Purple Faze

1
(No Transcript)
2

• When Youre Worried About Friends Drinking or
  Drugging

3
This is your brain

• Photo credit Marcos Stoltzfus

4
This is your brain on drugs
5

• It cant happen HERE,
• It cant happen HERE,
• Im telling you my DEAR
• That it
• CANT
• HAPPEN
• HERE
• Whoooo could imagine...
• -Frank Zappa

6
What to expect today

• Validation clarification if youre concerned.
• How you might be of help when to get help.
• How to take care of yourself in relationships.
• How you might be transformative with your energy.

7
What, me worry?

• Its normal to be concerned when friends
  misuse/abuse alcohol or drugs.
• When people face major consequences and dont
  change, we worry theyll get hurt or hurt others.

8
Whats Safe Use?

• Youre not suffering or experiencing any pattern
  of negative consequences as a result of your use.
• No one else is at risk of harm or suffering as a
  result of your use.
• Accepting consequences and learning quickly from
  any that might occur.

9
From a sample of 68,000 undergraduate students at
133 colleges in the US.
10
More specifically
11
The Big Disconnection

• Alcoholism was considered a top health priority
  by only 4 and 6 of surveyed physicians and the
  general public.
• 74 of the general public who were surveyed
  indicated that (in some way) alcoholism affected
  their daily lives.
• 41 of the public reported having encouraged a
  loved one to seek help for an alcohol problem.

Survey of 1000 adults older than 20 years of
age, 300 physicians, and 503 people in recovery.
Survey by Peter D. Hart Research Associates in
August 2005 for the Community Anti-Drug
Coalitions of America (CADCA).
12
Stigma as a barrier to seeking and Receiving
Treatment
CADCA survey 2005
13
When to be concerned

• Grades friendships are suffering.
• Disregard for physical, financial legal
  consequences.
• Avoidant, secretive, or sudden change in behavior
  and/or personality.
• Increased irritability and frequent arguing.
• Avoiding responsibility/challenges.

14
When to be concernedfor yourself

• Your grades and friendships are suffering as a
  result of 1) trying to rescue them and 2) time
  spent worrying about them.
• You feel hopeless and depressed.
• You argue frequently about your efforts with
  others who dont seem to care.
• You think youre the only one who can help.

15
Know your limits

• Only you are responsible for what you think, feel
  do.
• When you feel out-of-control, know you still have
  control over what you do, not what others do.
• Respect your feelings. Explore how you might be
  grieving the loss of what you wanted in the
  friendship.

16
The Relationship Game
Rescuer
Victim
Perpetrator
Based upon Transactional Analysis Drama Triangle
17
What can I do?

• Talk
• Listen
• Care
• Share
• Get Active

18
Speak Gently

• Tell the person(s) what you genuinely like about
  them.
• Tell the person(s) what you dont like about
  their behavior.
• Be respectful and non-judgmental.
• Own your thoughts and feelings, dont speak for
  others.

19
Listen Deeply

• Pay attention to what they say repeat in your
  own words what you thought you heard them say and
  how they felt. Do it repeatedly without judgment.
• Ask questions if youre confused.
• Avoid offering advice or giving answers ask
  what they might do.

20
Care

• Offer to support them in cutting back or
  stopping.
• Pay attention to them and let them know what you
  see.
• Spend time with them when theyre clean and
  sober.
• Respect yourself enough to set limits for what
  youre willing to do.

21
Share

• Your time when they ask for help know your
  limits.
• Your information about resources and how to get
  help.
• How you feel about them getting help and/or
  getting clean and sober.

22
Ive tried, but they wont change

• When someone decides to change, it is the result
  of many influences, not yours alone.
• Abuse and dependence have their rewards and
  benefits - thats why some people continue.
• Sometimes, the consequences of use/abuse can be
  devastating to watch.
• Find support for yourself share your grief with
  others you are not responsible for their
  continued use.
• If you are a person of faith, consider asking for
  prayer and assistance from your spiritual
  community.

23
Get Active!

• Do something for the greater good of the
  community.
• Explore volunteer groups like SADD (Students
  Against Destructive Decisions), MADD, or Victim
  Services.
• Host alcohol/drug free social activities.
• Explore Stewardship the environmental,
  political, socioeconomic, and cultural cost of
  alcohol and drug production.

24
Stuff to Remember

• Some people drink and drug safely (legally or
  not).
• Substance abuse/dependence might occur in you or
  people you know.
• Develop practice keeping limits for your own
  behavior. Know your Yes and No.
• Be inclusive and supportive while keeping your
  limits - thats love in action and reduces
  stigma.
• Help is available - you dont have to be a hero
  to be of help.

25
An old story about help

• If you see people drowning in a dangerous river,
  you can do nothing or you could
• Jump in and save them as theyre going down for
  the last time.
• Go upstream to try and stop them as theyre
  jumping in.
• Work in programs to teach them how to swim safely
  and when not to jump in.
• Make the river safer for swimming.
• Where do you want to put your time and energy?

26
Where to get help

• Health Counseling - x7474
• Campus Ministries x7542
• Your RL, RA, RD, or Faculty/Staff
• National Clearinghouse for Alcohol Drug
  Information www.health.org
• National Counsel on Alcoholism and Drug
  Dependence www.ncadd.org
• Oaklawn 533-1234
• Center for Behavioral Medicine 523-3347
• Center for Problem Resolution 533-0664
• Bowen Center 1-800-342-5652

27
(No Transcript)