Personal Growth Workshop Mini Version for OD Learning Group

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Personal Growth WorkshopMini Version for OD
Learning Group

• January 18 20, 2007
• Marlboro Conference Center
• Gary L. Segal, Ph.D.

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Personal Development Workshop

• This program is an intensive personal growth
• experience for those wishing to improve their
  personal
• and professional effectiveness.
• This two and ½ day program (residential living
  required) is designed to help you
• Increase your self-awareness and interpersonal
  effectiveness
• Assess your value understanding and how it
  effects life choices
• Provide a holistic approach to personal growth
• Help you create strong, effective and specific
  developmental action plans

Not for the faint at heart!
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Context of the Program

• Modeled after an NTL Personal Growth Workshop
• ATT History
• Brought in-house for financial and teambuilding
  features
• Excellent feedback, much more worthwhile as part
  of a team vs. an individual experience
• Facilitation Tavistock, (personal,
  interpersonal, group, system) Group
  interventions
• From birth to death
• Back to the present and planning the future

One word
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Collecting the Baggage

Gunny Sack
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Jungs Theory on Human Development

• Awareness
• Public
• Modify Behavior

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I heard a woman on the beach Say to her little
girl Dont be selfish What sad advice   I would
give her better Be selfish, little girl Love
yourself well Love yourself first Then will you
love others far, far better   Not with grudging
show Nor with unfeeling ritual Or numb duty, or
self-congratulating sacrifice Or stuttering
terror of loss   Be selfish, little girl Be best
to yourself And rest assured that you will always
be Joyfully, unstintingly And if you will give to
others Give them most Help to be best To
themselves too.
Selfishness By Stanley M. Herman  
Be Selfish this workshop is solely for YOU
word End of day
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Your Life Line Where have you been?
Your Past
Your Future
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The Journey
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No one sees things as they areWe all see things
as we are

• So the basic question becomes, how do I see the
  world???

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Basic Personality Formation
Between the ages of 8 and 12, fundamental values
and beliefs are formed. These remained
fixed unless impacted by a Significant
Emotional Event

The World Events?
Homelife?
What were you like?
School?
Friends?
Family?



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What formed my Personality?

• Greatness of diversity
• Young people do get killed
• Mankind has the capacity to be incredibly cruel
• Hated feeling dirty clean freak
• Lone Ranger demeanor
• Overcome obstacles never settle

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What Formed Your Personality????

Family?
Homelife?
The World Events?
Friends?
School?
What were you like?

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Significant Emotional Event

• Hospice (separate important from trivial)
• Shaila Dulcinea (get much more than I give)

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Marigot, St. Maarten
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Peak ExperienceWhen are you All There
Maslows Peak Experience Replicate the mind-set
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Making Choices
Flip a coin NJ or CT gas station totally
different world Father and Uncle partners
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The Outcome Formula

• O E R
• O Outcome
• E Event
• R Response

Tennis US Open, Email, response to by-pass,
gymnastics
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The Fantasy Work SituationWhat can you do?
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An InventoryWhat would you like to do?
Ed White, Bell Labs, Bates College, MIT Ph.D.
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Two Self PortraitsWho are you?
Show both examples
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As You Like It All the worlds a stage And all
the men and women merely players They all have
exits and their entrances And one man in his time
plays many parts
What roles do you play??
coach
manager
teacher
grandmother
mother
sister
Husband
father
friend
lover
director
grandfather
partner
Significant Other
brother
mentor
Wife
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ConstraintsWhat holds you back?
Money?
Time?
Work?
Family?
Something else?
A slave is one who waits for someone else to
come and free him Ezra Pound
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Waiting Place and their story
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Your Support Group
Draw the 3 circles personal, professional,
social Support Group
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The DiaryWhat do you want to be doing?
Moved me
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RetrospectiveLooking back on the rest of your
life
Obit, Love Letter, Epith.
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Restatement of your life / work situationWhere
are you now?
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Objective SettingWhy do you want what you want

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Closure heading home
Letter to yourself
Pick up your baggage
Rights of All, Live over again