Building SelfConfidence in your Child

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Building Self-Confidence in your Child

• Tucson Unified Title1 Family Support

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What is Self-Confidence?

• Self-confidence is a collection of positive
  beliefs and feelings that your child has about
  him or herself.

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What is Included in Self-Confidence

• Beliefs that he has valuable, unique
  characteristics
• Expectations that she will be accepted and
  appreciated by others
• Optimistic feelings about her own abilities

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Why is Self-Confidence Important?

• Provides children with protection (armor) to face
  lifes challenges.
• Gives children the self-assurance to try new
  things.
• Ability to keep trying in the face of obstacles.
• Skills to interact well with others.
• Ability to deal with unexpected difficulties.

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Most Importantly!!!

• The Ability to Effectively Manage Their Own
  Behavior!

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Strong Self-Confidence

• Supports your childs ability to handle
  everything from dealing with a school-yard bully
  to not getting their way at playtime to refusing
  illegal drugs.
• (Dr. Liza Bonin, clinical psychologist for Texas
  Childrens Hospitals Learning Support Center)

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17 good things to say to your kids

• Im proud of you.
• You really worked hard. (Be specific)
• We all make mistakes.
• Thats all right.
• Thanks for helping.
• I think you can be trusted to handle this!

• Super work!
• Youre right.
• I love you.
• Great try.
• How thoughtful.
• You figured that out.
• I have faith in you.
• You brighten my day!
• Outstanding!
• Thanks for being honest.

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How to Build Self-Confidence in Your Child

• Give children the value they deserve
• A. Accept the person that they are.
• B. Whatever the children has done right, we
  shall provide them with great compliments and
  celebration as an encouragement to continue their
  successes.

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How to Build Self-Confidence in Your Child

• Discipline your child when they are wrong
• A. Implementing discipline helps children
  choose appropriate behaviors and develop
  self-control.
• 1. Discipline provides structure and limits.
• 2. Discipline provides children with the skills
  to self-regulate their behavior and feel
  competent in social situations.

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How to Build Self-Confidence in Your Child

• B. When your child has done something
  inappropriate
• 1. Give advice without yelling
• 2. Remind your child that they are in the
  process of learning, and that every mistake they
  make will create a value for learning a new
  thing.

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How to Build Self-Confidence in Your Child

• Let Children Be Independent
• A. Patience is Key!
• 1. Remember it may take the child longer and
  it may be messy.

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How to Build Self-Confidence in Your Child

• B. Give your Child the Time and Space they Need
• 1. Let your child learn from their mistakes.
• 2. Provide them with help if they need it.
• 3. Be proud if they have achieved their goal

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Questions?
Contact Priscilla McCraney TUSD Title 1 Family
Support 520-225-3290