Stephen Covey's 7 Habits of Highly Effective People

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Stephen Covey's 7 Habits of Highly Effective
People

• Presented by
• Monica van der Weele

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Objectives

• to share the lessons that one may learn from this
  book
• to generate an acute awareness of the character
  ethic
• to equip my friends with a concrete road-map
  for further self-exploration of the books
  principles on a day to day basis

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Outline

• Introduction
• Paradigms, Principles, Habits Effectiveness
• Private Victory 45 min.
• BREAK
• Public Victory
• Renewal
• Discussion /Feedback 45 min.

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IntroductionThe authors motivations

• a personal experience concerning his son
• expectancy theory
• how perceptions are formed
• how they govern the way we see
• how the way we see governs the way we behave
• in-depth study of success literature over the
  past 200 years

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IntroductionThe Personality Ethic

• dominant approach in the past 50 years
• social image consciousness
• two paths
• human and public relations techniques
• positive metal attitude approach
• inspiring valid maxims
• some clearly manipulative even deceptive
  techniques

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Introduction The Character Ethic

• 150 years pre World War I
• idea that there are basic principles of effective
  living
• enduring happiness and success by integrating
  these into our basic characters
• foundational and catalytic

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Introduction Primary Secondary Greatness

• the Personality Ethic is of secondary importance
• natural systems based on the law of harvest!
• the 7 habits are basic - they are primary -
  representing the internalization of correct
  principles upon which enduring happiness and
  success are based.
• what you are shouts so loudly in my ears I
  cannot hear what you say
• - Emerson

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ParadigmsThe way we see

• commonly used to mean a model, theory,
  perception, assumption - or frame of reference
• a map - but the map is not the territory!
• Awareness of our own paradigms
• our paradigms, whether correct or incorrect, are
  the source of our attitudes and behaviors and
  determine our relationships with others

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ParadigmsParadigm Shift

• Thomas Kuhn The Structure of Scientific
  Revolutions
• instantaneous as well as gradual
• the learning curve is determined by ones basic
  character!
• Being is Seeing. Seeing is Being.

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PrinciplesThe Principle-Centered Paradigm

• the Character Ethic is based on the fundamental
  idea that there are principles that govern human
  effectiveness
• principles are natural laws that cannot be broken
• constitute the objective territory (not just
  the map)
• not esoteric, not mysterious, not religious
• self-evident and easily validated by any
  individual
• Deep within our conscience and common sense

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PrinciplesGrowth and Change

• a process a thousand mile journey begins with
  the first step
• the Personality Ethic amounts to borrowing
  strength
• Inside-Out private victories before public
  victories!
• the way we see the problem is the problem

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HabitsAn Overview

• Our character, basically, is a composite of our
  habits
• deeply rooted, often unconscious
• consistent and cohesive
• express our character
• We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then,
  is not and act, but a habit.
• - Aristotle

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HabitsDefinition

• the intersection of
• takes all 3 for a habit!
• iterative spiral seeing being

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The 7 Habits The Maturity Continuum
WE
I
Independence
7. Sharpen the saw
Private Victory
YOU
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The 7 HabitsEffectiveness
for all assets physical, financial and human
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Habit 1-BE PROACTIVEOverview

• self-awareness
• a unique human capability
• the reason why we can break our habits
• 3 social/deterministic maps
• genetic determination
• psychic determination
• environmental determination

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Habit 1-BE PROACTIVEBetween Stimulus and Response
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Habit 1-BE PROACTIVEProactivity Defined

• response-ability
• the ability to subordinate a an impulse to a
  value
• 3 central values identified by Victor Frankl

The ATTITUDINAL
The CREATIVE
The EXPERIENTIAL
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Habit 1-BE PROACTIVECircle of Concern /Circle of
Influence

• Maintaining a proactive focus

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Habit 1-BE PROACTIVEDirect, Indirect and No
Control
solved by changing our methods of influence

• The problems we face are threefold

Public Victories (habits 4,5,6)
solved by working on our habits
solved by changing the way we see...
Private Victories (habits 1,2,3)
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Habit 1-BE PROACTIVEAt the Heart of the Circle
of Influence
Our ability to make and keep commitments
promises
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Habit 2 - BEGIN WITH THE END IN MIND Overview

• the most fundamental application visualization
  of your death the graveside perspectives from
  family, friends, work colleagues and the
  community
• underlying principle all things are created
  twice - mental (1st creation) and physical (2nd
  creation)
• default verses design
• personal leadership verses Management (what and
  how)
• imagination and conscience

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Habit 2 - BEGIN WITH THE END IN MIND Highest
Leverage PC Work

• whatever is at the center of our lives will be
  the source of our

4. WISDOM
- SENSE OF WORTH - IDENTITY - EMOTIONAL ANCHORAGE
1. SECURITY
- YOUR SENSE OF BALANCE - UNDERSTANDING THE WHOLE
- SOURCE OF DIRECTION IN LIFE - INTERNAL FRAME OF
REFERENCE - STANDARDS AND PRINCIPLES
3. POWER
2. GUIDANCE
- FACULTY TO ACT - STRENGTH POTENCY TO
ACCOMPLISH SOMETHING
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Habit 2 - BEGIN WITH THE END IN MIND Alternative
Centers

• spouse centeredness
• family centeredness
• money centeredness
• work centeredness
• possessions centeredness
• pleasure centeredness
• friend/enemy centeredness
• church centeredness
• self centeredness

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Habit 2 - BEGIN WITH THE END IN MIND A Principle
Center (1)

• Security
• principles do not change (only our understanding
  of them does)
• principles do not react to anything
• principles are larger than circumstances
• Wisdom and Guidance
• principles supply the correct maps
• Personal Power
• unrestricted by the attitudes, behaviors and
  actions of others
• Only limitation the natural consequences of the
  principles themselves - a universal law.

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Habit 2 - BEGIN WITH THE END IN MIND A Principle
Center (2)

• The principle center puts all other centers into
  perspective

spouse
family
PRINCIPLES
friend/enemy
money
etc.
self
work
church
possessions
pleasure
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Habit 2 - BEGIN WITH THE END IN MIND Using a
Mission Statement

• through conscience (of our own uniqueness) we
  detect our missions in life by working within our
  circle of influence
• it will take time and should be reviewed
  regularly
• the process is as important as the product
• use your whole brain
• using imagination to visualize and affirm (right
  brain activity)
• capturing these images and plotting them (left
  roles and goals)

- personal - positive - present tense -
emotional - visualized
AFFIRMATIONS
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Habit 3 - PUT FIRST THINGS FIRSTOverview

• The practical fulfillment of habits 1 and 2
  (i.e.the 2nd creation)
• exercising independent will to become principle
  centered through day-to-day effective
  self-management
• Manage form the LEFT (versus lead from the
  RIGHT)
• a measure of the value we place on ourselves!
• ensuring that your habits are a function of your
  values - not the mood and/or circumstances of the
  moment
• management amounts to discipline in the area of
  life and time management

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Habit 3 - PUT FIRST THINGS FIRSTFour Generations
of Time Management
Notes and Checklists
Calendars and Appointment Books
prioritization
Calendars Appointment Books
Satisfaction is a function of expectations time!
1. recognition of demands
2. attempt to look ahead
3. Setting of goals and short / long term
planning
Emerging effectiveness approach (relationships
results)
current efficiency focused approach (things
time)
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Habit 3 - PUT FIRST THINGS FIRSTQuadrant II
Activities
important
I. crises pressing problems deadline driven
projects
II. prevention, PC activities relationship
building recognizing opportunities planning,
recreation
require more initiative proactivity!
not important
III. interruptions (some calls) some mails
reports some meetings popular activities
IV. Trivia, busy work some mail some phone
calls time wasters
urgent
not urgent
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Habit 3 - PUT FIRST THINGS FIRSTQuadrant I
Results
important

• I.
• stress
• burnout
• crisis management
• always putting out fires
• problem minded people
• deadline driven producers

you are overcome by waves of activity!
urgent
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Habit 3 - PUT FIRST THINGS FIRSTQuadrant III
Results
not important

• III.
• Short term focus
• crises management
• chameleon character reputation
• feel victimized and out of control
• inability to set goals and make plans
• shallow or broken relationships

you are work- in terms of other
peoples expectations and priorities!
urgent
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Habit 3 - PUT FIRST THINGS FIRSTInto the Danger
Zone
not important

• III. IV.
• total irresponsibility!
• Fired from jobs
• depend on others for basics

effective people stay out of here! urgent or
not, they arent important!
Urgent / not urgent
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Habit 3 - PUT FIRST THINGS FIRSTQuadrant II
Results
important
I.
The of effective personal management! Feeding o
pportunities starving problems! P/PC balance!

• II.
• vision, perspective
• balance
• discipline
• control
• few crises

Not urgent
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Habit 3 - PUT FIRST THINGS FIRSTLearn to Say NO

• NB you are always saying NO to something!
• Quadrants III and IV must make way for Quadrant
  II
• a center of correct principles and a focus on our
  personal mission empowers us with the wisdom to
  take these yes/no decisions effectively

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Habit 3 - PUT FIRST THINGS FIRSTMoving to
Quadrant II

• A Quadrant II Organizer Tool will meet the
  following six criteria

COHERENCE
BALANCE
PORTABILITY
QUADRANT II FOCUS
FLEXIBILITY
PEOPLE DIMENSION
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Habit 3 - PUT FIRST THINGS FIRSTBecoming a QII
Self-Manager

• Long-Term Organizing
• WEEKLY Organizing

Mission Statement
Roles
Goals
Schedule Delegate
Weekly Roles
Weekly Goals
Plans
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Habit 3 - PUT FIRST THINGS FIRSTDelegation
Increasing P PC

• we delegate to TIME (efficiency) or PEOPLE
  (effectiveness)
• temptation to delegate to time
• delegating to people empowers both parties
• Producer
• Manager

output
input
output
input
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Habit 3 - PUT FIRST THINGS FIRSTDelegation
Gofer verses Stewardship

• stewardship focuses on RESULTS rather than
  METHODS
• 5 aspects must be mutually understood

DESIRED RESULTS
GUIDELINES
CONSEQUENCES
RESOURCES
ACCOUNTABILITY
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Public Victory Introduction

• self-mastery precedes good relationships
• the emotional bank account paradigm - 6 major
  deposits
• understand the individual
• attend to little things
• keep commitments
• clarify expectations
• show personal integrity
• apologize sincerely

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Habit 4 - THINK WIN/WINOverview

• not a technique - but a total philosophy of human
  interaction
• one of six paradigms of interaction
• win / win (a better way)
• win / lose (authoritarian approach)
• lose / win (loser / peacemaker at all costs)
• lose / lose (enemy centeredness)
• win (other parties irrelevant)
• win / win or no deal

It depends...
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Habit 4 - THINK WIN/WIN5 Dimensions
(1) win/win character
(2) win/win relationships
(3) win/win agreements
Supporting systems (4) and processes (5)
the emotional bank account
Performance Partnership (focus on results not
methods)
Integrity Maturity Abundance Mentality
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Habit 5 Seek first to understandOverview

• within your circle influence
• four basic forms of communication speak, read,
  write and listen
• character and communication
• a profound paradigm shift
• emotional bank account deposits
• understanding of the center
• when you listen, you learn

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Habit 5 Seek first to understand4
Autobiographical Responses
1. we evaluate by either agreeing or disagreeing
2. we probe from our own frame of reference
3. we interpret based on our own motives and
behavior
Generally
4. we advise based on our own experiences
communication is logical/open
communication is emotional
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Habit 5 Seek first to understandAND then to be
understood

• part of win/win!!

1.
2.
3.
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Habit 6 SYNERGIZEOverview

• the whole is greater then the sum of the parts
• the relationship between the parts is significant

WE LIVE IN AN INTERDEPENDENT REALITY
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Habit 6 SYNERGIZEDefinition

• when faced with our greatest challenges
  with
• we create NEW ALTERNATIVES - something that
  wasnt there before!
• the creativity can be terrifying as the outcome
  is unsure...

4 unique human endowments self-awareness imaginat
ion conscience independent will
the true motive of WIN / WIN
skill of empathic listening
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Habit 6 SYNERGIZELevels of Communication
high
TRUST
low
high
low
COOPERATION
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Habit 6 SYNERGIZEThe Middle Way
compromise
a higher way!
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Habit 6 SYNERGIZEIntrapersonal and
interpersonal Synergy

• The essence of synergy
• is to value the differences!
• to move beyond our own
• perceptual limitations
• to increase our own awareness
• to affirm others

L
R
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Habit 6 SYNERGIZEThe Growth Change Force
Field
restraining forces
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5
6
of performance
current level
driving forces
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Habit 7 Sharpen the SawOverview

• PERSONAL PC !

Sometimes when I consider what tremendous
consequences come from little things I am
tempted to think there are no little
things. Bruce Barton
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Habit 7 Sharpen the Saw4 Dimensions of Renewal
PHYSICAL Exercise, Nutrition, Stress Management
SOCIAL / EMOTIONAL Service, Empathy, Synergy,
Intrinsic Security
MENTAL Reading, Visualizing, Planning, Writing
SPIRITUAL Value Clarification Commitment, Study
Meditation
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Conclusion