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Title: FAMILY INSTITUTION


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(In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the
Most Merciful)
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FAMILY INSTITUTION
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  • INTRODUCTION

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The Path of Human Life
Time
Ruuh
Rahim
Wujud
Barzakh
Baath
Mahsyar
Mizaan
Sirat
Naar
Jannah
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HUMAN RESPONSIBILITY
IBADAH Worship Allah Good deeds (Doing Good
things) Avoid bad things
KHALIFAH Personal Development Spouse
Development Parental Development Community
Development Society Development
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  • What is a family?

Kids
Kids
Mother
Father
Kids
Kids
Family is a specific structure that ones related
to another due to blood relation or marriage.
Kids
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The formation of Islamic Society in Islamic
Civilization
Family
Community
Pembesar
Raja
Family
Hamba
Ahli
Isteri
Rahib
Community
Family
Keluarga
Panglima
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1. The phases of pre marriage
Personal Preparation (Keinginan)
Marriage (Perkahwinan)
Identifying (Merisik)
Engagement (Pertunangan)
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2. The phases of marriage
Understanding Love Berkenalan Berkasihan
Bermesra
Survive in living Hidup bersama-sama
Conflict Resolution Menyelesaikan konflik
Parental / Social Development Pembentukan
anak-anak / sosial
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What is a marriage?
  • Marriage (nikah) is a solemn and sacred social
    contract between bride and groom.
  • - Perkahwinan (nikah) adalah kontrak sosial yang
    penting dan suci antara lelaki dan perempuan
    bukan muhrim
  • - Aqad yang menghalalkan persetubuhan di antara
    lelaki dan perempuan yang tiada hubungan mahram

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Philosophy of Marriage
  • 1. To ensure preservation of the human species
    and continuation of the human race"O mankind!
    Be careful of your duty to your Lord, Who created
    you from a single soul and from it created its
    mate and from them has spread abroad a multitude
    of men and women" (Quran 41)

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  • To provide spiritual and legal foundation of the
    family"And of His signs is this He created for
    you mates from yourself that you might find rest
    in them, and He ordained between you love and
    mercy. Lo, therein indeed are portents for folk
    who reflect". (Quran 3021)
  • Marriage provides spiritual, physical, emotional
    and psychological companionship. This
    companionship generates and sustains love,
    kindness, compassion, mutual confidence, solace
    and support. It lays a spiritual and legal
    foundation for raising a family.

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  • Marriage A Religious Requirement"Marry those
    among you who are single and (marry) your slaves,
    male and female, that are righteous" (Quran
    2432)Prophet Muhammad (S) declaredWhen the
    servant of Allah marries, he has fulfilled half
    the (responsibilities laid on him by the) faith
    so let him be God conscious with respect to the
    other half". (Mishkat)
  • 4. Islam prohibits adultery and encourages
    marriage,
  • as Prophet Muhammad (S) recommended"Whoever
    is able to marry, should marry". (Bukhari)

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Wisdom behind marriage
  • Uphold the word of the Creator marriage is
    considered His order and also act of worship
  • Development of civilization
  • Strengthen brotherhood among man
  • Inculcate the spirit of responsibility
  • Secure human dignity
  • Survival of mankind
  • Fulfilling sexual desire

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Selecting Marriage Partner
  • Prophet Muhammad (S) recommended Muslims to
    select those partners who are best in religion
    (din) and character."A woman may married for
    four reasons for her property, for her rank, for
    her beauty, and for her religion (and character).
    So marry the one who is best in the religion and
    character and prosper". (Bukhari and Muslim)

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  • Normally the criteria for selecting matrimonial
    mates are many wealth, beauty, rank, character,
    congeniality, compatibility, religion, etc.
  • The Quran enjoins Muslims to select partners who
    are good and pure

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Marriage in Jurisprudence
  • Marriage is allowed (Mubah) in normal situation.
  • Marriage is strongly recommended (Mandub), when a
    person can afford it (for men).
  • Marriage is obligatory (Fardh),
  • if a person fears he/she will commit
    unlawful acts (i.e. adultery, fornication or
    unable to lower his/her gaze) and he can afford
    marriage (for men).

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  • Marriage is reprehensible (Makruh) when
  • - a man is unable to fulfill some of his main
    duties toward his wife.
  • - does not have a strong desire for
    intercourse.
  • - there is a great possibility that they
    cannot fulfill their duties toward Allah.
  • - there is a great possibility that the
    children will not be raised as good Muslims.

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  • Marriage can be forbidden (Haram)
  • if the person knows with certainty that
    he/she will not be able to fulfill his/her
    biological or physical obligations
  • or when the man cannot fulfill his financial
    duties toward marriage
  • It is also prohibited when the woman is
    prohibited to the man for any reason

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Marriage
  • Bride
  • Groom
  • Two adult and sane witnesses
  • Wali
  • Akad (Offer and Acceptance)

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Husband Roles
  • Mahr
  • is the right of the wife on her husband. It
    must be paid in accordance with the agreement in
    the marriage contract.
  • Living and Household Expenses
  • The wife has the right to be provided all
    her living needs, including housing, clothing,
    food, etc. The husband is required to provide his
    wife and children with all of their needs.
    Household spending should be in accordance with
    the financial capacity of the husband.
  • Sabda Rasulullah s.a.w yang bermaksud
    Sesungguhnya sekali membeli pakaian anak isteri
    yang menyukakan hati mereka, maka suami akan
    mendapat pahala selama 70 tahun.

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  • 3. Kindness and Good Treatment
  • The wife has the right of kindness and good
    treatment from her husband.
  • A'ishah and Ibn Abbas reported that the
    Prophet (s.a.w.) said The best among you is that
    who is best to his family (wife), and I am the
    best of you to my family. (Ibn Majah and Ibn
    Habban).
  • 4. Protection
  • The husband must provide protection to his
    wife against anyone who threatens her chastity,
    humiliates her, or seeks to defame her.

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  • 5. Providing Sexual Satisfaction
  • The husband should make sure that he satisfies
    his wife's needs by having intercourse with her
    at intervals which suit her.

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Wife Obligation
  • "If a woman prays her five (daily prayers), fasts
    her month (i.e. Ramadan), guards her private
    parts, and obeys her husband, it will be said to
    her, Enter Paradise through whichever of the
    gates of Paradise you wish." (Sahih Al-Bukhari)

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  • Devotion and Obedience to Allah (SWT)
  • Obedience to Her Husband
  • Guards and Preserves Herself and Her Honor, in
    the Absence of Her Husband
  • Serving Her Husband.
  • Keeping the Husband's Secrets.
  • She Should Appear Before the Husband in the Best
    Appearance

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  • She Should Not Spend Any of His Wealth or Her
    Wealth Except With His Permission
  • She Should Not Permit Anyone to Enter Her
    Husband's House Except With His Permission
  • Striving to Please the Husband by Every Possible
    Means
  • Being Thankful to the Husband for the good he
    does and for his good treatment to his wife.

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Parents Roles
  • Make azan and iqamah after the child is born
  • Tahnik, aqiqah and give a good name
  • Love them
  • Educate them
  • Provide all the needs (clothes, food etc)

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Childrens Roles
  • Love their parents
  • Respect their parents
  • Obey them
  • Take care of them when they old

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  • Begitu juga seperti kata Ibnu Mas'ud r.a, saya
    telah bertanya kepada Rasulullah s.a.w., apakah
    amalan yang paling disukai ALLAH, maka jawab
    Rasulullah s.a.w., sembahyang pada waktunya,
    kemudian apa? Baginda Rasulullah menjawab,
    berbuat baik kepada ibu bapa. Saya bertanya,
    kemudian apa? Baginda menjawab berjuang
    fisabilillah.

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Something serious to think
  • My intention should be, I am looking for someone
    with whom I will build a family.
  • Marriage is a commitment and relationship that
    starts in this world and will continue Insya
    Allah in Paradise together.
  • How should I prepare myself.

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  • Thank You

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  • 5. Keeping the Husband's Secrets.
  • Particularly what occurs between him and her
    in private - with regard to sexual matters.
    Disclosing the husbands secrets will hurt him and
    anger him and this contradicts obedience to him
    and seeking to please him.

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  • 6. She Should Appear Before the Husband in the
    Best Appearance
  • Abu Hurairah (RA), narrates the Messenger Of
    Allah (SAW) was asked,
  • "Which of the women is the best?"
  • He replied, "The one who gives him (the husband)
    pleasure when he looks (at her outer beauty, or
    the inner beauty of her good character and how
    she devotes herself to obedience to Allah and
    taqwa) obeys him when he orders and does not go
    against his wishes with regard to herself or her
    wealth by doing that which he dislikes."
  • (Sahih Muslim, reported by an-Nasaaee, al-Haakim
    and Ahmad)

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  • 10. Being Thankful to the Husband for the good he
    does and for his good treatment to his wife.
  • From Ibn Abbass (RA), who said that the Prophet
    (SAW) said,
  • "I was shown the Fire and found that the majority
    of its inhabitants were women, due to
    ingratitude. It was said "Is it that they
    disbelieve in Allah?" He said They are
    ungrateful to their husbands and deny the good
    they do. If you were to treat one of them well
    always, and she then saw something (displeasing)
    from you she would say   I have never seen any
    good from you." (Reported by
    Al-Bukhari)

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Tanggungjawab Bersama
  • menjaga adab kesopanan dalam pergaulan sama ada
    perkataan atau perbuatan
  • saling hormat menghormati, cinta dan kasih sayang
    kerana Allah s.w.t.
  • menghargai pasangan
  • berlaku adil dalam perkataan dan perbuatan
  • berkomunikasi denga cara yang baik
  • berlapang dada, menerima teguran, lemah lembut
    dan pemaaf
  • bersederhana dalam semua keadaan
  • menjauhi maksiat

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  • Firman Allah di dalam al-Quran surah Isra' ayat
    23 - 24 bermaksudDan Tuhanmu telah
    memerintahkan supaya kamu jangan menyembah selain
    Dia.Dan agar kamu berbuat baik terhadap kedua
    ibu bapa kamu dengan sebaik-baiknya.Jika salah
    seorang daripadanya sampai umur lanjut dalam
    pemeliharaanmu,janganlah sekali-kali kamu
    mengatakan kepada ke-dua-duanya perkataan 'Ah!'
    danjanganlah kamu membentak mereka dan
    ucapkanlah kepada mereka dengan penuhkasih
    sayang dan ucapkanlah, Wahai Tuhanku!,
    kasihanilah mereka berduasebagaimana mereka
    berdua telah mendidik aku sejak aku kecil lagi.

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Pendidikan Sosial
  • menanam usul-usul kerohanian yang mulia
  • memelihara hak orang lain
  • melazimkan diri dengan adab sopan
  • menjaga diri dan masyarakat
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