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Title: Build a Positive Relationship with Your Child


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Build a Positive Relationship with Your Child
  • JUNYUAN SECONDARY SCHOOL Meet-The Parent Session
  • 6 March 2008

2
Adolescent TransitionsSetting the Stage
  • Biological changes associated with puberty
  • Cognitive changes
  • Identity and identity experimentation
  • Autonomy, independence, and self-reliant
  • Social Transitions
  • Parent-Child relationship (conflict, intimacy)
  • Increase importance of Friendships

3
Parent and Youth Stress
  • Arguments and conflicts - homework, curfew,
    rules, friends.
  • Requests for even more - independence.
  • Exaggerating issues of fairness
  • Feelings of loss - teens separate from family
    Effect is
  • Challenges to parental authority
  • BUT
  • Teenagers value the "open line" even though they
    will not always make use of it.

4
Ways to Build a Positive Relationship with your
child
  • Promote Positive Communication
  • Talk with your child
  • Listen and value what they have to say
  • Encourage them to discuss problems - large and
    small
  • Show positive regard
  • Set aside time each day to have a conversation
    with your child

5
Do I Talk TO my Teen?
  • Parents who talk to teens are often
  • Reminding, threatening, blaming, questioning,
    ordering or judging.
  • This style is used to pressure teens into doing
    something parents want them to do.
  • Effect is decreased communication.
  • How does it feel to be constantly threatened,
    criticized or lectured at?

6
Do I Talk WITH my Teen?
  • Parents who talk with teenagers listen.
  • Listening to what teens are thinking, feeling or
    wanting to do.
  • Understand and accept teens' points of view.
  • Respect freedom to express views or share
    feelings and concerns.
  • Parent teen relationship is often highly
    emotional and always evolving.
  • Both parents and teens want to be heard,
    understood and accepted.

7
How to Talk with your Teen
  • Be genuine
  • Convey warmth and openness
  • Allow differing views points
  • Listen carefully and make an effort to understand
    the teen's perspective
  • Empathize remember how it felt like being a teen

8
Still Talking
  • Use "I" statements.
  • Use specific statements when giving feedback.
  • Clarity is important. Avoid Vague statements.
  • Work together and be supportive.
  • Look for common ground.
  • Be brief and avoid lecturing.
  • The 30 second gauge.

9
Deadly Seven Vs Connecting Seven
  • Criticizing
  • Blaming
  • Complaining
  • Nagging
  • Punishing
  • Threatening
  • Rewarding to control
  • Caring
  • Trusting
  • Listening
  • Supporting
  • Negotiating
  • Befriending
  • Encouraging

10
Ways to Build a Positive Relationship with your
child
  • Show and speak your love remember the five
    languages of love
  • Build healthy self esteem recognise the
    positives in your child and help them grow their
    strengths
  • Promote positive attitude and values
  • Know your childs friends
  • Teach your child to manage his or her free time
    fruitfully

11
Ways to Build a Positive Relationship with your
child
  • Set Boundaries
  • Be firm, fair and consistent
  • Set realistic limits
  • Clarify acceptable and unacceptable behaviors
  • Discuss with child consequences for unacceptable
    behavior
  • Monitor behavior and enforce consequences

12
Restorative Practices
OWNERSHIP OF BEHAVIOUR
  • Basic Principles
  • - Show students what they have done
  • - Give students ownership of the problem
  • - Give students opportunity to fix the
    problem
  • - Leave dignity intact
  • - Allow restoration through restitution,
  • resolution and reconciliation.

13
Restorative Practices
  • What were you thinking when .
  • What have you thought since we started
  • Did you do the right thing or the wrong thing?
  • Who has been affected by what you did?
  • How can you fix it for all those who are
    affected?
  • How can I help you?

14
Creating Time Together
  • Driving
  • Talks have to be meaningful
  • Asking the right questions
  • What doing, enjoyment, who with, plans
  • Go to where he/she is
  • Stopping by her/his room
  • Plan an outing together
  • Talk daily
  • Write notes
  • Use humor
  • Praise daily

15
Remember!!!!!
  • Parents are important.
  • Parents will always be their child's first and
    foremost teacher.
  • Parents provide support and structure to the
    lives of their teens.
  • The more you listen to your teen, the more he or
    she will listen to you.

16
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