Self Esteem

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Self - Esteem

• By
• Tameara Guess, M.S.
• Counselor

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• When I look in the mirror, what do I see?

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• When other people look at me, what do they see?

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What is Self-Esteem?

• Self-Esteem is an expression of your perceptions
  about yourself and the reaction and response of
  others to you as an individual

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Two Major Components

• Self-efficacy (competence)
• Belief you can achieve what you set out to do
• Developed though experience of mastery
• success builds confidence to succeed in other
  areas
• Self-respect (worthiness)
• What you think and feel about yourself
• Self-respect likely earns respect from others

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Self-Esteem Self-Efficacy Self-Respect

• Ones appreciation of own worth and importance
• Experience of being capable of meeting lifes
  challenges and being worthy of happiness

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Self-Esteem Self-Efficacy Self-Respect

• Character to be accountable for behaviors
• Acting responsibly toward others
• Confidence in ability to
• think
• understand
• make decisions

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Self-Esteem is portrayed by..

• Our behavior.
• The dialogue we utilize.
• The tone of our voice.
• How we choose to see others. Which lenses do we
  use to see others?

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How Self-Esteem Develops

• Self-concept
• bundle of facts, opinions, beliefs, and
  perceptions about yourself that are present in
  every moment of every day
• much is unconscious, yet continues to influence
  judgments, feelings, and behaviors

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Where does Self-Concept come from?

• Self-Concept is derived from what we cannot
  change about ourselves such as race, background
  and childhood experiences

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To improve your Self-Esteem, take care of
yourself!

• Health
• Safety
• Peace
• Learn

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Health

• Do things to improve your health. Exercise, eat
  healthy, reduce stress, and relax! When you feel
  better physically, your psychological health
  improves.

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Safety

• Value yourself!
• Wear your seatbelt.
• Do not drive drunk or ride with someone who is.
• Practice risk management.
• Respect your need for safety.

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Peace

• Spend time doing things YOU like!
• Take time to pray, to meditate, to enjoy nature
  and to enjoy friends.
• Let your thoughts wander.
• Reflect on your life and your experiences.

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Learn

• Read.
• Take Classes.
• Visit with friends or significant
• others.
• Stay informed.
• Learn something new.
• INVEST IN YOURSELF!

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Avoid things like

• Negative self-talk
• Jealousy
• Learn to accept yourself and others.
• Comparisons
• Look for special qualities in yourself and
  others.
• Dont compare your worth and achievements to
  those of others.
• Dont wish the failure of others

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Avoid things like

• Hiding feelings
• Fake smiles are dishonest.
• Everyone has a right to their feelings.
• Blaming
• Work with what you have.
• Accept your mistakes.
• Dont make excuses for your refusal to change.

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Be YOU! The only person YOU can be.

• Self-fulfilling prophesy - the prophecy is
  that if others around us think we will fail at a
  task, then we are likely to fail and the prophecy
  is fulfilled.

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Characteristics of Self-Esteem

• High Self-Esteem
• Active
• Positive
• Confident
• Flexible

• Low Self-Esteem
• Passive
• Negative
• Nervous
• Rigid

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Low Self-Esteem Leads to

• Alcohol and drug abuse
• Unhappy relationships
• Unemployment
• Depression

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High Self-Esteem Results in

• Success
• Better health
• Better relationships
• Better social life
• Success on the job

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How to Build Self-Esteem

• Identify the source of low self-esteem
• Careful examination of defining moments in life
• Make list of labels others use to describe you
• Determine which ones youve internalized

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How to Build Self-Esteem

• Identify and accept your limitations
• Accept yourself for who you are now
• Dont demand perfection
• Dont dwell on the past
• Learn to dislike behaviors rather than
  self-condemnation

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How to Build Self-Esteem

• Take responsibility for your decisions
• Making decisions helps you develop confidence in
  your own judgment
• Be willing to set goals
• Accept the consequences of your decisions

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How to Build Self-Esteem

• Set goals
• People who set goals maintain high self-esteem
• Make your goals realistic.
• Picture yourself reaching the goal

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• No one can make you feel inferior without your
  permission. Eleanor Roosevelt