Title: FAMILY INSTITUTION
1(In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the
Most Merciful)
2FAMILY INSTITUTION
3 4 The Path of Human Life
Time
Ruuh
Rahim
Wujud
Barzakh
Baath
Mahsyar
Mizaan
Sirat
Naar
Jannah
5 HUMAN RESPONSIBILITY
IBADAH Worship Allah Good deeds (Doing Good
things) Avoid bad things
KHALIFAH Personal Development Spouse
Development Parental Development Community
Development Society Development
6Kids
Kids
Mother
Father
Kids
Kids
Family is a specific structure that ones related
to another due to blood relation or marriage.
Kids
7The formation of Islamic Society in Islamic
Civilization
Family
Community
Pembesar
Raja
Family
Hamba
Ahli
Isteri
Rahib
Community
Family
Keluarga
Panglima
81. The phases of pre marriage
Personal Preparation (Keinginan)
Marriage (Perkahwinan)
Identifying (Merisik)
Engagement (Pertunangan)
9 2. The phases of marriage
Understanding Love Berkenalan Berkasihan
Bermesra
Survive in living Hidup bersama-sama
Conflict Resolution Menyelesaikan konflik
Parental / Social Development Pembentukan
anak-anak / sosial
10What is a marriage?
- Marriage (nikah) is a solemn and sacred social
contract between bride and groom. - - Perkahwinan (nikah) adalah kontrak sosial yang
penting dan suci antara lelaki dan perempuan
bukan muhrim - - Aqad yang menghalalkan persetubuhan di antara
lelaki dan perempuan yang tiada hubungan mahram
11Philosophy of Marriage
- 1. To ensure preservation of the human species
and continuation of the human race"O mankind!
Be careful of your duty to your Lord, Who created
you from a single soul and from it created its
mate and from them has spread abroad a multitude
of men and women" (Quran 41)
12- To provide spiritual and legal foundation of the
family"And of His signs is this He created for
you mates from yourself that you might find rest
in them, and He ordained between you love and
mercy. Lo, therein indeed are portents for folk
who reflect". (Quran 3021) - Marriage provides spiritual, physical, emotional
and psychological companionship. This
companionship generates and sustains love,
kindness, compassion, mutual confidence, solace
and support. It lays a spiritual and legal
foundation for raising a family.
13- Marriage A Religious Requirement"Marry those
among you who are single and (marry) your slaves,
male and female, that are righteous" (Quran
2432)Prophet Muhammad (S) declaredWhen the
servant of Allah marries, he has fulfilled half
the (responsibilities laid on him by the) faith
so let him be God conscious with respect to the
other half". (Mishkat) - 4. Islam prohibits adultery and encourages
marriage, - as Prophet Muhammad (S) recommended"Whoever
is able to marry, should marry". (Bukhari)
14Wisdom behind marriage
- Uphold the word of the Creator marriage is
considered His order and also act of worship - Development of civilization
- Strengthen brotherhood among man
- Inculcate the spirit of responsibility
- Secure human dignity
- Survival of mankind
- Fulfilling sexual desire
15Selecting Marriage Partner
- Prophet Muhammad (S) recommended Muslims to
select those partners who are best in religion
(din) and character."A woman may married for
four reasons for her property, for her rank, for
her beauty, and for her religion (and character).
So marry the one who is best in the religion and
character and prosper". (Bukhari and Muslim)
16- Normally the criteria for selecting matrimonial
mates are many wealth, beauty, rank, character,
congeniality, compatibility, religion, etc. - The Quran enjoins Muslims to select partners who
are good and pure
17Marriage in Jurisprudence
- Marriage is allowed (Mubah) in normal situation.
- Marriage is strongly recommended (Mandub), when a
person can afford it (for men). - Marriage is obligatory (Fardh),
- if a person fears he/she will commit
unlawful acts (i.e. adultery, fornication or
unable to lower his/her gaze) and he can afford
marriage (for men).
18- Marriage is reprehensible (Makruh) when
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- - a man is unable to fulfill some of his main
duties toward his wife. - - does not have a strong desire for
intercourse. - - there is a great possibility that they
cannot fulfill their duties toward Allah. - - there is a great possibility that the
children will not be raised as good Muslims.
19- Marriage can be forbidden (Haram)
- if the person knows with certainty that
he/she will not be able to fulfill his/her
biological or physical obligations - or when the man cannot fulfill his financial
duties toward marriage - It is also prohibited when the woman is
prohibited to the man for any reason
20Marriage
- Bride
- Groom
- Two adult and sane witnesses
- Wali
- Akad (Offer and Acceptance)
21Husband Roles
- Mahr
- is the right of the wife on her husband. It
must be paid in accordance with the agreement in
the marriage contract. - Living and Household Expenses
- The wife has the right to be provided all
her living needs, including housing, clothing,
food, etc. The husband is required to provide his
wife and children with all of their needs.
Household spending should be in accordance with
the financial capacity of the husband. - Sabda Rasulullah s.a.w yang bermaksud
Sesungguhnya sekali membeli pakaian anak isteri
yang menyukakan hati mereka, maka suami akan
mendapat pahala selama 70 tahun.
22- 3. Kindness and Good Treatment
- The wife has the right of kindness and good
treatment from her husband. - A'ishah and Ibn Abbas reported that the
Prophet (s.a.w.) said The best among you is that
who is best to his family (wife), and I am the
best of you to my family. (Ibn Majah and Ibn
Habban). - 4. Protection
- The husband must provide protection to his
wife against anyone who threatens her chastity,
humiliates her, or seeks to defame her.
23- 5. Providing Sexual Satisfaction
- The husband should make sure that he satisfies
his wife's needs by having intercourse with her
at intervals which suit her.
24Wife Obligation
- "If a woman prays her five (daily prayers), fasts
her month (i.e. Ramadan), guards her private
parts, and obeys her husband, it will be said to
her, Enter Paradise through whichever of the
gates of Paradise you wish." (Sahih Al-Bukhari)
25- Devotion and Obedience to Allah (SWT)
- Obedience to Her Husband
- Guards and Preserves Herself and Her Honor, in
the Absence of Her Husband - Serving Her Husband.
- Keeping the Husband's Secrets.
- She Should Appear Before the Husband in the Best
Appearance
26- She Should Not Spend Any of His Wealth or Her
Wealth Except With His Permission - She Should Not Permit Anyone to Enter Her
Husband's House Except With His Permission - Striving to Please the Husband by Every Possible
Means - Being Thankful to the Husband for the good he
does and for his good treatment to his wife.
27Parents Roles
- Make azan and iqamah after the child is born
- Tahnik, aqiqah and give a good name
- Love them
- Educate them
- Provide all the needs (clothes, food etc)
28Childrens Roles
- Love their parents
- Respect their parents
- Obey them
- Take care of them when they old
29- Begitu juga seperti kata Ibnu Mas'ud r.a, saya
telah bertanya kepada Rasulullah s.a.w., apakah
amalan yang paling disukai ALLAH, maka jawab
Rasulullah s.a.w., sembahyang pada waktunya,
kemudian apa? Baginda Rasulullah menjawab,
berbuat baik kepada ibu bapa. Saya bertanya,
kemudian apa? Baginda menjawab berjuang
fisabilillah.
30Something serious to think
- My intention should be, I am looking for someone
with whom I will build a family. - Marriage is a commitment and relationship that
starts in this world and will continue Insya
Allah in Paradise together. - How should I prepare myself.
31 32- 5. Keeping the Husband's Secrets.
- Particularly what occurs between him and her
in private - with regard to sexual matters.
Disclosing the husbands secrets will hurt him and
anger him and this contradicts obedience to him
and seeking to please him.
33- 6. She Should Appear Before the Husband in the
Best Appearance - Abu Hurairah (RA), narrates the Messenger Of
Allah (SAW) was asked, - "Which of the women is the best?"
- He replied, "The one who gives him (the husband)
pleasure when he looks (at her outer beauty, or
the inner beauty of her good character and how
she devotes herself to obedience to Allah and
taqwa) obeys him when he orders and does not go
against his wishes with regard to herself or her
wealth by doing that which he dislikes." - (Sahih Muslim, reported by an-Nasaaee, al-Haakim
and Ahmad)
34- 10. Being Thankful to the Husband for the good he
does and for his good treatment to his wife. - From Ibn Abbass (RA), who said that the Prophet
(SAW) said, - "I was shown the Fire and found that the majority
of its inhabitants were women, due to
ingratitude. It was said "Is it that they
disbelieve in Allah?" He said They are
ungrateful to their husbands and deny the good
they do. If you were to treat one of them well
always, and she then saw something (displeasing)
from you she would say I have never seen any
good from you." (Reported by
Al-Bukhari)
35Tanggungjawab Bersama
- menjaga adab kesopanan dalam pergaulan sama ada
perkataan atau perbuatan - saling hormat menghormati, cinta dan kasih sayang
kerana Allah s.w.t. - menghargai pasangan
- berlaku adil dalam perkataan dan perbuatan
- berkomunikasi denga cara yang baik
- berlapang dada, menerima teguran, lemah lembut
dan pemaaf - bersederhana dalam semua keadaan
- menjauhi maksiat
36- Firman Allah di dalam al-Quran surah Isra' ayat
23 - 24 bermaksudDan Tuhanmu telah
memerintahkan supaya kamu jangan menyembah selain
Dia.Dan agar kamu berbuat baik terhadap kedua
ibu bapa kamu dengan sebaik-baiknya.Jika salah
seorang daripadanya sampai umur lanjut dalam
pemeliharaanmu,janganlah sekali-kali kamu
mengatakan kepada ke-dua-duanya perkataan 'Ah!'
danjanganlah kamu membentak mereka dan
ucapkanlah kepada mereka dengan penuhkasih
sayang dan ucapkanlah, Wahai Tuhanku!,
kasihanilah mereka berduasebagaimana mereka
berdua telah mendidik aku sejak aku kecil lagi.
37Pendidikan Sosial
- menanam usul-usul kerohanian yang mulia
- memelihara hak orang lain
- melazimkan diri dengan adab sopan
- menjaga diri dan masyarakat