Wont you be my neighbor: Friendship

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Wont you be my neighbor? Friendship
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Why do we have friends?

• social relationships among the ___ are few, are
  virtually limited to relationships between
  mothers and their offspring and brief, simple
  encounters between adult males and females (only
  in order to ..)

• Costs of Sociality

• So, broadly speaking, why do we affiliate with
  others??

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Goals of Affiliative behavior
Why do we affiliate with others?

• Two different perspectives have developed
• Global perspective
• Byrne Clore (1970)

• Domain Specific Perspective
• McAdams (1985)

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Determinants of the need for affiliation

• Individual Differences
• Different people have different reasons for
  affiliation
• High need for affiliation high
• Situational Determinants
• examples
• Need for

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Beneficial effects of Affiliation
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Defining our Experiences

• What is a Friend?
• How do you define the term?
• What characteristics does a friend possess?

• Characteristics of Friendship?

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Factors predicting Liking

• Proximity
• Familiarity

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Factors predicting Liking

• Similarity
• Birds of a feather flock together?

Balance Theory Fritz Heider (1958) Why
similarity influences attraction?
In every triad, balance
J
J
J
g
g
g
N
N
N
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Factors predicting Liking

• Attractiveness

• Reciprocity

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Making Friendships work for you
When is someone not being a friend?

• There must be rewards for your efforts
• Social exchange must be

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Typology of Social Exchange
Relationships
Exchange
Communal
Equity
Exchange
Equality