Life Quest: Driving Directions for Your Life

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Life Quest Driving Directions for Your Life

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where did you come from where are you going

• Knowing where we want to go increases the
  probability that we will arrive at our
  destination
• Have a succinct statement of your overall purpose
  in life
• An effective purpose statement is your GPS. It
  tells you when you are on track and when you
  are off track.

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Life Purpose The Destination for Your Road
Trip through Life

• Write a one sentence statement
• of the purpose of your life
• Sharons Life Purpose
• to bring joy to and lessen the pain in
• others lives while enjoying my life to the
  fullest

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How is Your Car

• The Motor A Sharp Mind
• The Gas Energy to Fuel
• The Chassis Your Body
• The Oil Your Values
• The Brakes Your Self Control
• The Gas Pedal Your Determination

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The Motor

• Does Your Mind Run
• Smoothly or Gunkily ?
• Focused Conflicted
• Confident Worrier
• Positive thinker Self-defeating
• Good self-esteem Self-loathing
• Risk taker Afraid
• Creative Rigid
• Visionary Stumbler

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The Gas

• Your energy
• where does it come from (internal and external
  sources)
• how do you harness it (motivation)
• how do you use it (going forward or going
  backwards)
• how do you replenish it (positive results)
• Your goal is to preserve your time and energy
  for what you value most instead of wasting it on
  random events, soon forgotten, that have little
  to do with your true goals and intentions.
• Life Strategy Choose a "Successful
  Response" and Move On! - By Michael J. Russ

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The Chassis

• Your Body is your chassis
• Lets look at your body
• What shape is it in? What grade would it get on
  a scale of A-F?
• Do you wash and polish it on a regular basis?
• Do you keep the insides clean? Is it cluttered
  with junk?
• Do you check out nicks and scrapes or do you
  let it rust?
• How about your tires ?
• The good news is that you still have time to
  change it!

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The Oil

• Your Values lubricate your motor
• Values guide us in creating the direction of our
  lives
• Help us make critical decisions
• Function as key indicators for why we are
  frustrated, angry, out of sort or without
  integrity
• Values are intangible such as honesty,
  dependability and loyalty
• 3 Kinds of Values
• The Superficial Shoulds we believe we should
  do
• Chosen Values we select them as important to
  fulfill
• Core Values3 to 5 critically important personal
  values we hold
• A motor runs on the power to believe YOU have the
  ability to affect your own life and the lives of
  others. Take CHARGE of your motor

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The Brakes

• Why are brakes used?
• To stop the momentum
• when it would be dangerous to be moving
• Quick changes in braking upsets the chassis
• can send you in the wrong direction! 
• If you need to stop the momentum, don't slam on
  the brakes, squeeze them firmly and quickly.
• Think about the consequences of your decisions
  dont rush to tailgate, or speed up so you can
  get to the light quicker
• Go cautiously so you can be safe, reap better gas
  mileage and give your brakes a longer life!
• Smoothness is the key to driving efficiently

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The Gas Pedal

• How do you use your gas pedal?
• Heavy footed always pushing down even when you
  need to go slow
• Light touch barely moving along too cautious
• Speed up, slow down jumping around too much
• Steady maintain an even speed
• Keep things under control in the driver's seat.
• Be sure you are driving the car, don't let the
  car drive you.
• Don't get in a situation where things are
  happening too fast for you to be comfortable.
• You should be relaxed, but alert.

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• Yield when to give way be flexible As Kenny
  Rogers would say you got to know when to
  hold them and when to fold them
• Warning one way do not enter
• Stop just dont go there
• Information provides you with knowledge places
  of interest, speedy limit, historical markers
• Highway Signs are you headed in the right
  direction?

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Curves

• Unexpected turns in the road
• Always be aware of what's going on around you.
  Look up ahead, not just to the taillights of the
  car right ahead of you. 
• Anticipate what is coming up next.  Know what
  you're going to do beforehand. Don't get in a
  situation where you have to do something quickly
  from the driver's seat. You do this by paying
  attention to what the car is doing now and what
  you expect from it next. 

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Your Safety Rules

• Seat belt - back up measure to keep you safe in
  case of an accident have you created safety nets
  for yourself
• Lock your doors- how do you protect yourself
• Detours sometimes you reach a dead end and have
  to use alternative routes what are your skills
  for turning around and finding a new way
• Check your mirrors look to see where youve
  been and what is going on around you now
• Dont do too much while driving concentrate
  dont get overloaded

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Aggressive Driving

• Aggressive driving can endanger persons or
  property.
• Do you drive aggressively?
• Speeding - cant get things done fast enough
  rush through life not smelling the roses
• Improper hand or facial gestures at other drivers
  comparing yourself to others and you dont
  appreciate your accomplishments always
  lamenting what you should or could have done
• Tailgating - Not taking enough risks being too
  cautious stopping and starting
• Passing on the shoulder of the road -skirting the
  real issues concentrating on the symptoms, not
  the problem
• Running red lights and stop signs- dont care
  about the consequences of your behavior
• Cutting off another vehicle - not listening to
  our inner observations about our behavior
• Yelling, improper hand or facial gestures at
  other drivers Repeatedly honking the horn
  flashing of headlights move your agenda ahead
  of others not part of a team effort

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Driving Safely

• Anyone can become an aggressive driver. Dont let
  stress and frustration get the best of you while
  driving on your path of life
• Be patient and courteous with yourself.
• Do not try to accomplish things when angry,
  overtired, or upset.
• Allow extra time to get to your destination.
• When possible, change your schedule to avoid
  congestion keep it simple and you are more
  likely to accomplish what you want.
• Take care of yourself.
• Give yourself the benefit of the doubt - all
  drivers make mistakes.
• Handle conflict in a win-win way.
• Try new ways of driving yourself to where you
  want to go.
• Plan for the unexpected.
• Dont drive the same way all the time
• Insanity
• Doing the same thing over and over again and
• expecting different results.
  Albert Einstein

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How are you going to keep your car in good shape?

• Maintenance log
• Rotate your tires check your goals
• have you worn them down?
• do they need replacing?
• See what maps are in your glove compartment
• Does your car still suit your needs?
• Emergency road kit- what is in it?

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So how have you done so far on your road of life?

• Keep driving straight and you wont end up like
  this!