Some Thoughts on Parenting

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Some Thoughts on Parenting

• Jim and Hiromi Stephens

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Fundamental Essence of the UniverseDiscovered
by True Father
Parent Child Relationship

• Gods creation will bear this out in its design
  and function.

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Gods Plan for your Life
You are created in the IMAGE of GOD!
Your heart and love grow deeper and wider forever
and ever!
Man is True Father's incarnation and woman is
True Mother's incarnation. They are also
respectively representatives of God. Therefore,
when they become one in love, they are embracing
the universe. They become the central point of
the entire cosmos.
Becoming More and more just like God in
heart. Matt. 548
Wide
BOY
GIRL
BOY
GIRL
Grandchildren Great grandchildren Great-great
grandchildren
Deep
Wider and wider. Deeper and deeper.
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The Four Phases of Parenthood

• Commander
• Parent functions as the benevolent dictator,
  telling the child everything to do.
• Encourage growth from external discipline to
  self-discipline.
• A refusal to correct is a refusal to love.

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The Four Phases of Parenthood

• 2. Coach
• Encourage growth from receiving direction to
  being self-directed.
• Increasing amounts of responsibility.
• Help them to clarify their choices so they can
  make the best ones.

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The Four Phases of Parenthood

• 3. Counselor
• Parent is no longer the center of their life.
• Encouraging growth from dependence to
  independence, knowing right from wrong. Goal of
  the teen years.
• When they start seeking independence, parenting
  style needs to adjust to it and channel it in the
  right direction.
• Thats a decision you can make on your own.
  Understand the outcome and responsibility of your
  decision.

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The Four Phases of Parenthood

• 4. Consultant
• Parent is no longer actively involved.
• Parent can only hope, pray, and wait.
• Must let go. Otherwise risk resistance and
  perhaps resentment.
• Let me know if I can help.

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Saving Your Marriage Before It Starts

• Seven Questions to Ask Before and after You
  Marry.
• Drs. Les and Leslie Parrott

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Saving Your Marriage Before It Starts

• How to predict a happy marriage.
• Three decades of research.
• Healthy expectations of marriage
• A realistic concept of love
• A positive attitude and outlook toward life
• The ability to communicate their feelings
• An understanding and acceptance of their gender
  differences
• The ability to make decisions and settle
  arguments.
• A common spiritual foundation and goal

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Saving Your Marriage Before It Starts

• They lived happily ever after. a falsehood.
• Widely held and destructive myth.
• Most harmful and common myths.
• We expect exactly the same things from our
  marriage. (Unspoken rules and unconscious roles)
• Everything good in our relationship will get
  better. (You have to give up some things and even
  mourn their loss.)
• Everything bad in my life will disappear.
  (After you get married, then only thing changed
  is that your are married.)
• My spouse will make me whole. (Theres no
  finding Mr. Right that you can shop for or get
  your spouse to change into.)

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Thank You