Refresh Yourself at the Well

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Refresh Yourself at the Well

• Pondering the Reflection
• in the Pool

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Refresh Yourself at the Well
Walking naked into the land of uncertainty!
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The Welcoming Principal?
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The School Crossing Guard
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Todays Journey

• Happiness
• Ethical Leadership
• Collective Leadership

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Part 1 Happiness
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Happiness(thesaurus.com)

• Synonymsbeatitude, blessedness, bliss, cheer,
  cheerfulness, content, contentment, delight,
  delirium, ecstasy, elation, enchantment,
  enjoyment, euphoria, exhilaration, exuberance,
  felicity, gaiety, geniality, gladness, glee, good
  humor, hilarity, joy, jubilation, laughter,
  lightheartedness, merriment, mirth, optimism,
  paradise, peace of mind, pleasure, prosperity,
  rejoicing, sanctity, seventh heaven, vivacity,
  well-being, cheeriness, delectation, good cheer,
  good spirits, hopefulness, joviality, playfulness

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Happiness

• Gratefulness is the key to a happy life that we
  hold in our hands, because if we are not
  grateful, then no matter how much we have we will
  not be happy -- because we will always want to
  have something else or something more.
• Brother David Steindl-Rast

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Happiness

• Happiness cannot be traveled to, owned, earned,
  worn or consumed. Happiness is the spiritual
  experience of living every minute with love,
  grace and gratitude.
• Denis Whaitley

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Happiness

• Happiness is having a large, loving, caring,
  close-knit family in another city.
• George Burns

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Happiness Distilled

• Smile with your eyes! (The Art of Smiling)
• Seek challenges that exactly meet or slightly
  surpass your current abilities. (How to be Happy)
• Something to hope for. (Three Keys to Finding
  Happiness)
• Do a good deed. (The Happiness Project)
• Help others get what they want. (Your Dreams and
  Desires Are Your Guiding Light to Pursue)
• Live in the heart. (The 6 Components of a Happy
  Life)

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Happiness Distilled(Continued)

• Walk around the school yard. (Tell Your Boss You
  Need Leisure Time)
• Acknowledge your successes. (100 Ways to Keep
  Yourself Always Happy)
• Success requires happiness. (Happiness at Work)
• Enjoy the simple things. (The Incredible Power
  of Contentment)
• Live in the present. (Senecas Top 10
  Fundamentals for Finding Happiness)

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Happiness Distilled(Continued)

• Forgive yourself tolerate your mistakes. (12
  Techniques to Help You Live a Happy and Fulfilled
  Life)
• Reflect on the good. (The 7 Habits of Highly
  Happy People)

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4 Levels of Happiness(Spitzer Center for Ethical
Leadership)

• Derived from material objects
• Immediate/short lived
• Requires no reflection
• Does not extend beyond the self in any meaningful
  way

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4 Levels of Happiness(Spitzer Center for Ethical
Leadership)

• Derived from personal achievement
• Short-term and tenuous
• Not inherently bad need success, self-esteem
  and respect to accomplish good
• If this level becomes ones only goal, it leads to
  self-promotion

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4 Levels of Happiness(Spitzer Center for Ethical
Leadership)

• Derived from doing good for others
• Is empathetic looks for the good in others
• Life is seen as an opportunity adventure
• People have limits so we cannot find perfect
  fulfillment in other people.

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4 Levels of Happiness(Spitzer Center for Ethical
Leadership)

• Ultimate, perfect happiness
• All desire a connection to the larger universe
  (transcendence)
• Expressed through faith, philosophy, the arts, or
  scientific efforts to solve the mysteries of life
  and the universe.

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Happinessis a break!

• http//www.youtube.com/watch?vjyYZUhSeRYc

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The Interview
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The New Drivers Ed Class
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Part 2 Ethical Leadership
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One person is no person(English poet John
Donne 1572-1631)

• Creating your personal Board of Directors
• Who are they?
• Why are they on your Board?
• What attribute did they model for you?
• How was the attribute lived?

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Four V Model of Ethical Leadership(Center for
Ethical Leadership, Bill Grace)
VALUES
VIRTUE
Renewal
Service
VOICE
VISION
Polis
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VALUES(Center for Ethical Leadership, Bill Grace)

• Service A mutually transformative encounter.
  The other serves as our teacher.
• Generosity Helps us to look beyond our
  perspective, also called social perspective
  taking.
• Compassion Service yields intimate compassion
  is the result of face-to-face and heart-to-heart
  encounters.

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VALUES(Center for Ethical Leadership, Bill Grace)

• Wisdom Movement to a deeper understanding of a
  person, ourselves, and the world the result of
  reflecting on a service experience.
• Courage Incongruous feelings and thoughts lead
  to dissonance leads to resolving the internal
  discord leads one to speak and work toward a
  preferred future

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VISION(Center for Ethical Leadership, Bill Grace)

• What ought to be.
• Vision of an ethical leader becomes a moral
  imperative infers duty and promise. The bearer
  of the vision is duty-bound to profess the vision
  with the hope that the vision will be made
  manifest.
• Visions become reality through the tasks of
  leadership.

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VISION (Center for Ethical Leadership, Bill
Grace)

• Resistance is more than stubbornness it is a
  vital boundary that keeps the system operating.
• Part of the change process, not simply something
  to overcome.

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VISION (Center for Ethical Leadership, Bill
Grace)

• Polis (Greek for city)
• Root word for politics.
• Goal of politics is to promote civic discourse.
• The city needs gracious space for discourse to
  occur.

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VISION(Developing the Leader Within You, John
Maxwell)

• The Perceptible Level What is now seen the
  eyes of reality. A leader listens on this level.
• The Probable Level What will be seen the eyes
  of discernment. A leader leads on this level.
• The Possible Level What can be seen the eyes
  of vision. A leader lives on this level.

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VOICE (Center for Ethical Leadership, Bill Grace)

• Complete set of public actions that give life to
  vision.
• The spirit of the voice makes a difference!
• Voice moves one from moral reasoning to moral
  action a moment of profound significance and
  courage.

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VOICE(Deep Change, Robert Quinn)

• The heroic journey
• Leave the world of certainty
• Takes courage
• Lot of risks and much is at stake
• A venture outside ourselves
• A surrender of our present self

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VOICE(Moral Leadership, Thomas Sergiovanni)

• Moral leadership relies on persuasion
• Root of persuasion ideas, values, substance and
  content define group purpose and core values
• You (the voice) are to be in service to others
  in the service of ideals

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VIRTUE (Center for Ethical Leadership, Bill
Grace)

• To live a virtuous life practice noble behavior.
• Ethical leadership challenges us to engage in the
  noble work of advancing the common good.
• Practice virtues
• Practice determination
• Practice wisdom and kindness

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VIRTUE (Center for Ethical Leadership, Bill
Grace)

• Practice of choosing the middle way the
  mid-point between extremes.
• Courage is the mid-point between cowardice and
  foolishness.
• Between irrational hope and despair is found
  patience.

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Integrity(Developing the Leader Within You, John
C. Maxwell)

• I will live what I teach.
• I will do what I say.
• I will be honest with others.
• I will put what is best for others ahead of what
  is best for me.
• I will be transparent and vulnerable.

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Ten Integrity Characteristics(The Integrity
Advantage, Adrian Gostick Dana Telford)

• You know little things count!
• Do not lie or cheat on the small things and, as
  a result, you are not corrupted by larger
  temptations the lure of power, prestige or
  money.
• You stick to your internal code of morality, even
  at the risk of losing your comfortable place in
  the world.

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Ten Integrity Characteristics(The Integrity
Advantage, Adrian Gostick Dana Telford)

• You find the white (when others see grey)
• You do not make tough decisions alone.
• You ask questions, receive counsel, reflect, and
  take a long-term view.
• You ensure that you never make a decision that
  would violate your internal code of integrity.

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Ten Integrity Characteristics(The Integrity
Advantage, Adrian Gostick Dana Telford)

• You mess up, you fess up!
• You realize that an integral part of leadership
  is the pursuit of integrity.
• You are open and honest, disclosing good news and
  bad.
• You share all pertinent information, not just
  that which will help make your case.
• You acknowledge failure, apologize and make
  amends.

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Ten Integrity Characteristics(The Integrity
Advantage, Adrian Gostick Dana Telford)

• You create a culture of trust!
• You help to create the right work environment,
  one that will not test the personal integrity of
  others.
• You reinforce integrity through principles,
  controls and personal example.
• You reward those who display personal integrity
  in their actions.

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Ten Integrity Characteristics(The Integrity
Advantage, Adrian Gostick Dana Telford)

• You keep your word!
• Employees dont follow leaders they dont trust.
• Employers dont hire people or promote employees
  they dont trust.
• Parents dont buy from suppliers they dont
  trust. To have the Integrity Advantage, you act
  with integrity to gain trust.

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Ten Integrity Characteristics(The Integrity
Advantage, Adrian Gostick Dana Telford)

• You care about the greater good!
• You are deeply committed to and make decisions
  that will benefit the entire organization to
  which you belong.
• You care passionately about your school,
  services, and especially your staff.
• Through your work, you gain a sense of deeper
  purpose.

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Ten Integrity Characteristics(The Integrity
Advantage, Adrian Gostick Dana Telford)

• You are honest but modest!
• You do not proclaim your virtue or your honesty.
• You allow your actions to speak louder than your
  words.

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Ten Integrity Characteristics(The Integrity
Advantage, Adrian Gostick Dana Telford)

• You act like youre being watched!
• You assume your every move is being watched.
• You ensure that your integrity is passed along to
  future generations through your example.

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Ten Integrity Characteristics(The Integrity
Advantage, Adrian Gostick Dana Telford)

• You hire integrity!
• You hire and surround yourself with straight
  arrows who have a strong sense of personal
  integrity.
• You promote those who demonstrate an ability to
  be trusted.

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Ten Integrity Characteristics(The Integrity
Advantage, Adrian Gostick Dana Telford)

• You stay the course!
• You have ethical consistency and predictability.
• Your life demonstrates wholeness and harmony
  between your values and your actions.

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Rules of Integrity(A Year of Living Consciously,
Gay Hendricks)

• Rule One Dont deny your feelings but dont
  wallow in them, either. Find an effective
  straightforward, and non-blameful way to
  communicate feelings. If youre scared or angry,
  so no big deal.
• Rule Two Tell the whole truth. Make yourself
  safe for people to tell the truth to.

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Rules of Integrity(A Year of Living Consciously,
Gay Hendricks)

• Rule Three Be selective in making commitments
  and scrupulous about keeping them. Dont break
  commitments unless no other alternatives exist,
  and then carefully communicate about the broken
  commitment to all relevant people.
• Rule Four Take responsibility for any
  enterprise in which youre involved, and ask for
  each participant to do the same.

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Everyday Ethics(Markkula Center for Applied
Ethics)

• 5 Questions A Systematic Approach
• Did I practice any virtues today?
• Did I do more good than harm today?
• Did I treat people with dignity and respect
  today?
• Was I fair and just today?
• Was my community better because I was in it? Was
  I better because I was in my community?

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Hotel Rwanda

• Leadership of Paul Rusesabagina
• Leaders attract others
• Leaders find the right words in difficult
  situations
• Leaders have emotions they know when to hide
  them and when to display them
• Leaders sacrifice!
• Leaders are rewarded!

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Mmmmtime to munch a bunch of lunch!
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Sleeping Lady Clothing Style
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Professional Development
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Must Reads for School Principals

• A Better Brain at Any Age
• The Idiots Guide to Coping with Difficult People
• Death by Meeting
• Leadership for Dummies
• Get Off Your But
• Wherever You Go There You Are
• How to be Idle

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Part 3 Collective Leadership
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Golemans Emotional Intelligence (Resonant
Leadership, Boyatzis/McKee)

• Personal Competence How we manage ourselves.
• Self-awareness
• Emotional self-awareness Reading ones own
  emotions and recognizing their impact using
  gut-sense to guide decisions
• Accurate self-assessment Knowing ones
  strengths and limits
• Self confidence Having a sense of ones
  self-worth and capabilities.

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Golemans Emotional Intelligence (Resonant
Leadership, Boyatzis/McKee)

• Self-management
• Emotional self-control Keeping distruptive
  emotions and impulses under control
• Transparency Displaying honesty, integrity and
  trustworthiness
• Adaptability Demonstrating flexibility in
  adapting to changing situations or overcoming
  obstacles
• Achievement Having the drive to improve
  performance to meet inner standards of excellence
• Initiative Being ready to act and to seize
  opportunities
• Optimism Seeing the up side in events

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Golemans Emotional Intelligence (Resonant
Leadership, Boyatzis/McKee)

• Social Competence How we manage relationships
• Social awareness
• Empathy Sensing others emotions, understanding
  their perspectives, and taking active interest in
  their concerns
• Organizational awareness Reading the currents,
  decision networks, and politics at the
  organizational level
• Service Recognizing and meeting follower,
  client, or customer needs

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Golemans Emotional Intelligence (Resonant
Leadership, Boyatzis/McKee)

• Relationship management
• Inspirational leadership Guiding and motivating
  with a compelling vision
• Influence Using a range of tactics for
  persuasion
• Developing others Bolstering others abilities
  through feedback and guidance
• Change catalyst Initiating, managing, and
  leading in a new direction
• Conflict management Resolving disagreements
• Building bonds Cultivating and maintaining a
  web of relationships
• Teamwork and collaboration Fostering
  cooperation and team building

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Community BuildingHow Trust Grows Beginning
Level(Stephen Ministries)
Risk by sharing facts about myself and
my background
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Community BuildingHow Trust Grows Growing
Level
Risk by sharing feelings, opinions, ideas
beliefs that are important to me
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Community Building How Trust Grows Mature Level
Risk by sharing deepest feelings about my hopes
dreams, fears failures
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A breakat last. I was about to go to sleep!
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School Health Room
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The Ultimate Job
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Terrys Dirty Little Secret
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Principles for People Development(Developing the
Leader Within You, John C. Maxwell)

• Value of people An issue of my attitude
• Commitment to people Issue of my time
• Integrity with people Issue of my character
• Standard for people Issue of my vision
• Influence over people Issue of my leadership

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Gandhi

• Leadership of Gandhi
• Leaders experience anguish
• A leaders presence and influence goes far and
  wide
• Leaders learn from others and experience
• A leaders power of example exceeds words
• Leaders are the moral conscience

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Collective Leadership Framework(Kellogg
Foundation)

• Build trust (Stage 1)
• Be grounded in your place
• Know the others
• Know your own story and values
• Define the work

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Collective Leadership Framework (Kellogg
Foundation)

• Develop the individual (Element C)
• Know your own story and values
• Name your passion
• Contribute your gifts
• Help develop others

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Oh, My Friend(Leading from Within,
Intrator/Scribner)

• Love makes the world of creation a possibility
• who could beautify words into majestic melodies?
• becoming a true human being is the key to
  salvation.
• If you are a person of an inner path then you are
  a person of peace.
• Ezzeddin Nasafi

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Dream!

• There are those who look at things the way they
  are, and ask whyI dream of things that never
  were, and ask why not?
• Robert F. Kennedy
• 1925-1968

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Dream the Impossible Dream
http//www.youtube.com/watch?vvd3fkCsjt4U