Reminder- Barriers to Integrating EI

• Old Habits persist
• We live in Fear
• Low Levels of self-love
• Physiological barriers
• No integration of our SHADOW self
• Never reaching the valuing level of understand of
  EI

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Old Habits persist

• Sensory Input limitations
• We receive 2,000,000 sensory inputs / second
• We understand 10,000 /second
• We use a Reticular Activation system to control
  input
• This creates habits to save us time
• We use habitual behavior to save time
• RESULT-Less connection, less empathy, less
  self-awareness, less EI

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We live in FearA Hidden Motivation

• How are we motivated to do many things we dont
  want to do?
• How are we choosing our life to be?
• How do we see others making choices?
• Is Fear the unconscious disease on our earth?
• Is Fear the cause of wars?
• Is Fear the cause of most conflict?

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Low Levels of self-loveMotivation to
Self-Protect

• Many people develop with a painful story, or an
  imprinting of being wounded
• Studies are report 50 of women being sexually
  abused in childhood
• New estimates are starting to put 30 of men into
  the same risk group
• Divorce is reaching 63 nationally
• We have over 3 Million children being raised by
  their grandparents
• RESULT- less connection, less empathy, less self
  awareness, less social skills, more safety, more
  protection

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Physiological barriersWe are Habitually
Unconscious

• Physiological differences between men and women
• Amygdale breaks, chemical losses
• Brain research on synapses building our addicted
  paths, eliminating unused paths
• Perception is complicatedReality making is even
  more complicated
• RESULT- low level of self-awareness, normally
  blind to others perspective reducing empathy,
  motivation is from our shadow side.

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No integration of our SHADOW selfMinimal
Self-Awareness

• Theories on what part of our brains we use
• Iceberg theory
• Quantum mechanics and consciousness
• Shadow Psychology and Theory
• Integration is the key, not rejection!!!!
• Un-integrated shadow causes very serious problems
  for people
• RESULT- inauthentic people, resistance to EI
  because of fear, hiding our gold, lack of
  performance in our lives

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Never reaching the valuing level of understand
of Emotional Intelligence

• Research shows we will not change our behavior if
  we cannot integrate thingsno matter how
  valuableif we do not deeply value it.
• Our patients lose and we lose
• Brainstorm where you can chip away at our blocks,
  and barriers