Sexual Harassment or Flirting

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Sexual HarassmentorFlirting?
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• Sexual Harassment vs. Flirting
• Sexual Harassment is any unwanted sexual
  attention.
• Eye of
  the Beholder

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Types of Sexual Harassment

• Physical - touching
• Verbal- things said
• Visual-looks or staring

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How Sexual Bullying Makes People Feel

• Sexual Harassment
• Feels bad
• One sided
• Feel unattractive
• Degrading
• Feel powerless
• Power based
• Unwanted
• Illegal
• Invading
• Demeaning
• Sad/angry
• Negative self-esteem

• Flirting
• Feels good
• Both are happy
• Feel attractive
• Is a compliment
• In control
• Equality
• Wanted
• Legal
• Open
• Flattering
• Happy
• Positive self-esteem

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Causes of Sexual Harassment

• Social norms encourage it
• Lack of clear communication
• Sex role stereotyping
• Lack of sexual harassment policy, procedure, and
  training
• No consequences to the harasser
• The victim does not report it

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• Most Often
• POWER
• Is the reason for
• Sexual Harassment

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Why Victims Dont Report

• They blame themselves
• They feel helpless, hopeless, and/or powerless
• They dont know how to report
• Theyre afraid of the harasser or others
• Theyre embarrassed
• They dont want to get the harasser in trouble

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Things to Do and Not Do When Dealing With Sexual
Bullying

• Tell the person to STOP. Ignoring doesnt help
  and often makes it worse.
• Use I message to tell the harasser how you
  feel. Otherwise, they may not know what they are
  doing is wrong or that you dont like it.

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• Keep a personal diary of incidents, dates,
  times, and persons that witnessed the incident.
• Tell adults you trust.
• Keep any written material sent by the person
  harassing you.

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DONT

• Stop trying. Sexual harassment is illegal.
• Ignore
• Stop going to classes or activities. Its the
  schools responsibility to eliminate harassers.
• Delay
• Forget its your responsibility not to harass
  others.

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Are YOU bullying, teasing, harassing or
abusing someone?
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If you have ANY doubts, ask yourself these
question

• Am I making the person uncomfortable?
• Would I do the same things in front of a parent,
  a teacher or others I respect?

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• Would it be OK if someone did the same thing to
  my sister or brother?
• How would my family and I feel if my actions were
  reported in the local news?

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Essentials of a Healthy Relationship

• Communication
• Respect

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Indicators of a Healthy Relationship

• Boundaries
• Equality
• Communication
• Self-esteem

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Questions to Ask About Person in a Relationship

• Can you name at least 5 characteristics of this
  person that you really admire and like?

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• Is this person glad that you have other friends?

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• Does this person ask for your opinion about
  things?
• Does this person talk AND listen?

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• Does this person have good relationships with his
  or her family and friends?

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• Do you act like yourself when you are with this
  person?

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• Does this person lose his or her temper easily?
• Does this person get angry or hurt if you dont
  pay enough attention to him or her?

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Relationship with Yourself

• The relationship you have with yourself can have
  a big effect on your relationships with other
  people.

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• List
• 5 things I like about myself
• 5 things I enjoy doing
• 5 things I am good at

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Resource

• CASA (Center Against Sexual Abuse)
• 2333 N. Central Avenue
• Phoenix, AZ 85004
• 602 254 6400